my fiance is not only blaming me for losing my job, but bringing up things that happeded 4 years ago and throwing it all back in my face again, i want out of here so bad , but have nowhere to go, i am so hurt right now i need help, the furnace just started acting up and he is slamming doors and yelling alot, i am 34 eyars old, and not a clue what to do or how to do it.
2006-11-01 14:30:46 · 11 answers · asked by alc60156 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
fiancee?? 4 years? Hmm. blaming. Hmmm. throwing, slamming, yelling.... Not good. He needs to learn how to manage his anger. If you don't leave, then this may very well escalate into another domestic violence statistic. Go explain your situation to the battered women's shelter. They will appropriately advise you. It's hard for you to see and understand that YOU DO have options. Go tomorrow and find out what they are before you get physically hurt. I know the emotional part is bad enough.... So go tomorrow.
2006-11-01 14:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by TN Seeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to vent. You probably should call someone you are close with and talk it over. You are sensitive and upset, and in need of support and encouragement.
He sounds frustrated. Maybe you are having financial problems in the house, and you losing your job put a little more pressure on him. So........just be patient with him, and yourself. It will get better. This is the truth.
Give yourself some praise for getting out there and trying to get something better, and getting those resumes around. He is probably scared and unsure and insecure about what the future will hold with him being the only bread winner right now.
Give him some space, and you get some too. He will settle down. And you will feel better. Right now emotions are just very high. Tomorrow will hopefully be a brighter day, and your moods will reflect it. Good luck to you, job hunting, and in your relationship as well.
2006-11-01 14:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya Ya leave people say. If you really wanted to leave you would. You have been with him for four years and I am sure this is not the first time he has thrown a fit. Does he work or are you supporting him? Is there a womens shelter in your town? If so, go there - get on your own two feet, get some councelling and move on. No womans shelter then make a plan, get a place of your own and move out. Churches and Salvation Army have many donated items that you can get to help to set up your own apartment. No woman deserves to be treated poorly by a man (or anyone else).
2006-11-01 14:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay things will not get better, they usually get worse with each passing year. I am glad you have found the courage to leave.
Try crashing at a friends house or try a womans shelter. You will find another job and a place to live. It may take time but you willl. I know you are scared but don't be there is plenty of help out there for you.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-11-01 14:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I raised a son, and a daughter, so I believe I can supply you well recommend. First of all, should you like this lady, speak in your mom and dad and notice if a party with all of you'll be organized. That might be useful, considering the fact that then the women mom might get a risk to look what atmosphere you reside in, plus, there might be a risk for each mom and dad(the woman's and yours)to speak. It could be very mostly that mom and dad have no idea whom their youngsters manage that motives them to be strict on their possess youngsters. Next, set an instance. You are each 14 years historic and this can be a mom and dad' obligation and accountability to make upstanding citizen out of our kids. So abide through the principles--do your whole homework and research for tuition. That will galvanize the opposite mom and dad as good. We mother's don't desire our women so far a man who does no longer desire to get forward in lifestyles and who thinks tuition isn't for him. As a guardian we do just like the well men. Lastly, make a manage your self that you'll wait. Get to grasp the woman, attempt to get permission to take her to a film or different amusing occasion in which you received the permission of each mom and dad after which make certain you stick with the time you're intended to convey her again. Again, we mothers love the well and riskless man. If you get your risk and do all that, then you definately real have a risk. The relaxation will fall robotically in situation so long as you do not take a look at to hurry matters.
2016-09-01 05:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from the immature jerk!!! Go to a woman's shelter. Seek out relatives to help you until you can stand on your own two feet. It's too late for the " type of guy you should select before getting it on in a relationship", advice. But; you have to watch where you "park you car", in the future. You are 34 years old and have a lot of life left in you ... so move on and go forward !!!
2006-11-01 14:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes courage to walk away. You will find some better place to live right now you live only in tension if you remove tension you will be a new person. Do not worry you can do many things to live on your own
2006-11-01 14:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself together, get some help from friends and/or family, and get an idependent life...it's about time you stood on your own two feet...I think you'll find it's a pretty kewl experience!
Good luck!
2006-11-01 14:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does ur fiance work?? If not, he is the meak and insecure type - so basically he is nervous of the situation - no job.... urs as well...
2006-11-01 14:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sid Has 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out
2006-11-01 14:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by valveman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋