Family - November 2007

My mom hates my brother's girlfriend because her auntie is my dad's ex-wife.

She calls her ugly, rude and disrespectful names and I feel really bad. I mentioned it to her that regardless of how she feels him dating this girl, it isn't fair for her to call her names. And that in fact if she talks bad about his gf he will see the mom as a bad guy really. My mom got really defensive when i said that and could've got even a little upset with me.

What do I do? I don't want my mom to stress about it and create problems with my brother but I also want my brother to date whom ever makes him happy. Past is the past.

What do I do to help both sides?

2007-11-12 07:04:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

son was abused as a child - not by either my husband or I or his brother, (my brother) we reported it went to court pervert found not guilty due to my sons age and perverts money. Got counsiling for our family and him - moved away from the area -he seemed ok but now that hes in his 20's he cant forget or forgive -we are a reminder of all that happened to him - we have not had contact with My brother since he did this -infact for 15 years we have not been to any family functions where he will be . this includes all holidays - my family celebrates alone. our son has moved in with girlfriend said he didnt feel comfortable around us because just looking at us brings the past right in his face although we dont talk about what happened to him unless he brings it up.
Our family is falling apart because we love him but when he looks at us he is filled with hate for us because of what happened when he was young. My husband , I and 15 yr old son are broken hearted over his hatred.

2007-11-12 07:00:38 · 7 answers · asked by tammy 2

The problem is I too talk to my mom often..may once in two days...and i cannot tell him to stop as i am afraid he woul ask me to do the same...but is it not different for girls...my moms like my friend...wot do i do??

2007-11-12 06:50:28 · 8 answers · asked by c687stu 2

I have a husband, 1 son that is 19, another that is 17 and a 3 yr old. My problem is that my dad drops by without even calling and stays for weeks on end. He's here now!
He did call this time but he called earlier in the week and said "I have an eye doctors appointment Friday, I'll be down by the end of the week." I said Ok but...He failed to mention his eye doctors appointment is NEXT FRIDAY! He is sleeping in my oldest sons room on a twin bed so my son is having to stay somewhere else while dad is here. He claims the older boys have been calling and harrassing him to come visit but when I questioned them they said they hadn't even talked to him. When he is here he sleeps all day and up all night slamming cabinets in the kitchen which is right beside our 3 yr olds room, it wakes him up. He also slams doors etc. I love him to bits and pieces but when he awake he is right under our tails. My oldest boys can't even sneak in without him latching on to them. And my 17 yr old...

2007-11-12 06:44:13 · 2 answers · asked by justceleste 3

Few weeks ago he got an out of school suspension for being a bully and of course this wasnt his first time. He likes to bully his brothers and when he went to his dads house he even raised a fist at him. He has never done that at my house but i just got a call from the school and he had been mean to a younger student and commenting about their religion. Im am overwhelmed cause i did not bring any of my boyz to talk about anyones religion. I feel like im failing as a parent and dont know where to go from here cause i know its gonna get worse since he didnt learn the first time after the suspension and grounding. can anyone suggest where to go from here, he's a good kid when he wants to be i already feel im too hard on him but im to the point i cant let him out of my site.

2007-11-12 06:40:17 · 4 answers · asked by confused 1

Just wondered what your opinion is on this. I am writing a paper about it.

2007-11-12 06:33:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i cant have friends over. THANKS

2007-11-12 06:30:51 · 8 answers · asked by Lols 3

I want to get them something that they will enjoy as well as learn something valuable about life. No religious stuff please.

2007-11-12 06:28:37 · 9 answers · asked by Bohemio 2

I have a grown daughter with whom I have always had a rocky relationship. She has a bad habit of mistreating others, being very self-centered, and badmouthing people behind their backs (including myself). Recently she got into some trouble and had her daughter temporarily taken away from her (her grandmother was kind enough to take custody since i work and cannot afford to). She has been very ungrateful and hateful to Grandma, and when I call her on it, she flies off the handle and begins to badmouth me about how bad a mother I have been, how I never support her and never will, how I am nothing but a F***ing drunk and should just shutup, etc. I have tried to talk to her, she never tries to talk things out but always flies into a defensive rage...."You never understand me, etc." I can't support someone who is always nasty and hateful to people. I am so depressed about this I could die. I am about ready to tell her just don't ever call me again....what do I do? I can't keep this up.

2007-11-12 06:25:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

my 15 year old son has run away yet again, this time we pressed charges on him thinking this would teach him a lesson, much to my surprise csb was involved and charges are being put on us. he is adopted and runs to his bio family, we have loved and raised him since he was 2 years old.any i suggestion on how to protect ourselves is apreicated . thanks

2007-11-12 05:33:48 · 4 answers · asked by cynthia p 1

The classic "Sophies Choice" question. Here is your scenerio:
An evil dictator conquers America. Your entire community has been forced to go to a concentration camp. You and your 6 YEAR OLD TWINS, one a boy and one a girl , are nearing the gate of the camp when the guard says " You can only take ONE in with you." The other will have to go to a "special"camp where that child will surely die.
Which one will you take with you, the girl or the boy.
There are no variables to this question. Most women refuse to answer, or change things like "I'd pay the guard to take them both or I'd go to the other camp so both could enter..."
You must chose which one dies.
Answer to this question will be inserted tomorrow,based on thousands of interviews.

2007-11-12 05:20:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister married her brother but me and her really like each other and wanna know if it is ok to get serious. Any suggestions?

2007-11-12 05:07:04 · 67 answers · asked by thomanb18 1

2007-11-12 05:02:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is it called? it's like daycare only for old people. I need it for my project, i'm saying it's a bad thing. They should live with their families.

2007-11-12 04:47:27 · 4 answers · asked by ? 1

Of course, you might say, "whatever we agree to is fair." But I would like to make a proposal and back it up on some reasonable basis. Thank you for your help.

2007-11-12 04:20:32 · 8 answers · asked by richard_bruder 1

My beautiful fiancée Megan (Mee-Gun, NOT May-Gun) visited my parents’ estate in New York this weekend for a fundraiser while I was away on business in Seattle. I trust her fully to represent me at such gatherings, as she is a kindred spirit and aspires as I do towards the finer things in life.

In attendance at said gathering was my brother Robert, his underachieving wife and their 3 year old son Roberto. Such a silly name for the lad, but considering he was named as such to not only pay homage to my brother but also to 1960’s baseball star Roberto Clemente I guess it will suffice.

Young Roberto seems to take on many of the same traits as his mother. He is rather undisciplined and seems to crave troublesome situations. This is a young man that will never be at ease in a high social setting such as a Yacht Club meeting or attending an equestrian event. It will be best that he stays towards his mothers chosen sport of bowling.

He was being rather truculent at a certain point and was NOT being attended to by his mother, who was feeling ill at that moment. Perhaps she had too much alcohol? What a surprise that would be. Anyway, as Roberto was acting rudely, my fiancée Megan (Mee-Gun, NOT May-Gun) gave him a verbal request to be polite. It was at this point that Roberto told my fiancée to “shut up”. She then challenged him to fisticuffs, and was proceeding with said challenge until his mother finally got some energy and broke them up.

Now my brother will not speak with me, as he states that Megan (Mee-Gun, NOT May-Gun) has something of a quick temper and needs counseling. I asked of him, how does one judge my fiancée while married to someone of his wife’s caliber? He hung up the phone at that point, although I’m still convinced it may have instead been a bad connection. I WILL NOT have someone hang up the phone on me!

Was my beautiful fiancée correct? I cannot help but believe that a little corporal punishment would have done this young man an absolute world of good.

2007-11-12 03:14:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am 14 and i am trying to grow my hair and my parents are divorced i see my dad every wednesday and every other weekend my mom and her family are cool with it and my dad hates the idea he says i have 2 sons not a daughter and a son my older brother is 16 and everyone loves him and he has a clean hair cut my brother backs me up on this i grew my hair a year ago and my dad used to tease me but i just ignored it how can i convince him he is a strong christian man every time my brother goes to the barber he say ur up next but i say i dont want a hair cut he gives me a bunch of crap and we go home how can i CONVNICE him

2007-11-12 03:00:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

what sh0uld I make my mom for her B~day?
& what should it say? I only know how to write pomes!
But the thing is she's dead

2007-11-12 02:42:56 · 2 answers · asked by rose101 1

My sister and her husband has their 2 year old neice in thier custody Child Protection placed in their home because, they agreed to keep her. They are about to go to court to adopt her. Anyway the mother in law went by the childs fathers house and gave him a pic of her. I don't know why. The guy is in to drugs from what I heard and the mom is in jail facing five year for drugs and breaking probation. When it first started out my sister had to take the child to see her dad at whisle stop a place to visit your child while in the states custody. She didn't have anything to do with him the child stayed on the workers lap the whole hour. He all of sudden stop visiting the child until now since the mother in law gave him a pic he may start wanting to see the child again. Well I will stop rambling I wanted to give you some of the story and ask if you knw anything about custodys in LA I would appreciate it.

2007-11-12 01:39:08 · 2 answers · asked by John 3

ok last year i lived with my mom and we were going through a hard time so i moved in with my dad and he got phisical custody and now that i got a taste of how my step mom feels about me i wanna move back with my mom and i miss my mom so much and she and my step dad love me and my mom is the worlds greatist person (to me)i love her with all my heart but the hard thing is im am the kinda girl who is always afraid to do what i want because i dont want to hurt anyones feelings and i am so afraid to ask my dad and he knows how i feel about my step mom he just doesnt know i love my mom he thinks that i hate her and i dont
what should i do plz help me!!!!!!

2007-11-12 01:22:22 · 12 answers · asked by kmuentener 1

My father is a fat lazy bastard with a crazy temper and no notion of logic. He just works and eats and does **** around the house. IF he cooks for anyone (although he rarely cooks for anyone other than himself) he sit at stove to cook because he can stand there to cook pancakes for all of ten/twenty minutes it would take. On his day off, he just watches TV. When he comes home from work, he pretends to read at the dinner table waiting for Dinner to be served to him. He doesn't do anything my mother asks him to~ I know the weight gain and laziness started after his father died, but that was 8 years ago! He needs help, but refuses it! Yet he blames my mother for "turning the kids against him"

I don't know what to do anymore! Any suggestions??

2007-11-12 01:00:33 · 25 answers · asked by Momo27 3

my bf and i are house sitting his grandparents house and keeping an eye on his sisters ( they are 15 and 17) but we are staying at his grandparents...im here alone til 6pm cuz my bf is working 12 hours today
its soo weird being here alone...and i have two small dogs but its still scary im about a mile off the road in the middle of the woods
how do i make myself not so scared this is only about the 5th time i have been here but never alone i have to do some running around and go to our house to take care of the cat but im still scared
and i have to stay or atleast not be gone very long cuz of the dogs

2007-11-12 00:55:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am considering doing this because I keep getting fines for him not going to school and I am fed up. My hubby is a softy, so I am the one who is doing all the disciplining, guess that makes me the mean stepmom, even though my intent was to teach him accountability and responsibility. He just got off of probabtion for something he did when he lived with his mom, and he would not respect or obey her either, so she sent him to live with us. He has made the comment to others that he does not respect me, even though I have done everything possible to make the transition as easy as I could for him. Any ideas or suggestions?

2007-11-11 23:39:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know a woman who had a baby boy with a gang member. She lied to the 'grandparents' about who the father was. She told the parents, whose son was cut in half in a car accident, that the boy was his. These grandparents automatically got attached to the baby boy because their own son had been killed. The biological father of the baby boy sued for paternity and it was proven that he actually was the biological father of the child (this 'gang member' wanted the responsibility of his son--this goes to show that people aren't totally evil sometimes.) Anyway the 'lied-to grandparents' were devistated once again. This woman didn't seem to care and moved on to her next scam. Thank goodness for DNA. This wasn't the first time this woman tried to pawn off a child on someone who wasn't the biological father. She lost that case with her oldest child too, Thank God!! This was just the scummiest thing I'd heard about for a long time and needed to share it.

2007-11-11 22:58:41 · 7 answers · asked by Alea S 7

Do you ever feel bad about that?

2007-11-11 22:03:56 · 5 answers · asked by jacquie 6

Why does she need to CONTROL? Why does she even want to CONTROL? She like DECIDES what I buy and she is like SO annoying! She wants discipline and bla bla bla like why the heck does she teach me this stuff that's what I learn in school and she's like wasting her breath for nothing. And when I tell her this she nags at me! And like she asks me to do something and then I say fine I'll do it so I like was switching off my computer and then in 10 seconds she said "can you quickly do it?" Like what the heck is wrong with her?

2007-11-11 21:45:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Whenever i see her i start dreaming abt her .She is so ravashing that i cant stop my feelings,as i cant do anything with her .I just cherish her in my mind and sometimes enjoy ,even i see her picture and sometimes masterbate .I know its bad ,but as i have no guts for doing something in real ,shld you think having all this limited to mind is ok ?As I have no intentions for making any advances to her.I tried to put those thoughts off ,but whenever we meet or talk fantasy start taking birth.what shld i do?

2007-11-11 21:41:54 · 18 answers · asked by vishi 1

my ex left with baby when she was 2 now after 11 years ive found her she live 3000 miles away i want to do something for her ie get her a gift but when i ask her what she wants or needs i feel like shes blowing me off ie iask her if she needs a new bike or laptop she says i have a bike and would probably just break a laptop what do i do im planing to go see her but i dont know if she even wants this .i worked hard to find her and never gave up but i think she might feel some resentment or maybe she blames me but it was her mom that took her away i cried daily for over a year after she left .now i cry daily cause i found her(tears of joy) but i wonder if she feels the same weve only talked through emails she says she hasnt got the guts to talk to me yet what do i do ......confussed

2007-11-11 21:40:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have an uncle, but he's not my direct uncle..let's say he is a distance family. I think he's too "nice" to me, i don't know if i could call him a pervert but i don't feel comfortable if he's around me.
he likes to touch my hand and his hand are like all over me such as put his hand on my thigh and other stuffs i dun want to mention.. so i'm always scared if he wanted to stop by my house.
In fact, he had helped me so much but i want to avoid any physicall contact with this uncle.
one of my friend said that she didn't feel comfortable when i introduced her to my uncle, he holds my friend's hand for a long time.
sometimes i lied to him that i'm not at home or i'm just too sleepy to accept any guests..
My problem is his wive, is my grandma's cousin and she is very very nice, so.. what can i do?am i just being paranoid?help!

2007-11-11 21:23:08 · 16 answers · asked by Aimee J 2

I am 21! Recently my fellas mum left and moved 100 miles away to live with a fella she met through a dating agency! When she left, she left her 13 yr old behind leaving it up to us to care for her! We moved in with her and her older brother (25) as he could not cope financially and looking after her! Since moving in I have not seen my family and I am constantly feeling really down! I am always tired, my mouths full of ulcers, my skin has all dried up on my face! But the thing is that I feel guilty for it because I know I am not the only one going through a hard time! As I am sure you can imagine living with a 13 yr old, that you dont really know it really hard! Her mood changes really quick and she can be quite nasty! Ive heard her saying things behind my back! I just dont know what to do! I do everything I can to try and make up for her mum deserting her but its just thrown back in my face! I am just at breaking point! I know my blood pressure is high as I can feel it! What do I do?

2007-11-11 20:11:14 · 17 answers · asked by emzy 3