To the many who answered the previous question, thankyou. To clarify I never cheated on my wife (which is what some thought). I was one of those people who had to win nomatter what the cost or even if i was wrong. If i didnt agree with her I'd ignore it and do it my way. It wasn't always like this and we had some great times in our 3 and a half year marriage. She has left and despite all the hurt I've caused she still loves me. I am following afew programs to better myself, for me and, god willing for her. I would love her back in my life but i realise that this may not happen and it honestly kills me. She admitts that moving out will financially cripple both of us but because i will receive childcare payments, and get subsidised rent, she will be worse off. Just because I am trying to help her work out the money doesnt mean Im using that to make her come back. That has and always will be her choice. I just want some advice on how i can show her that I'm changing for the better.
2006-11-01 13:05:57 · 4 answers · asked by changedmanwanting 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Other than was I suggested for your previous question, the only other thing you can do is give her time. You're doing the right thing now; from a practical standpoint, ask her if she can hang in there long enough to get her feet on the ground so she doesn't hurt herself financially. You've already said it's not about you, but her.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
2006-11-01 13:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words, and time heals. It will take some time, but you have to SHOW her you've changed, not just say it. Pretend it is like meeting her for the first time. You have to date her, woo her, love her. BE the changed man you say you are.
Good luck! I truly hope the best for you! :)
2006-11-01 21:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by Annie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you killed her love for you spiritually....it might just be over for her and just use that as a lesson learned. If by slim chance after time passes and her wounds heal and she's still available....and time has passed and she has recognized your newfound kindness through your actions, perhaps there's a chance. Sorry, you didnt act sooner. Good luck. Peace.
2006-11-01 21:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her to one of your meetings where you're getting help so she can be witness to the therapy you're allowing yourself to get. If she sees herself that your progressing into a better person, she may feel some positivity in her life.
Also, allow her to do as she pleases, don't control her... and be patient.
2006-11-01 21:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋