Remarry my exhusband or not? We were married 23 yrs. and have 3 kids. Will things really change? Can they?

Answer 1

If you were married to him for 23 years then you know him better than anybody. Only you know if he's capable of changing.

Answer 2

Generally, your ex is an ex for a reason. I don't know enough about your specific situation to give you a very specific answer, but I can tell you this: you can't change anyone but yourself. If your husband has changed, it will only be because he wanted to, not because you wanted him to or maybe not even if you had anything to do with it. You may want to try a trial situation before remarriage to see how things really are between you two now. That would probably shed more light on whether or not he has changed for the better, or at all. Good luck!

Answer 3

I know some couples that have remarried each other 3 different times and they are still together or go out together.
Yes, things can change between you, but both of you will have to work at it, one person can not do it alone.
I have seen it, and know some people that have done it. Some of them are good friends of mine.
I know you are going to get different answers on this, but I wish you and him the best.
Neither one of you can bring up the past when you get mad at each other. You have to begin with a fresh start.

Answer 4

do you have any basis for thinking things have changed between the two of you?? I believe ppl do change as we get older. So are you able to work out what you couldn't before?? if yes then I say give it a go but if you have any doubts at all don't put your kids through that again.

Answer 5

seriously u spend 23 yrs with this man n u r here now askin us who have no info on him or u to tell u if it will change ...how the hell would we know. u tell us. 23 yrs why do ppl divorce after that long. what was so damn bad that u split after 23 yrs. money? kids? lil stuff? see those things should never be faught about. cheating? ya fight ova that one.

Answer 6

It's not a question of can they change, of course they can change, but only if he makes the changes.

Have you seen positive changes in the last three years? I would suggest a trial period of living together. Hell if the teeny boppers can do it so can you with 23 years of marriage.

Answer 7

Why did you divorce him in the first place? And how long have you been divorced? That's where I would start. Those two answers would heavily influence whether or not I even gave any thought to getting back together with him.

Answer 8

please don't even begin to think that it will work, you both have crossed that bridge, and now you are beginning to think maybe we can make this work.
I mean not to hurt anyone with my words but I have promised myself that I will always be truthful to myself and to the person that ask the question.
So back to where you are, ..what makes you even think that now it's going to be better,
Have you both forgotten how hard it was before...?
It's been tried before by many other broken marriages, and some have lasted less than one year.
Become good friends, even become lovers once again.. but do not get remarried.
just something to think about, but ask yourself why...?
and what is it going to add to already your love affair

good luck to both of you, and God Bless you both.

Candyman

Answer 9

remarrying an ex is like this; get up one morning,go to the fridge to get a drink of milk,but the milk is soured,put it back and try it again tommorrow,,,see if its still soured,,,lol you might get lucky,,,someone might have throwed out the bad and replaced it with a good one,,,good luck whatever you decide,,message me if you need someone to talk to

Answer 10

you sound like my coworker, he's on his third marriage to his first wife (huh), anyway the third time must be a charm.
The kids are grown and gone now he says they are happier then ever before...go figure.
So if you don't get it right this time, at least you'll get one more try at it, LOL