my husband expects a lot from me. He is from an Asian country and i'm from a western country , usa. His future is not secured financially. he just expects me to take him to usa but i'm not comfortable of this idea because in the past, he has cheated on me many a times. He defends his cheating behavior by saying that he is depressed as he doesn't have a good future financially and it stresses him a lot. He is in his 30's but he has not yet settled down in his life. i'm still young and i'm tired of this life. i cant live a life without a good house and car. he blames me for everything such as by saying i have been stopping good things from happening int his life as i dont want to take him to usa. he believes if i take him to usa, he can prosper and can work towards a better future. but i dont trust him. i believe he is only after usa. my belief is that if you have the will power, u can do anything anywhere, places dont stand for success. you can work towards your life anywhere you re
2006-11-01 19:02:12 · 7 answers · asked by mind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you that he was wrong to have cheated on you and that he probably just married you for citizenship rights, so I say divorce him before you make babies.
However, a piece of advice for your future marriages: a good man will work hard for his wife by providing for her and their children. It is only fair for a good woman to do the same for her husband, so I recommend revising your outlook on marriage that it is all about making you happy.
2006-11-01 21:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by skydivemommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pretty: Like most hard up women, who grab onto the first man who says "I love you", you are being exploited [used] by this "guy".
Leave him where he is in his own Asian country and come to America by yourself. There are enough jerks in the U.S. (Canada too), without bringing another one into the country. You are being fed sucker lines by him - he hates you !!! You say you "don't trust him" - further proof that there is no love in your relationship. It is better being single than it is being married and miserable ! You will be working your life away in the U.S. for HIM if you bring him here. Dump the jerk before he dumps you - I promise he will !!! Wake up and smell the proverbial "coffee" !
2006-11-02 03:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say dont bring him to the USA. He sounds like a user and whinner. He blames all others for his bad troubles and it wont stop once you get here. I am a US citizen and my fiance was from INdia. He was here working on somekind of a work visa. But he would not marry me until he got his green card on his own so no one could say he was using me to get or stay here.
Your going to have to make a stand for your own sanity. Leave him where he is and let him make it on his own.
2006-11-02 03:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyegirl8 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something Specially
For You
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-11-02 03:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are right. life is such a struggle that you stand alone and face it when it it's needed. so walk with ur ideals.
2006-11-02 03:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Amen sister.
2006-11-02 03:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave him where ya found him live your life and go on with your life..
2006-11-02 03:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by BLUEEYES 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋