If your husband is hurting you from sex talks with others, sharing nude pictures and tell you it doesn't mean

Question

I don't get the interaction or love notes any more, or phone calls, just finding I can't do anything right and having porn shoved at me all the time. history of bad expereinces and now internet lovers are getting the notes and calls instead of me, What can I do? I've tried dressing up, showing off and being sexy, He likes it all, but its tearing me apart, Told him I couldn't take it, even before we were married, I feel ashamed of who and what I am to him. any good thinkers to help on this one?

Answer 1

Love is about a two way lane, u get respect u give respect. In order, for you to respect other people , in this instance your husband you need to first respect urself. Man in their own ways, tend to subject women to sccumb to such ways, as they know the weaker sex usually gives in. But be firm, tell him gently you are uncomfortable. He has to love you and your self dignity beyond just your body alone...he has got to realise that his actions will get him nowhere but trouble. I guess, maybe you need to help him out, as it looks like he may have an addiction, so maybe proper counselling may help him get thru this. If you outright reject him, he may in worse situations seek attention elsewhere which may further strain your relationship. You need to handle this with care. Just try to indulge in doing other things together sometimes, and when he brings up x-rated stuff, tease him instead, yet maintain your stand. A healthy relationship, includes good sex relationship, but it should be the be all and end all of it.

Answer 2

Ok, first of all, like you've stated... You've already confronted him about the issue. You've told him what he does is bothering you. Yet, he continues to do it. He does NOT respect you nor how you feel. Especially with the other internet lovers getting the calls/notes instead of you?!

You have NO REASON to feel ashamed. You've given your part in the relationship and he hasn't.

I know you came here looking for a solution, however, the only person that can provide a solution and mend your relationship is your husband. He's the one that needs to take action. If he doesn't, you need to leave him. As hard as it might be, you have to do it. If you remain in this relationship, you're only going to self-destruct.

Answer 3

This was going on before you married him? Never ever let a man make you feel ashamed. Test him out.....tell him you want to join him with the sex talk and pictures. Maybe a taste of his own medicine. Maybe you will find out you are swingers and like it and maybe not. I always say..what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Answer 4

Give him an ultimatum--go to counseling with you to resolve your issues, or else. He's not taking you seriously or respecting you. He'll do whatever you let him get away with, apparently. It's up to you to resolve this problem by asserting yourself and not backing down.

But don't give an ultimatum unless you are willing to follow through and hold him accountable for his actions. Otherwise, it just becomes a big never-ending game in which you become more and more hurt. Of course, it's also not good for him, either, to be doing this. But you can only control yourself, not him.

Answer 5

Kick him to the curb where he belongs! That type of guy will never be faithful. That type have a really low self esteem and have to have the attention of many women to feed their ego You shouldn't feel ashamed of yourself,he has made you into the person you've become to him.He will not change his habits unless he goes blind.Don't waste any more time on the jerk!

Answer 6

Something Specially
For You

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra

Answer 7

i m younger in age but at least can share few things.
unfortunatuly u are with some wrong person as your life partner
but surely ur partner is unfair sice wordings( it does nt matter tell his poor thinking.)
but in our indian culture it not so easy to get marrried once again easily so i will say "i cant change "
i think it will be better go with some "new partner" i know it will not be so easy but you need to take hard decision immediately.
i will add most important thing that (his behaviour will be even worse in incoming days.
think seriously on this.

Answer 8

First, get rid of any shame - it's unwarranted and destructive. Second, if you don't want the marriage to endure, get on with the divorce. If you do want the marriage to survive this, then you really should seek an intermediary - as you and your husband obviously are not able to get this resolved.

Answer 9

I think you should stand firm to help yr hubby instead of being discourage. Your hubby is just addicted to those porn. You should be patient and help him overcome all these bad habits.

Answer 10

Sad to say this, but sounds like your flame blew out, or his flame is in another direction.You sound too intelligent to remain in that relationship, even if it's marriage.