Family - November 2007

My partner and i have a 8 month old daughter and 1 on the way, we live across the rd from his parents and we have had problems with them for awhile because they dont like me but i never knew because they were nice to me but bitched about to other family members. The last time i seen my MIL was in August at lunch with other family members and when i got home my partner rang me and said that his mum was mad i didnt get up from my lunch to say hello to her when she had arrived late!! The last time my partner seen them was about 1 week after that and he had a fight with them when they admitted they dont like me because i dont have any respect for them cos i dont call them "MUM" & "DAD"! and that they know they will see the day that i leave with the kids and leave my partner with nothing! So we havent spoken to them in almost 4 months! So its almost xmas and i think my partner needs to talk to them again soon cos they have missed out on so much with our daughter and we are expecting another

2007-11-10 12:53:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-10 12:52:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Like say he is really evil and will stop at nothing to hurt you every chance he gets. If you have some dirt that could put him away, would you turn him in?

2007-11-10 12:48:25 · 8 answers · asked by nutty 1

My husband and I want to have more childeren but our daughter is very angry and upset about this.We are not just talking a little but she is so angry about this.Has anyone dealt with this before?Any advice would be great.Oh and she is 15.

2007-11-10 12:42:54 · 12 answers · asked by nuvision93952 2

My dad seems to think that now i'm 13 i don't want to hang around him coz i want to be cool. But thats not true i know i'm not cool or popular and i'm a loving person, but thats not what dad thinks. i only get to see him on mondays and weekends but mondays he's working and weekends a have to look after my half brother or dads spending time with his girlfriend who his the mother of my half brother so i rarley see him. we used to go go-karting together just him and me but now my alf bro is 10 he spends more time with him coz his aloud to race now. he buys more things for my bro he spends more time with my bro amd i sometimes thinks he eveen wants to see more of my bro than me. I need your help. There is only 1 thing i'm thinking of doing and thats prettending to look at questions when i'm at his house and suposebly come accross this 1 the one i'm writing and he will relise how much i actually do love him. well hope someone can help me.Sorry if there are any spelling mistakes i cant spell

2007-11-10 12:27:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im fed up!me nd my mom have been fighting so much lately nd iv tried talking to her and nothing seems to be working.I don't know what to do.I js feel lyk I want to give up nd go live with my dad(he lives in illinnois and I currently live with my mom in florida)she used to tell me how things would get better and we would move out of my aunts house just me and her and we would get our own place and things would getter better.and one day when she wuz in florida visiting her then bf they broke up nd she met someone new and they got married and she came back and about 3.4 months later she made us move to florida away from our family and friends.I got so mad because he had no family here in florida either so I thought wouldn't it have just been easier for him to move up there.and about a few months ago my brother moved down here with us nd me and him don't get along nd we haven't lived together since I was 6 and he was about 14.and that was almost 7 years ago.and now she wants us to be all nice.and my mom totally ignores me.I ask if we can go somewhere and she says no,he asks and she automatically says yes.I sick of having to go thru this fighiting.how should I handle this?or even better yet what should I do?

2007-11-10 12:07:09 · 2 answers · asked by w0wii 1

In Bush's own words (or perhaps the words of his speach writers), the war against terrorism is really a war of "Hearts & Minds".

The way the Iraq war is being conducted (by the generals) is actually playing into the hands of the Islamic fundamentalists.

We are using White Phosphorous "Whisky Pete" because it makes the Army generals job easier, but it tarnishes our image in the eyes of the world.

We are repeating the same political & moral mistakes we made in Vietnam....

We are sophisticated enough to fight the insurgents by not having to inflict indiscriminate mass incineration on Iraqi civilians,...we are trusting our generals too much, and they are letting us down.

In this video, it shows testimony from former US Marines, and a British member of Parliment (22:15), that we are using methods outside of the Geneva Convention.

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-3826487796319021454

Question:

How can we make our generals do their job in ways that are less convenient for them, but still preserve our moral standing?

2007-11-10 12:02:57 · 2 answers · asked by American Dreamer 1

when the other person just wants to spend all my money. I work alot and make barely enough for bills. and all she wants to do is acuse me of lie about money and that i try to mess her life up every day. when I am off for 2 days she yells at me and says you dont support the family. when she doesnt work. I am at my last nerve. and about to take my daughter and leave legally

2007-11-10 12:00:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-10 12:00:07 · 10 answers · asked by Nikki aka nicky 2

I'm 18 years old, and go to college. My parents are divorced, both side remarry. I live with my mom and my stepdad. They have been married one and half years. They want to have a baby. My mom is almost 44 years old and is hard to conceive. However, i keep on worrying, and I DON"T want them to have a baby. i keep on complaining in front of my mom, and my mom says i am being very selfish. That i shoud give out more love instead of demanding for more. Because maybe i don't want them to have a baby because i feel i'd be the outside. I am an only child. So is she right?

2007-11-10 11:47:07 · 12 answers · asked by ginger_spic 1

My 18 year old FEMALE cousin is dating a 15 year old girl in high school. Am I the only one that finds something wrong with this? The girl she's dating wants to keep it a secret and my cousin told the entire family about it. I met her girlfried and observed how they act together. They both behave like 12 year olds when they're together and run around the house chasing each other. I have no problem with my cousin being a lesbian but she's dating a child! And my cousin claims that they're going to be together forever and get married and blah blah blah...and they've been together for four months. Everytime I try to talk to my cousin about this she says, "You're just jealous." I have to seriously control myself from saying, "JEALOUS!? You're embarrassing me by bringing her over here and you're behaving like a CHILD!" What can I do to mak her grow the hell up? She's living in this fantasy world and acting extremely immature.

2007-11-10 11:44:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't even go out with my best friends for my 20th birthday!!! She gets mad at me when I even consider asking her if I can go out anywhere unless she can go to, which makes no freaking sense!! I'm a 2nd year college student, I get invited to parties EVERY weekend!!! And it's so embarrassing to say that I can't go because of my mum. My dad sits on his butt and agrees with everything she says as if he has no mind of his own. The craziest thing is that she says that if I go out, I'm gonna get raped, and she "recommends" that I stay home because when I go out and come back home I will meet my bags packed and I would have to leave "her" house!
Soo... what can I do for her to LOOSEN UP???!!!? I want to do this without having her to be mad at me for centuries as she is so capable of doing... BTW I am her youngest daughter, I have an older sister who just got married in Feb. 2007. I am my father's only child, if that helps any...

2007-11-10 11:41:53 · 7 answers · asked by Salina 2

My grandparents are divorced and were both re-married. Recently though, my Grandmother and her new hubbie were deciding to divorce after 5 years of marriage. But just yesterday I found out my Grandmother's husband died of a heart attack. I feel so bad for his family!

His sister callled me and my mom and asked if we would like to attend his funeral which will be held Monday morning. It'll just be family and close friends of his. My grandmother will not be going though because they were divorcing. She says that if we go to the funeral she will never speak to us again and she will not go to my mom's (her daughter's) wedding next month and that she will not be a part of my unborn baby's life. I am only 15, but love her to pieces, but I want to go to her husband's funeral. What should me and my mom do? Help!

2007-11-10 11:28:16 · 4 answers · asked by Justine 2

Should i go to the funerals of my parents whom i was not raised by nor did they find me til i was grown but they still dont like me or have anything to do with me because my children are mixed and my husbands white.They are not married and they live in different areas of the state but i am confused i dont know these people other than their names they dont know me other than my name.I was given up for adoption and when they each found me at different times they turned their backs again due to the race of my husband .What would you do? To go to funeral or not they arent dead yet but for future reference.

2007-11-10 11:09:15 · 13 answers · asked by Sharon G 2

I'm in college and I'm a girl. My parents won't let me move out. I have talked to them about this matter very often. And they still disagree with me. They are very religious and they said that Jesus is coming back soon and he wants us to stay together as a family. I have had two unsuccessful attempts to move out. One: I left when I went to college one day. I slept in the girl's dorms. Then, they offered to talk to me about it. I accepted. We ageed to let me leave. However, my parents tricked me and didn't let me leave. They kept me in the house. I still went to school though. Two: I told my mom when i was at school that I was going to move out. She didn't want me to. So, she and my two sisters held me in the car and brought me back home. They took my cellphone and stripped me down to my underwear. My dad, mom, and sisters kept watch over me. They wouldn't even let me leave my room. I had to skip the semester because of this. Now, this semester, they let me back in college.

2007-11-10 10:57:28 · 15 answers · asked by kitti_bunny 1

and my mom is away that week

2007-11-10 10:04:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom is just sooo terrible to me... i do all the work and even though i have my own money that i earn from working from other people she wont even let my buy some tea, and it was on sale. it is my favorite type of tea and doesn't go on sale often. she always finds fault with what ever i do. she is soo mean. i am having to grow up way to fast. i can't move out im barely a teen. is there anything i can do?

2007-11-10 09:41:09 · 17 answers · asked by Elizabeth S 2

it hurt and was embarassing. she laughed at me. I've wondered for years if it happened to other guys.

2007-11-10 07:50:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-10 07:25:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

He seems to have moved on, but I am still raw. It's a long story. My bio-father never supported my mother's pregnancy. They were both in college, and he made no effort to see me, or provide for me. He left for his home country when I was about a year old. I found him again in my early twenties, after giving birth to my own child and we communicated for awhile. I soon discovered he was still the arrogant, selfish little boy he was when he abandoned me in the first place. I cut ties with him. Part of me regrets this, but he gave me no other choice. I still cry over this. I think about how life might have been with his presence. I think about all the relatives that are oblivious to my existence. I think of my own child and that he might suffer from this void as well. I think about how this man stole so much from so many people and yet, he seemingly takes no accountability.

What can I do to move on? How can I heal?

2007-11-10 06:53:47 · 12 answers · asked by Lolly 2

So here's my situation. Me and my bf live together and have been together for over 5 years. We have 2 kids and 1 on the way. My baby is due in january and my brother asked to stay with us for a few months to get on his feet. He's been there since the beginning of september. He doesn't appear to be trying to leave soon. He has only given me 180 dollars since he's been there. He is taking up the room that will be my newborns room. He works practically part time and other then that he doesn't do anything. He's lazy and doesn't help much around the house. It's really stressful and hard on my bf as well. To top it off he brang some girl over last night and they had really loud sex. I mean it was ridiculous. My kids rooms are right next to his!! My boyfriend said something to him. Now he's acting like we've done something wrong. He's basically used up all of our other family members. If we make him leave I don't know where he will go. Any suggestions on how to tell him to leave nicely?

2007-11-10 06:50:06 · 13 answers · asked by ~*cHrIsTiNe*~ 2

Ever since i was a year old my grandparents have been living with my mom & i.I love them dearly but since it has been almost 14 years they're getting much older & more grumpier.It affects more than you can realize.My grandmothers tv is blasting loud all day & whenever i ask her to turn it down she yells at me.I cannot get as much sleep as i used to because of this & usually am cranky in the morning going to school, it affects my behavior & school work.My grandfather makes my mom & i do all his chores which he is still capable of doing, usually i have to help when doing homework or when this in the middle of something important.My grandmothers anger is beyond annoying.She literally goes into every room in the house & picks an arguement with everyone that are not necessary!!!My mom is also annoyed but we're not going to put them an old people home & just be like that.It's just that its really affecting me, to the point where my doctor gave me a tape so i can relax.any way this can stop?

2007-11-10 06:41:27 · 5 answers · asked by ☮ 4

Hi everyone... i need advice : (
Ive always been a daddys girl... We would always cuddle on the couch, watch movies, and id go everywhere with him. My dad was the principal of my christian school, and head deacon at my church. I looked up to him very much.
Then his life came crashing down... he had an affair, my mom found out and took me and the cats to live in apartment.. they got a divorce shortly after.
My dad and i havent really been seeing each other since this happened. A year ago this month.
I think im ready to see him again, hes my dad. i love him.
So we made plans to meet this afternoon.
He wants me to go back home w/ him (where i lived b4) and well rent a movie and talk and stuff. I know he wants it to be like old times... cuddling and stuff. But it almost feels weird. I feel like his past life w/ me and mom was a lie. I feel like i dont know him. how do i get over this? I love him but i feel it will be akaward and i dont know what to do.

2007-11-10 03:40:55 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Basically been arguing all week over stuff that hasn't been my fault to be honest && now she says she dont trust me && she wont let me out anywhere (this is really bad because i really need some foundation 8-) ) && my boyfriend took the night off tonight so i could go see him but my mum purposely made me babysit for this other person child so they can go out!! But she didnt ask me her self she speaks through my dad...even my dad is saying it is pathetic!!!

I dont know how to get her to talk to me again or to regain trust? Can anyone help me?

2007-11-10 01:17:01 · 3 answers · asked by no name 3

i am married for the last 8 months.my husband & i were so happy. but one day i had fight to my mother in law.she was so rude to me that i had no choice. but my hubby did not listen to me and sent me to my mayaka.even then when i was ready to say sorry. i am very confused how to deal with this situation. should i fight with my husband for this.

2007-11-10 01:07:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sometimes I detest my family. They force me to spend time with them every single day. My dad forces me to kiss his cheek everyday, and I quote, "At least 6 times a day," eventhough I'm 14 now. They don't want me to be a writer, they want me to do something "useful," like a doctor or a lawyer. They force me to cover my hair when I go out because of a religion I don't even believe in anymore. They window shop for an eternity and I'm not allowed to go anywhere but stay there, watching. Now they're taking the whole family on vacation to next month. I HATE traveling. Every aspect of it. From the long hours of flight, to the half-assed stares I get from the local people because I'm a foreigner. Not to mention that they won't let me bring my laptop to write, and God knows I can't write on paper. And I have to celebrate my birthday there, instead of here with my friends.

I have an attitude, I have been told countless time that I do, so I know that. So how do I change?

2007-11-09 18:05:13 · 9 answers · asked by Addikt 3

Do you work with mean or nice people, and how do they affect your self esteem? Is your family supportive, or bringing you down . Do you feel like there is a pecking order every where you go, and what end do you always seem to wind up on, top middle or bottom?

2007-11-09 17:51:05 · 12 answers · asked by Cheri moya 3

2007-11-09 17:47:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well I have very strict and overprotective parents. my mom found out about me having a bf and is very angry about it. she's Asian and thinks its not right to have one at such a young age. because I'm 16 and is considered a minor. but how can i reason with my mom and tell her that having a boyfriend is okay and what are some good things about having a boyfriend. shes really traditional about how i should be ashamed of myself holding hands and hugging with a guy on school property. she said that i have all the time i need to get to know guys and i don't need to have a relationship just yet. but i enjoy my times so much with my bf and we both have our limits. its not like I'm going to go home pregnant or anything. sometimes i just hope my parents would understand and let me have one. what can i say to convince my mom to let me have a boyfriend. i feel like my mom looks down on me now. I'm tired of arguing with my mom and her getting mad at me all the time about this. so what should i do?

2007-11-09 16:43:45 · 6 answers · asked by itsveeee 1

My dad was cheating on my mom back in '93 and she kicked him out. So he married the whore he was cheating with. She tore our family in two. She's driven my poor dad to near-suicide multiple times. She turned my dad against his mother, his siblings and his two oldest sons (mainly, me and my twin brother.) She whores out on him regulary, because he's a commercial fisherman and is gone for periods of time. Because my twin brother moved up there, she treats him like ****, forces him to sleep in the basement, can't leave the house except for school,and, very rarely, Mom's house. Because I didn't move with him, I'm the family black sheep, and she conned my little half-brothers, who used to jump with joy upon hearing I was coming over, into believing I'm the Anti-Christ. Even Dad hates me,and considers me a "Nuisance" when I come over.
I told her to her face once, and Dad threatened to kill me. Also, she'll abandon the kids to go whore out all night, and sometimes all day. What should I do?

2007-11-09 16:31:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous