I'm 15, pregnat (please do not tell me to give up the baby, I can support it and I do not want to give it up for adoption) and I feel like my mom does not want me to have this baby even though she has supported me about this. I'm 6 weeks pregnat and I have a friend that has an apartment that I could move into. She is 18 and goes to a college near the apartment and is willing to help me raise the baby. I was wondering if I was a. legally able to move out (I will contuniue through school, right now I am taking online classes) and b. how can I explain this to my mom? I have about $50,000 saved up from summer jobs, baby sitting, my old nannying job and more stuff I've saved up and I am currently working at a cafe part time. This would probally just be temporary until I have enough to buy my own place. Plus my mom is pregnat herself. The daddy of my baby will not be around in it's life (that's a whole other story) and I want to be able to feel independent. Please help!
2007-11-12 07:38:48 · 11 answers · asked by Justine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mom is going to be married for the second time and my birthfather is not in my life.
2007-11-12 07:39:43 · update #1
I do not think I will regret it. I have already bought the crib and am really excited
2007-11-12 07:48:38 · update #2
My mom pays the bills, but I pay her $18 out of my weekly pay (I get $120 a week not including tips and over time). I have my own insurance though.
2007-11-12 07:55:57 · update #3
My friend is responsible and when she has friends over they are quiet. She isn't a partier type of girl. And she lives in a 3 bedroom apartment so her and her boyfriend have one room, I have mine and the baby will have his/her own room
2007-11-12 07:57:41 · update #4
it sounds like you you are resonsable and don't listen to anything that last person said they most not of read the whole thing if you have 50,000 in the bank i didn't have **** and i boyfriend with on job didn't get along with my mom and was out on the street living in my car so yea i've been with nothing and my son is the world to me the only thing that i love and the one thing i can tell you for the coming baby for how to handle the baby is don't ever hurt that little one no matter what if you get frustrated walk away that is the only thing that you can do i read to many stroies about parents hurting their kids and it hurts but there is something that you may be able to do but i don't know because you are 15 but you should try it it isn't like welfare or anything plan parenting what they do is that you go on medicaid and they pay the bills for having the baby i never saw a bill in the mail and also i don't know how you plan on feedign the baby but formula is expensive and they also pay for that i mean sometimes you will have to buy it but only once or twice and they help with question and when the baby gets older what you should feed them and everything else he is one so i get milk and eggs and cheese and jucie free because to tell you the truth taking care of a baby is hard and harder when you are alone first hand and also the dipeir i use are parents choices its a walmart brand great i get 80 for $10 and don't be to mad at your mom she is going though a lot and she doesn't want nothing to happen to you she probely just doesn't know how to handle it and she is going though the same thing but if you feel the need to move out then do it don't let anyone change your mind but be careful because some of the closes friends when they move in together can cause problems so be safe and take care if you have any questions i will be more then happy to help loveorion7@yahoo.com if you were woundering that is my sons name orion i love that name just remember that baby is # one not you or anyone else but i think you know that already
2007-11-12 09:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by whatzup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe now is not the time to move. You and your mother can help each other out if you are both having babies. You will need that money you have to support the baby, but it is not as much as you think. Believe me, being 16 and having a baby will not make you independent, it will make you more dependent. Even married people having babies need support and family. Don't make it harder on yourself then it needs to be. You don't mention any problems between you and your mother, so why rush things. Your mother is there for you and I think you need to stay home for a bit longer as you have many more decision coming your way. College? You will need to get an even better job to support this baby as it will grow up and need more. As "fun" and "grown up" as it sounds moving in with a friend, it is not in your babies or your best interest right now. This is your first child and there is so much you really don't know about having one and neither does this 18 yr. old friend of yours. Stay home and give that child the best possible chance you can. Please consider NOT moving out until after the baby is born and you see how motherhood really is.
Can't believe anyone would tell you to do this as some have written. You are too young. I understand you bought a crib, good, but there is alot more here. Is this friend going to put up with the new baby crying at 2am and waking her up all the time. Keeping the house clean and not having a bunch of friends in at all hours? You need to have lots of stability with a baby in the house. Please rethink this life changing event and stay home where you can really get help with this baby.
2007-11-12 07:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fifteen is legally too young to move out unless you're emancipated. And $50,000 is not as much as you think, especially if you don't have health insurance. You were able to save that because you didn't have any living expenses before. Now you have to support yourself and a baby and finish school (on no sleep for a long while). I guarantee you that the first thing to go will probably be school. What kind of jobs and future are you going to have with no high school diploma? I know it seems harsh, but your mom isn't wanting you to give up the baby because she wants to hurt you, she wants you to do it because it's going to force you to be an adult, with nothing in common with your friends, when you're still a child in many ways.
2007-11-12 08:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you support yourself now or does your mom pay all of the
bills?
Do you have your own health insurance or are you on your mom or dad`s health insurance?
As long as you are living with a parent, you will be able to save money. It would be nice if you could buy a small house and have money left over to live on while you save more or even buy a house and have a roomie to share expenses with like you would be doing if you moved in with your friend.
$50 k sounds like it could buy something.
Do you think that your mom is going through some emotional and phsyical drama and that is why you feel like she doesn`t
want you to have the baby? Maybe she feels like you do not
want her to be having a baby either? Talk to her about how she feels and how you think she feels.
I do think you have a good head on your sholders and will be able to secure a good future.
2007-11-12 07:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is to talk with your mom about how you are felling. I think at the best for you is to stay with your family right know, try to talk with other ppl to get help there are a lot of help to get if you just trying. Go to the shop and writhe down what everything cost that a baby needs and see for your self how much it will cost. When you talk with your mom remember to stay calm and remember at she loves you as much you love your baby. You know at you can be realy sick after haveing your baby and then you have to get help and i dont think your friend will be there for you.
2007-11-12 08:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah well to start congratulations!:) umm you shouldnt give up the baby i support u to not give him/her up. well you should talk this out with our mom look for more signs that she doesnt want the baby to be born but just to say if u have a fight with ur mom just move out with ur friend if u think its the best for ur baby and u. i hope i helped
again congrats on the baby
xoxo
2007-11-12 07:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 05:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by prindle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is follow your heart. if you feel like you need to move out, then do it. you're 15, but you seem like your mind is capable of making it through. its really hard to be independent, but if thats what you want, then go for it. just make sure you have no regrets later in life.
2007-11-12 07:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by miireya 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow a young age to be pregnant. but i think you should tell you mum about what you are deciding to do cause it night be the best thing to do.
but yeah if you are deciding to do that then its up 2 you...
so do what you think is right for yourself but tell your mum about it.
other then that its great that you have got yourself sorted out.
and all.
but your abit to young to be moving out of home but ahh well its you...and its your choice.
so umm good luck with what you decide.
2007-11-12 07:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by MistyBlu 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
15 and you can support a baby.
are you living in disney world.
Location Fastasy land?
2007-11-12 07:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Fuzzybutt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋