my husband and i were so happy. one day i had fight with my mother in law and he sent me to mayaka forcefuly.?

Question

i am married for the last 8 months.my husband & i were so happy. but one day i had fight to my mother in law.she was so rude to me that i had no choice. but my hubby did not listen to me and sent me to my mayaka.even then when i was ready to say sorry. i am very confused how to deal with this situation. should i fight with my husband for this.

i am married for the last 8 months and we are two in our home me and my husband. my inlaws lives in diffrent place. my husband & i were so happy. but one day i had fight to my mother in law.she was so rude to me that i had no choice. but my hubby did not listen to me and sent me to my mom'place.even then when i was ready to say sorry. he is not guilty at all. but he shows so much love for me but not ready to accept that his mother is wrong in any case. i am very confused how to deal with this situation.

Answer 1

WAIT FOR SOME TIME,AFTER FEW DAYS YOUR HUSBAND FEEL GUILTY (I M 100% SURE),ZARA NAKHRE DIKHAO YAAR,OR MAIL ME I WILL SUGGEST YOU

Answer 2

Well I am sorry to say I do not know exactly what mayaka means but, it does not sound appropriate for a husband to do anything that obviously selects mother over wife, these problems should be resolved in private, and if his mother was rude to you he should have stepped in to stand as your husband, at your side......since what ever he did ended up in you being ready to say I'm sorry, you either should have held your arguement for later or just left on your own, fighting with in laws is never good but you will get farther having your husband speak to his Mother than you ever will "talking back" to her rudeness.
If your husband had to use force on you and it seems that you accept this and were going to apologige I am kind of figuring you are not a born in the USA female.....so maybe I do not know what is proper for your country, I only know my husband does not forcefully send me anywhere with out risking his private parts.............
If you want a happy marriage you have to make some compromises but "forcefully" does not fit in that category. My question is what do you want in your future??? respect or .....being treated as a naughty child.....?????
And fighting with him doesn't sound like it would do much good........
If you can not talk this over as equals and have a future plan for his mothers behavior you need to re assess if you are married or are a contract slave......

Answer 3

It sounds like you are from another culture other than in the United States. If this is true, you need to ask advice from someone who understands your culture and how they would deal with your situation/husband. The answers you will get here are mostly from an American point of view that may not work for transplants to this country.

It also sounds like in your culture a mother is honored above a wife and you may have shown her disrespect in hers and your husband's eyes by talking back to her. If this is true, then you can't change their cultural upbringing over night just because you are living in the USA and you may need to apologize---right or wrong. You can tactfully apologize without admitting guilt,

Answer 4

You are married for just 8 months so it is new to you. This will be there for life long. I mean quarrelling and again patching up this goes on. Your husband is really a Mama's boy. Try to call your husband and talk to him. Still if he is rude mediate your mayaka member into it. They will solve the problems.

Answer 5

i does not deliver it! i comprehend how demanding it would desire to be to no longer positioned her in her place! I did this with my alcoholic father and function no longer seen nor heard from him in some years...this became my determination! It does not situation the youngsters as they never needed something to do with him in the 1st place...(how unhappy is that). whether i'm at peace now that i do no longer ought to manage the end results of his alcoholism it quite saddens me to no longer have ever had a father different than that of a sperm donor~! She is merely attempting to get at you and likely, mutually because it does...enable her be! it is going to harm her extra in case you do no longer respond. yet on the different hand...i does not lend her anymore money and if she is to come back around then enable her make the 1st pass, then after the steam has cleared is once you tell her precisely how she makes you experience...you will get extra of an elementary reaction this type as she became extra advantageous than probably below the impression of alcohol while she mentioned / wrote the flaws she did!

Answer 6

Sorry darling, he is tied to his mothers pallu. He has no B@@@ to fight for what he believes is correct.

If you stay with him, you will never really have a blissfull married life. You have no kids so you may want to consider putting a full stop to this marriage.

Aaj usne tumko nikala ghar se.
Kal wo aisa wapas kar sakta hain.

Statistics show this all the time.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

what is mayaka?
no you should not fight with your husband. you have to be very patient. and try to keep your anger and frustration under control. dont go on complaining against your MIL, to him. afterall he was with her for so many years and now only you came into his life. also try to atleast act as if you really love your MIL. this will help you to capture his mind back. dont make your family involved in all this. then the issue becomes serious. so be docile for some time till you are sure your husband will understand you and then you can show your protest.

Answer 8

Dear friend,

First you show all your love in front of your husband and request him take you to his home.

Don't think about his mother. They are old people, how much days can they live ? After their death you and your husband only will be there. Of course I am not telling them to kill. Just telling to ignore them.

If your mother in law want to trouble you, let her trouble, how many days she will create problems. When she gets bore she will stop troubling you. But you don't miss to show love to her. In the beginning they will act like that only. When the day passes they will realise your honesty.

It is a critical stage. You have to show all your goodness in front of your husband and his mother. In such way that, your husband should think like, you respect your mother in law so much but she is creating unnecessary problems to you.

Of course you have to show real love to your mother in law, so that there is a big chance to change her.

Then you can settle in your life. Think a while. You just completed 8 months. If you get bad name in your new family, it will effect to your parents and family also.

Be clever and handle the things.

Answer 9

I think you should change your thinking and try to adjust yourself in your sasural and try to think positive. Once you become married you should be very responsible. What do you like that your hubby will go against his mother to support you. He will forget his duties or his moral values for a wife who enters in his life just 8 months before? If in future your own son will do the same thing with you what will be your feelings. If you would like to judge yourself you must place yourself to that situation then decide who is right and who is wrong. Just put yourself to your husband's place then decide whether he had done anything wrong? My suggestion to you is tackle this problem and solve it as soon as possible. This is happened in most of the cases in India in the beginning every girl face the problems to adjust herself in new lifestyle , here I would like that husband should co-operate his wife to adjust in new environment. This is the major difference between married and unmarried life, married life make you patient you will understand this better when you will become mother.

Answer 10

Is "mayaka" YOUR mother or what? You must live in another culture or country. But no matter what the situation, if your husband sides with his mother, you should move on. He sounds like a "mama's boy". Find someone more mature.

Answer 11

' Mayaka' means mother-father home.any how pooja your husband is not enough man to handle small problem, in married life things like this happen.he should settle the matter him self .doesn't matter how much he love you or make you happy ,he never get married just stay with mom.REAL man never let go thing like this your mayka or Internet.any how wait for him to come to you,he will..don't worry enjoy your days at mayka.