My dad was cheating on my mom back in '93 and she kicked him out. So he married the whore he was cheating with. She tore our family in two. She's driven my poor dad to near-suicide multiple times. She turned my dad against his mother, his siblings and his two oldest sons (mainly, me and my twin brother.) She whores out on him regulary, because he's a commercial fisherman and is gone for periods of time. Because my twin brother moved up there, she treats him like ****, forces him to sleep in the basement, can't leave the house except for school,and, very rarely, Mom's house. Because I didn't move with him, I'm the family black sheep, and she conned my little half-brothers, who used to jump with joy upon hearing I was coming over, into believing I'm the Anti-Christ. Even Dad hates me,and considers me a "Nuisance" when I come over.
I told her to her face once, and Dad threatened to kill me. Also, she'll abandon the kids to go whore out all night, and sometimes all day. What should I do?
2007-11-09 16:31:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We actually caught her numerous times, and each time, he's filed for divorce, but he's always reconcied. Sad, huh?
2007-11-09 16:45:10 · update #1
One More Note: Back in 93' whenever my dad was out fishing, he and the rest of his brothers would stop at their favorite bar in Ketchikan, Alaska. After unsuccessfully hitting on my uncle William, she went for Dad. After my mom caught him, (the same time his dad was dying from cancer), she decided to wait until after he died to kick him out. Mom's a good person.
2007-11-09 17:15:41 · update #2
She = my stepmom (At the bar)
2007-11-09 17:16:41 · update #3
nothing you can do.
he chose this life if she cheats on him too bad.
if he wants to kill himself because of her... his choice
IT'S HIS LIFE AND HE IS LIVING IT THE WAY HE WANTS TO.
if this is bothering you stay away.
2007-11-09 16:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a real anger problem. Yeah, what your dad did was bad. He hurt the whole family by cheating on your mom. And now he is paying the price by being responsible for 2 households. But you have nothing but hate for this woman. It takes 2 to cheat. How do you know she's cheating? Have you seen her sleeping with another man? Even if you have, why is it your business?
You're little half-brothers are probably stressed by you because of your actions. Just by the way you posed your question, I can tell you are not a fount of joy at your dad's house. You probably stress everyone out with all of your hate.
Do yourself and everyone else a favor. Call your step mother and let her know that you realize that you took all your anger out her. Tell her that now that you are maturing, you want to make amends. Try to become civilized. You don't have to love this woman. You don't even have to like her, but you need to respect that she is your father's wife. If you want a relationship with your dad, you need to mend this. Stop punishing your dad for his mistakes. It sounds like he is being punished enough.
2007-11-10 00:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by justanotherone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my father used to cheat on my mom when i was a kid.
he went as far as to bring her and her daughter on a camping trip with us that was supposed to be a father son thing.
he told me not to tell or he would leave.....i told.
that taught me a lesson. i have never once cheated on my wife.
all you can do is make sure you never do it yourself. become a better man than he is.
i know right now it is hard for you but you are in the right so let that be of some comfort to you. it may not seem like much but now believe me it will later.
you don't say how old you are so i will assume you are under 18.
just become the best husband and father you can and remember your dad wasn't forced to cheat. this woman isn't blameless but neither is your dad.
your brother Will see the light and eventually your dad will come to regret his decision.
on a side not the woman that my father cheated with that broke up our family was arrested 6 times for prostitution.
so yes the other woman here was a whore so i do know where you are coming from.
i was 13 when all this happened and am 40 now so i can tell you that i do have some insight on this.
it sounds to me like you love your dad but you can't fix this for him...he has to do it himself if it can be fixed at all....
good luck
2007-11-10 12:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by bgdadyp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The very, very sad truth is: Your dad is always going to side with the woman who giving him "some." I suggest separating yourself from this mess. This is not a healthy situation, and for your own sake you should avoid it at all costs. Your stepmother sounds like a major whore, but you'll never be able to convince your dad of this....move on with your life. You have to accept the fact that your dad doesn't care about doing what is best for his kids. Learn from his mistakes, and when the time comes...use it to be a better father yourself.
2007-11-10 00:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by *Honk Honk* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call cheaters or see if you and your brother can scrape up enough for a private eye or you and your buddies follow her around with a cam corder.Maybe one of your buddies can take her out while someone films it then mail the video to your dad's work.
See if your mom can talk your brother into moving back in with you all.One thing to remember though son, your dad is just as bad as she is, he broke his marriage vows to your mom, and the woman he is with didnt have to hold a gun to his head.
2007-11-10 00:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the police , when the kids are home alone unsupervised, you can tell your dad how she is till your blue in the face it wont matter untill he can see it with his own eyes, the only thing you can do is avoid trouble , by avoiding her, protect your younger siblings . i can completly understand how you feel about her , i would hate her also, but your giving her fuel for her fire by showing the others how much you hate her. Try killing her with niceness, then dad will wonder what her problem is when shes rude to you and your nice to her.
2007-11-10 00:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ஐDanielleஐ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you blaming this woman....
sounds to me like your dad was just as much to blame - he was the one cheating after all...
what should you do?? nothing - its their live not yours - live your life and dont make the same mistakes your dad made...be faithful..
and dont blame the woman.. your dad is to blame.. and who knows - maybe even your mom - you dont know all that happened between them - and never will
2007-11-10 01:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by MandB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with your mom and forget that whole mess
2007-11-10 01:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by bluesky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋