i have an uncle, but he's not my direct uncle..let's say he is a distance family. I think he's too "nice" to me, i don't know if i could call him a pervert but i don't feel comfortable if he's around me.
he likes to touch my hand and his hand are like all over me such as put his hand on my thigh and other stuffs i dun want to mention.. so i'm always scared if he wanted to stop by my house.
In fact, he had helped me so much but i want to avoid any physicall contact with this uncle.
one of my friend said that she didn't feel comfortable when i introduced her to my uncle, he holds my friend's hand for a long time.
sometimes i lied to him that i'm not at home or i'm just too sleepy to accept any guests..
My problem is his wive, is my grandma's cousin and she is very very nice, so.. what can i do?am i just being paranoid?help!
2007-11-11 21:23:08 · 16 answers · asked by Aimee J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm 21 years old
2007-11-11 21:36:00 · update #1
Tell your parents, you don't have to put it in a bad way just tell them that as much as you like this uncle and how much you appreciate the help he has given you, you find him a bit creepy and touchy feely, tell them what it is he does that makes you feel this way and that you try to avoid him, also how he made your friend feel.
Remember its more in how you say things rather than what you say so if you just keep calm and tell them I'm sure they will sit down and listen to you.
You shouldn't be made to feel this way so sort it out.
It must be really bothering you because you are asking us for advice.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-11-11 21:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by mumma claw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't mention your age....I'll assume you are a teenager.you need to express yourself to your parents or guardian that you feel uncomfortable around "uncle feely"its okay to hold hands but when he starts putting his hands on other places on your body...let him know that you don't like that.do that in front of other people to embarrass him.and never be alone with him if possible until you feel comfortable with that.good luck to you.
if it smells like a duck,and walks like a duck.,it probably is a duck.
2007-11-11 21:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by mojo569 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police This person needs to be stopped before he go's to far pedophiles can and do a lot of emotional and physical damage It doesn't matter what relationship he is to you
2007-11-11 21:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In fact, he had helped me so much ---------here is your problem friend....it mean he helped you in anyway...
unfortunately his age is leading to some distrubbed manners towards you...
u know the depth of the problem..
generally all these rae common in nature for single ladies everywhere..
u tell him straightly as you dont like any kind of physical entertainments..so that he cant hurt too
2007-11-11 21:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by Arien 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him the next time he does that, it makes you feel uncomfortable. Tell him that it did not bother you so much when you were younger, but now you feel that it is inappropriate. If you can't do that, tell your grandmother or one of your parents how you are feeling and have one of them talk to him.
2007-11-11 21:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not comfortable with him doing those things to you. Be straight up honest with him. The more you keep quiet the longer it will go on! SPEAK UP!
2007-11-11 21:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your Mum or Dad about your concerns - don't accuse him of anything, but tell them of your concerns and how he makes you feel uncomfortable. They will be able to keep an eye on what is going on and support you if you feel threatened.
2007-11-11 21:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not paranoid....a woman's instinct is usually correct when it comes to these kind of things.....avoid the uncle, lest you fall for it and regret it later ...... i'm a guy btw.....
2007-11-11 21:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by essential 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your instincts. and stay away from him. can't you be blunt and tell him off? i mean when he gets physical with you, say outright that it makes you uncomfortable? better to be rude now, than to be sorry later...inform your parents and your aunt that ur uncle's gross, before anything more serious happens.
2007-11-11 21:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah your uncle is a pervert...He needs help.... Yeah your right he's hitting on you and more.Becareful....
2007-11-12 02:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by hclover21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋