i lost my job yesterday because the owner said that i was not a good fit for it, and there is really no place for me there, my fiance is blaming me and is being rude and even hostile towards me, i have sent my resume to as many jobs as possible today, and i told him this, but he is still mean to me. i cannot stand it anymore, pleae give me some advice. he should be more supportive and not so mean . seems like he should try to comfort me alittle (i'd settle for just a samll amount !)
2006-11-01 14:13:40 · 10 answers · asked by alc60156 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your fiance is being selfish. he doesn't want to be stuck paying the bills.
2006-11-01 14:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you see the big, red flag? It's waving right in your face. If you haven't married this guy yet, DON'T! He will not change. If he's not supporting you at a time like this, chances are it will only get worse. Marriage doesn't change anything for the better, in most cases, so if you're thinking that once the rings go on, that he'll straighten up, you're fooling yourself. Tell him how he's making you feel, be honest with him and explain that right now you really need support. If not financially, then at least emotionally. If he's not willing to give you at least a hug or a kind word, he's not worth the time and trouble you've already spent on him. And men are like jobs...there is more than one out there. It may take you a little while to find either one, but once you find the right one, with the "right fit" you'll know it and be much better off. Good luck!
2006-11-01 14:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by slowfreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's already in a non-supportive mode toward you it's only going to get worse after you are married. Little issues become BIG ISSUES after the "I do's." Don't know why but it's just a fact of life. I would seriously reconsider making a commitment to someone for the rest of my life if he's already proving he's not going to do well in the "for better or for worse, for richer or poorer" category. It sounds like your fiance is either extremely immature and selfish or uncaring and materialistic. Maybe all of the above. Whichever is the case none of those are good personality traits. Think long and hard before you make a lifelong commitment to this guy. Maybe loosing the job happened for a good reason. Maybe God was trying to show you this guy isn't the right one for you.
God bless you! I hope you find a great job soon!
2006-11-01 14:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your finace may have some stress going on in his life that maybe you don't know about. I do have to say that he should be more comforting. Is this the man you really want to marry?? I mean- if he reacts to you loosing your job like this- how will he react if something bigger happens? You need a person who is there for you and will support you emotionally. I hope you look at him in a new light now- maybe it's God's way of showing you what you could be getting into. Good luck!
2006-11-01 14:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry something will open for you. The job just wasn't meant to be.
I would ditch the guy because if he is acting like this when you are facing a serious situation he will not be there for other situations. You could have harder things to face that you will need someone by your side.
He may even start blaming you when things go wrong.
There are plenty of other nice guys out there who are very kind. You are deserving of something better
2006-11-01 14:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by greatnewsbearer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be more supportive, and feel bad for u instead of being so critical, if he is like this prior to marriage, what will it be like after. perhaps u should reconsider marriage until u talk it out with him, be upfront with your feeling's don't passively sit and feel hurt, confront him, and if u still are met with the same kind of attitude with him, don't marry him.if u expect marriage to change him, you are mistaken. they only seem to get worse after marriage if this is who they are anyway. define what u want in a marriage, and than u will be able to make a logical decision.
2006-11-01 14:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. keep sending out the resumes and in meantime go file for umemployment.
2006-11-01 16:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Iamamom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of time to figure your life out. Sorry but you don't need someone like that. Your a good person, chin up!
2006-11-01 14:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him, why would you want to marry someone who is going to make you depressed....just think of this, everytime you do something "wrong", you will be blamed and treated like crap....you dont need that you should find someone who will support you in anything you do....
2006-11-01 14:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by taceysay02@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't offer support for something this minor, he's not someone you should be around when it get's bad.
2006-11-01 14:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by vtdupre 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋