is it wrong to be married and have friends of the opposite sex?

Question

were do you draw the boundary if any, and no they arent mutual.

Answer 1

It's not wrong to have friends of the opposite sex, but I would be careful on making sure it stays a friendship. My husband and I are very careful with our friendships...here are a few steps we take:
1. We involve each other with friendships of the opposite sex. It doesn't mean my husband has to be friends with one of my guy friends, but I do make it a point to talk about him.
2. No alone time with the opposite sex. Even unintentionally, temptation can arise.
3. No exclusive outings with the opposite sex. While it might be innocent on your part, it appears in a very different light to those who are observing you. This tends to be the start of many false rumors.

Some would think these are strict boundaries for us. But we'd rather protect our marriage than have a potential to destroy it. No friendship is worth me risking my marriage over.

Answer 2

It's not wrong. But....if you wouldn't have the same conversations and behave the same way if your spouse was right next to you, that's where you need to draw the boundary. Also, if you're keeping the friend a 'secret' from your spouse - you're crossing the line.

Any friendship that makes your spouse uncomfortable would be a sign that either you're not behaving right, or your marriage needs some work.

Answer 3

I think that it's important for people to have both mutual and seperate friends in a marriage. The second things feel even like a hint more than friends with someone is where you draw that line.

Answer 4

No it's not wrong, but there has to be lots of trust for one thing and the married couple would have to be really secure in the relationship. I've had guy friends and my husband has had woman friends, but it they started to like go places together and get really buddy, buddy as apposed to say just a good friend at work or something then I would probably have a problem with it. I'm just too insecure.

Answer 5

This is always such a tough one. It's more important to have the loyalty to your wife. Having a female friend is odd, because what will you talk about. Work? You certainly shouldn't be discussing details or information about your marriage with another woman, that would be totally wrong. I think it's safer for everyone if you don't have friends who are women - other than casual friends, like through work or church. Or make sure your wife is always with you when you go see someone.

Answer 6

Yes and no. If these are women from work that you talk to about non-depth things, like "how was your weekend?" then I think it's okay. If your wife is upset about that, then you have an insecure girl on your hands. Now, on the other hand, if you take time away from your family to be with them (golf buddies, etc.) then there's a potential problem.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Depends on what kind of friends you are. Mutual friends or not it doesn't matter if there is trust issues. If your spouse has concerns about your friendship then maybe you should end that relationship before it ends your marriage.

Answer 8

Its not right to be married and yet have friends of the opposite gender, sometimes affairs start like this, other time jealous suppositions...both things destroy a marriage

Answer 9

You need to draw a PERSONAL boundry, when theres a possibility of anything happening. And it depends on what your spouse feels about the matter. As long as theres no interest you know about you're fine. If you know theres interest on the other side or your side you need to cut it.

Answer 10

Nope. Shouldn't be an issue at all. Almost all my close/good friends are girls and my wife has a lot of guy Friends as well. It's all about comfort level of both of you and what you feel is appropriate...