I am married since 8 years and very content with my marriage.
However before my marriage, I was in love with a girl for 3 years.
It was pure love and we never had any sexual relationship.
I could not marry the girl I loved due to family pressure. I conveyed the same to that girl and she (though unwillingly) let me go with my parents decission.
We split by exchanging all our letters and gifts.
However till this day she is not married and decided to remain single.
This is causing me a lot of guilt and emotional trauma.
Please tell me what to do?.
2006-11-01 16:59:43 · 9 answers · asked by Dog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her issues are not your concern anymore. U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else. Concentrate on your marriage instead.
2006-11-01 17:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad as this is, she has her own life to live. She can find someone else or stay where she is at in her life. You can't help her by placing guilt on yourself. I once had a girl I thought was the one, then she broke up with me. I though that I was going to die,or should. In time all was starting to heal and I met another person that was so special that I am glad for the break up but not the pain. Life goes on. So it will with her. Let her choose the path of life she will walk, without your guilt. Concentrate on your life and make that better.
2006-11-02 01:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by freesample1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to know that someone cares.. it really does.
I felt like as if I needed that extra guidence to move on.. which I truly haven't yet.. that it has been too hard for me.. perhaps she needs that extra guidence to move on..my last relationship hurt me severly, and all I wanted was to know that thing's didn't go so bad, and that he still cared, and it would of meant the world to me, and instead it backfired.
It will take time to move on.. some, need more time than others.
A good guy is hard to find..perhaps she thought you were a good guy.
If it's causing you alot of guilt and trauma.. confront it.. it'll be the only way you'll be able to get over it..and her as well.. let her know how you feel about it.
Don't bottle it up, if it's bothering you that much..then figure a way to settle it out.. by talking with her, and let her know it's bothering you. Goodluck with it.. and I hope it goes okay!
2006-11-02 01:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you married in your vows it says to FORSAKE ALL OTHERS!!!!!!!! so do so. Whats happened in her life is her problem not yours. How would you feel if your wife was on a guilt trip about an Ex and tried to fix things for him? Your wife and family come first!!! Forget about the ex keep her in the past and leave her there!!!
2006-11-02 01:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ariali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her choice, its not your business anymore. You have made a commitment to your wife and future children, that is where your loyolty lies. Don't do anything you will be sorry for later. Forget her, she is is living her own life.
2006-11-02 01:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are already married so you love your wife....your ex is just an ex if she wants to remain single let her.....she is making her own decisions what you need to do is stay loyal to your wife she needs you now.
2006-11-02 01:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by mother of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and forget about her. Its not real, its all in your head. You can't go back you are both different people now.
2006-11-02 01:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you would do this to your wife. Quit being selfish and think of your family now...ugh....move on ok
2006-11-02 01:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by VolimT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your girlfriend that you are happy with your new life and advice her to move on. fix her a date. can you find someone good for her?
2006-11-02 01:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋