Holidays you spend your time with your family. Besides that is what it is about. Here is my story my wife does not feel accepted by my brother and his wife. I can understand her not feeling comfortable because he doesnt even call me. I have missed my nieces and nephews ball games from the getgo. If I go to a game it is because my dad tells me they have a game. My wife her side of the family is closer they call each other everyday. I feel more accepted by her family than I do my own. My dad still sees me as a child and not a man. My brother me and my wife feel like he has issues with me. I have tried to talk with them about our problems in the past no solution was made. I just found out today that my other brother in Tulsa invited my parents down for Thanksgiving that made my wife feel not so welcome I dont blame her. How should I approach everything? I tell my wife everyday that she is my family now. Any ideas or solutions.
2007-11-12 13:55:09 · 2 answers · asked by mikesdaman71 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh my goodness, this sounds exactly like the situation I am in. My husbands brother and his wife hate me for reasons i still dont really even know, and then his parents followed suit. My husbands father intimidates him , and is mother trys to control his life and his sons life. he always told me that his parents treated him differently as child and an adult...he can hardley tell his dad no about anything. But he has finally stood up to them and llet me know that we are his family and if they dont accept me, then they dont accept him.
Just keep on her side. Never choose them over your wife. tell your family how you feel, and if they still act the same way. then maybe they dont respect you at all. cut ties until they change.
as for the holidays, do your own thing, dont make your wife go where she is not wanted, or feels uncomfortable. she may tell you its ok, go without me, but dont. stand by her side
2007-11-12 14:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful for what you DO have and invite HER family over to your house.
I am sure your family loves you, but maybe you just arent compatible with them for some reason.Sounds like she has a nice family and like they love you as their own.
Remind her of that and tell her your gratefull for her and the way her family makes you feel, and that YOU love her!
2007-11-12 22:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋