Family - November 2007

Holidays you spend your time with your family. Besides that is what it is about. Here is my story my wife does not feel accepted by my brother and his wife. I can understand her not feeling comfortable because he doesnt even call me. I have missed my nieces and nephews ball games from the getgo. If I go to a game it is because my dad tells me they have a game. My wife her side of the family is closer they call each other everyday. I feel more accepted by her family than I do my own. My dad still sees me as a child and not a man. My brother me and my wife feel like he has issues with me. I have tried to talk with them about our problems in the past no solution was made. I just found out today that my other brother in Tulsa invited my parents down for Thanksgiving that made my wife feel not so welcome I dont blame her. How should I approach everything? I tell my wife everyday that she is my family now. Any ideas or solutions.

2007-11-12 13:55:09 · 2 answers · asked by mikesdaman71 4

It started with junk food and cookies from the cupboards, he would get up really early and eat like a whole box of bear paws and hide the wrappers around the house. This has been going on for about a year now we hide stuff and for a while he's good then we would think he's over the phase and leave something out. then he does it again. Now its money not just small change but $10 bills are going missing and I am finding them in his pockets. he says he needs the money to go to the store. Now I have always been the type of Mom that if your good you'll get whatever you want so going to the store for an ice cream is just a question away. why is he stealing. He has an older brother who has never displayed any of this behavior and a sister thats 2 so I doubt she's teaching it to him.

2007-11-12 13:43:36 · 12 answers · asked by Chrissy 2

My school is holding a trip to D.C. in February, and i really really wanted to go, especially since i didn't go to the last trip to Philadelphia last year. I'm a straight A student, and even though i can be moody sometimes (as a teen) i don't do anything really wrong. But, we went to a meeting about it last night, and my mom heard its $249, and now she's saying "i don't know" and stuff.... translation, 'no, probably not.' because of the cost issue, and that we might be going on vacation sometime after that. She also doesn't like the fact it's in the winter. It would be really fun, like all my friends are going, how do i convince them that they shouldn't pass up on this once-in-a-lifetime chance?

2007-11-12 13:39:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother's worsening mental illness is affecting my ability to work (I am a graduate student). She lives with my father and is very far away. To visit them frequently, I have even modified my academic schedule & deadlines to accommodate holidays but I am not sure if this is the right thing to do. My friends are telling me that as an adult, I should be focusing entirely on school. On the other hand, she is becoming less and less of the person I once knew and I feel like I need to spend as much time with her as possible, and that if I concentrate too much on work and school right now, I might regret it later. Am I right? or are my friends right?

2007-11-12 13:32:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Oh my god! I am pregnant with my first child, and he is due any day now pretty much! Okay, so my Mom in law is going to drive me nuts!!! First of all, she calls him "Her baby!" She says things like,"Take care of MY baby!" HE IS MY BABY! Secondly, I know she will stay in the room after I deliver ALL DAY LONG!! That is TOO MUCH!! My mom won't even stay that long! Lastly, her daughter just had a baby and I got a taste of how things will be and she treats that baby like it is hers,"LET ME CHANGE HER! LET ME FEED HER! I HAVE TO HOLD HER!" I know that she will try to take over when she is here visiting and it will drive me CRAZY! How do i handle this with class and without killing her?

2007-11-12 13:32:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I moved on my mom's property one year ago. I set my trailer right next to my sister's old trailer which was being used for a storage. Mom said it was going to be moved across the field eventually. When I started hooking up he utilities to my house and unhooking them from the old trailer, mom had a fit. She said she wanted to fix it up JUST in case someone needed a place to stay. Well, almost one year later my uncle needs a place for him and his kids. So mom calls me up, says they are moving in and they are hooking into my water and sewer. I said I didn't like the idea and she told me to get over it because it was going to happen anyway. The water is in my mom and my sister's name...I just took over paying the bill. The sewer my sister put in years ago. The old trailer is only 12 feet from my house. So now they are hooked to the water which I will have to split the cost of the bill with my uncle. He also hooked electric cords to my house without asking until he gets his own electric.

2007-11-12 13:19:00 · 9 answers · asked by Sexy Blue Eyes 2

2007-11-12 13:16:01 · 8 answers · asked by nanaa; (: 2

okay so my freing came over and we have a dumbwaiter and she got in it(but it was my STUPID idea) and it broke and she fell down... no one was hurt but it took like 30min to unscrew it all and now its broken... my mom was soooooooooooooooo SOOOO mad at me and wants to kill me... not srsly but u know... i dont know what to do PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME!!!!


THANK YOU SOOOOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-11-12 13:13:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just got home from a trip with my two cousins. Well during the trip my ant and uncle didn't buy allot to eat so I was basically eating cereal allot, because there was nothing else. Well when my uncle dropped me off at me house today when I wasn't in the room, he told my mom I have bad eating hobbits. I didn't know about this until she told me, I was like mom why are you telling me this? to make me feel like sh!t? I told her that she shouldn't tell me that kind of stuff, and she knows my feelings are hurt, so I got mad at her and now shes pissed off. It just seems like she is intenually (sp?) doing this to make me feel bad. And I eat fine at home there just was hardly enough on the trip. We just don't seem to get along and I am getting very deprepresed allot. I've tryed talking to her but she wont listen. I don't know what to do please help me! I'm 14 by the way, and if you have a rude answer get lost!

2007-11-12 13:10:03 · 5 answers · asked by ? 5

2007-11-12 13:09:30 · 7 answers · asked by sadie* 2

My mother died a few days ago. My sister went to go close her accounts and she found several transactions my mother could've made. Her room mate stop calling to check up on her when we closed the accounts we think it's him. What can I do Legally I don't think there is much we can do.

2007-11-12 13:02:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-12 12:45:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello,

I need an itemized list of the duties of a stay at home parent. I am trying to see if I am missing anything from a list I made myself.

Please keep all commentary and propaganda to yourself.

I will all also gladly give out points for the best answer and all that good stuff.

I will truly appreciate it,

MJ

2007-11-12 12:25:48 · 11 answers · asked by MJ H 2

my mom as been struggling with cancer for pretty much all my life. she is in really bad shape now with lung cancer. i have already lost my father when i was real young.

she is only 57 years old right now and i am really scared. i have one sister who is a little older than me.
i want to spend as much time as i can with her, but it's hard.
we knew she was going to die for years now. i have been telling her to sell the house she's in now for a long time. it's too big and she can't maintain it.

i don't know what to do. i have so many things in my life right now. i just bought a house, i have a job (of course) and i just don't know how to deal with this. i see her as much as possible and i don't want her going through this alone.

i was wondering if anyone else out there has been through anything similiar. i feel guilty, sad, scared....pretty much every bad emotion you can feel, that is what i am.

just typing this is therapeutic for me. she can't get around much

2007-11-12 11:16:14 · 13 answers · asked by lennon196798 2

what sould i do

2007-11-12 10:45:25 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous

despite of the industrialisation and urbanisation, Why the extended family never disappeared, and why it contunues to thrive today?

2007-11-12 10:28:58 · 3 answers · asked by moon_about_masa 1

viewing the body? or the lowering of the casket into the ground?

2007-11-12 10:15:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

He tries to go around it every time i tell him to meet my family. He is really embarassed and thinks my family will be mean to him. My family is the coolest and nicest. I really want him to feel comfortable with them like i am with his family.

2007-11-12 10:07:16 · 3 answers · asked by brenda r 1

My brother is married and having a dauter this month the doctors say thursday.I'm really scared though. I've always been the 2nd child.Instead of the favorite so i'm scared i'll be left behind since everyone is exicted.So do u all think my family won't forget that thier old "princess is still around.

2007-11-12 10:05:57 · 7 answers · asked by air 3

Ok there is this guy that likes me at the gym I work at. Well he has liked me for awhile and I am starting to like him but the only thing is, is that I am 21 and he is like in his mid 30's but looks in his 20's still. He is so sweet to me and considerate and respectful and everything. I am thinking about giving him a chance even if it doesnt end up working. What do you think?

The only other problem is I have a boyfriend, We have been together for 4 years and he is the only guy I have ever known, so I have never been able to experience anyone else. Even if I just kept flirting with this guy at the gym, I dont think it would hurt to even go out with him one night even if its just that so I can experience someone else... What do you think?

2007-11-12 08:48:17 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's the thing...my fiance and I have been having problems over the past few months and his abrupt behavior has made me involve his parents because I had no one else to turn to. Well, his parents are sick of hearing it and frankly, don't really care that I am hurting. Please do not voice your opinion on our relationship...I am just looking to write them an apology letter for months of having them hear about our arguements. I understand that were adults and it's our business but his parents needed to know what was going on and it didn't seem to rectify the situation by telling them.

2007-11-12 08:32:01 · 19 answers · asked by ♥ 3

MY DAUGHTER AND I LIVE 700 MILES APART. SHE HAS DRUG PROBLEM BUT REFUSES COME STAY WITH ME. I WANT TO HELP HER, I DONT HAVE MUCH MONEY BUT I DO HAVE A STABLE HOME.WHY DOE SHE WORRY US SO MUCH? WHAT DO I DO?

2007-11-12 08:20:57 · 18 answers · asked by aldua64 1

i am a rebel.......
and i am really bad to my mom.......(sometimes i feel like my family doenst understand me)
i say a lot of bad words!!!!!

and i try to be nice!!!!
but i dont know wats wrong.........??????

i would say....im 6/10 nice.......

2007-11-12 08:19:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

They live in New England, and my husband and I are basically in San Francisco, California. My mum will already have visited to be here for the delivery and initial babycare when our son is born in about 4 weeks from now (December), but in January both my parents as well as my husband's parents (who are flying in from north Africa and will be staying with my husband's brother about 15 minutes away because the brother has a big house) will be visiting at the same time. Usually when my parents visit us, they've stayed in our apartment which is a 2 bedroom, but now the second room is for the baby. What I'm concerned about is feeling claustrophobic if they stay with me, in between all the feeding/diapering/babycare, and also having my husband's parents (and the brother and his wife) visiting (my husband's parents don't speak English, either, and mine don't speak French or the other languages my husband's family speaks)..... What should happen? A compromise of some sort? Please help! :)

2007-11-12 08:13:17 · 30 answers · asked by Colleen D 3

My brother and I will be watching TV in the living room, two innocent babes. My dad is a room away in the dining room looking at skin. Sometimes he forgets to turn off the speaker and we're treated to loud, fake moans for about ten seconds until he figures out how to turn it off in his panic.

Funnily enough he seems to think we don't know what he's doing.

I've got no problem with porn, I just don't want to walk past the dining room to see my dad hastily pulling up his pants ever again.

Sensitive topic! What would you do? Note: my dad (both my parents, actually) always avoided any sexual topics at all costs. I learned at a young age never to mention anything sexual. And yet they wave it in my face!!!!!

2007-11-12 08:10:56 · 6 answers · asked by Sapphrodite® 5

I'm 15, pregnat (please do not tell me to give up the baby, I can support it and I do not want to give it up for adoption) and I feel like my mom does not want me to have this baby even though she has supported me about this. I'm 6 weeks pregnat and I have a friend that has an apartment that I could move into. She is 18 and goes to a college near the apartment and is willing to help me raise the baby. I was wondering if I was a. legally able to move out (I will contuniue through school, right now I am taking online classes) and b. how can I explain this to my mom? I have about $50,000 saved up from summer jobs, baby sitting, my old nannying job and more stuff I've saved up and I am currently working at a cafe part time. This would probally just be temporary until I have enough to buy my own place. Plus my mom is pregnat herself. The daddy of my baby will not be around in it's life (that's a whole other story) and I want to be able to feel independent. Please help!

2007-11-12 07:38:48 · 11 answers · asked by Justine 2

It has to be special but fast! it is my nana's birthday and it's this friday.

2007-11-12 07:21:52 · 21 answers · asked by Rachel R 3

My 18 year old little sister lives with me. Last night she left at 8pm with a boy she has only been talking to. Her first time out with him and she didn't come home. Nor did she call,.She said she called but there was no messages on my machine. When I woke up and realized she wasn't home I called her and then I called my dad. She doesn't pay rent or even for her own groceries. This past weekend she took money from my daughters piggey bank for her to get to work. She did pay it back but thats not the point. I have caught her lieing to our parents and now I really do feel like if I let her stay she is just going keep walking all over me. I let her come live with me so she can be independent but the person I see I don't like. I understand teenagers and the respect factor but waking up and thinking I would have to call my parents and tell them she is missing I just can't take. If there is a way I can get my point across with out kicking her out I will gladly try.

2007-11-12 07:17:48 · 10 answers · asked by fabulosity 2

When we ride together he pressures me to leave early without helping my family with clean-up and doesn't want to hang around to talk, etc. We now ride separately. Yet, he expects me to attend his family functions and act like part of the family, be happy and bubbly, and engaging, etc. I have become spiteful because I feel that he and my SD are being rude to my family. They leave, while my 2 kids and I stay to enjoy the family. I love his family and we all get along. However, I have gone to recent functions with his family and been very quiet and not very social. I'm not mean to them, but I really don't want to be there because he hasn't been fair. He claims he loves my family, but what's with the EAT and RUN! Very inconsiderate and I'm sick of it! I have a very close knit family and they always ask where my husband and SDaughter are. Might be a problem soon.

2007-11-12 07:12:14 · 39 answers · asked by Obamamomma 1

My dad's been verbally abusive for a long time, but it's mainly towards me and my mom. He always acts so charming around his friends and such, and treats me and my mom like dirt-- and we live 2 states away! You know what the bigger problem is: he doesn't even realize he's verbally abusive! I tried confronting my dad about this a few times, but he twists my words around and makes ME look like the mean child!
I know for a fact that-- behind my back-- he back-talks about me being a rotten, spoiled child, and I'm nothing like that!
I know my dad loves me, but just isn't an understanding person. You can lie or tell the truth to him, but it all comes out the same: badly. He's constantly on my case about my weight, what I wear, how smart I am, my makeup, my hair!-- it never ends, and I look just fine! My weight is fine, my clothes... ugh...
So...what should I do about him?

p.s.-- well, just a minor note: at some months, I would visit him... bad idea... treats me like crap!

2007-11-12 07:08:29 · 7 answers · asked by missjokergirl 2