Did you think about them all the time?
What ended up happening??
2006-11-01 13:00:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. When you end up loving two people it can be very messy. Jealousy can be a bad factor between them and once you are in love with someone else it's very hard to just stop loving them or to forget about them. This makes the first relationship ( the marriage) very unstable as each party becomes unsure about their status with the other person.
I still think about that someone else but I had to make the choice between the two about who I was going to show my love for, and put all my energy into that relationship. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. But by doing so I chose my marriage over the "crush" and we are now stronger for it.
We are human and we make mistakes. It takes a very good and strong person to forgive each other and be able to work harder to salvage a marriage after someone else has been involved with one of the parties in a marriage.
good luck with your dilemna
2006-11-01 13:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by immortalsabby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes married people do have big crushes on someone else, but every person is different. I have been there and done that so I know from experience.
I still talk to them when I see them in a store, on the street, and sometimes I have even called. Is it right??? Maybe not really.
If a person has never been there and done that, then they cannot really answer you question honestly.
Believe me.
2006-11-01 13:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course. Goes without saying. We are married, not dead!
If you value your marriage, you'll need to set firm boundaries with the other person---such as, don't be alone with them, don't lead them on by flirting too much, try to avoid even a casual touch like a handshake with them. It will be hard, and at times you will be sad, but we all go through it. Good luck, you'll get through this crush and back to normal before long, and you'll be so thankful then that you didn't destroy your marriage or your children's security!
2006-11-01 15:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by ragged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I had a crush on someone and I thought of him all the time..But I've never cheated on my husband. So I enjoyed flirting when ever I ran into him. And enjoyed feeling young again, and enjoyed being flattered by him and then he got married. I was crushed and happy for him, although I haven't gotten to see him again.
2006-11-01 13:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by magooiam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got been married two times until now, so i do no longer care if i do no longer marry lower back, yet I won't say that I "won't" marry lower back...it is not a precedence in any respect, yet i might % to have somebody to share my life with... i've got been single for an prolonged time now (the extra desirable area of the previous 11 yrs) so i'm comfortable with it in basic terms being me, if this is how something of my life is going...I relatively have friends and family members and hobbies, so it relatively is by no skill uninteresting (yet now and lower back it gets lonely)...
2016-11-26 22:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and i cheated once, I dream about them sometimes. I know they are not a good person to be with. I fight feelings sometimes. I don't know why. My husband knows this, well not that i dream about them but that i cheated. I wonder how many married people do have feelings for others but won't admit it. I may just be really complicated and selfish i don't know
2006-11-01 16:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by mistiful2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The only crush I experience is the crush with my husband. :) We have a terrific marriage and I wouldn't think or dream or anyone else! He's my best friend as well as the love of my life.
2006-11-01 13:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by Annie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ends up happening is that you have a choice - you can act on those feelings or choose to ignore them which is tough, but can be done. What happens lies on the choices that you make. You choose according to what is more important to you. Think about the consequences and then make your decision.
2006-11-01 13:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This brings back bad memories but I feel I should share it with you. I had a major crush on her mother. She was 40 years older than I was, but by the time I finally got drunk enough to confess, she was already dead in her sleep.
2006-11-01 13:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by Opensesame 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Had a crush? many times.
What'd I do? Nothing.
It's a crush. Means nothing. It's a fantasy in your head. It's not real. It will never live up to the fantasy.
2006-11-01 13:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋