my mom is just sooo terrible to me... i do all the work and even though i have my own money that i earn from working from other people she wont even let my buy some tea, and it was on sale. it is my favorite type of tea and doesn't go on sale often. she always finds fault with what ever i do. she is soo mean. i am having to grow up way to fast. i can't move out im barely a teen. is there anything i can do?
2007-11-10 09:41:09 · 17 answers · asked by Elizabeth S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
btw i have no school counsler i go to a REALLY small school, and my mom won't pay for a real counsler
2007-11-10 09:52:05 · update #1
btw... she won't even let me choose my underwear. i just want to get away.
2007-11-10 09:59:35 · update #2
Elizabeth, I think you need to talk to someone near to you. Do you have a family member you can trust that can help you?
If not, try talking to your teacher. If a child comes to them with a problem, they are obligated to help you or find help for you without involving your mother right away. That may cause more problems at home. I am here for you.
Email me. dbpo17@yahoo.com
2007-11-10 12:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dani Bosco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first take a deep breath, i'm sure there will be plenty of tea in the future and pretty underwear too.
Looks like you need to personally confront your mother and question her authority, ask why you have these regulations when it's your money. Maybe she just wants you to learn the lesson of 'saving'. Which comes handy. Let her know how you feel and what you can do to earn more privledges.
You might also want to consider, she's a mom. I'm sure she doesn't intend for you to do all the work and or make you feel like you have to grow up right NOW. But maybe she's trying to show you what it'll be like for you soon. For the kids who get everything and do nothing, when they move out finally they're a complete mess. They don't know how to cook, clean or save their money.
If you need someone to talk why not call up a friend or relative? Maybe look into writing into a journal. If your mom won't let you get a diary/journal for some paticular reason notebooks work just fine, i know... i used a lot when i didn't have an actual diary book.
Life will go on and you won't live with your mom forever (well hopefully) , keep your chin up!
2007-11-10 10:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you have a mom.... do you know what kind of struggles she has going on in her own head? My mom left me when I was 4... I idolized her even though she was totally worthless as a mother, she had so many problems, still... it wasn't until I had my own daughter and she turned 4 and I looked at her and wondered how on earth a mother could leave her child... I'm sure my daughters think I'm mean, but I make it a point to talk to them, to tell them I'm just feeling bad or stressed or worried. Maybe you can show your mom you care about her feelings sometime when she is calm and casual. Just ask her about herself, maybe you will cultivate a more balanced relationship.
2007-11-10 09:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by i know right?! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's making you grow up too fast, she would have let you buy your tea. Don't adults mostly drink tea?
Listen you must be what 13? Almost all kids (excuse me...girlls) that age do not their mothers. If you hate your mom for not being allowed to buy tea and that's the worse you can say about her, don't say you hate her. Just say she makes you angry. You only have one mom and she's raising you to appreciate everything when you grow up.
This will pass, believe me...
2007-11-10 10:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to sit down and tell your mom your feelings about what has been going on lately. Tell her you are growing up now, and she needs to trust the way she has raised you thus far, that you will make good decisions with your own money and you need the freedom to do this in order to continue growing up.
2007-11-10 09:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here I kinda hate mine mom cause she take mine money and spent for her self and like i told her I need Moore clothes causes is mine money.. And she never gave me mine own money like $300 every months for me.. I don't know if she do love me and I am waiting for her to buy me own bed and stuff like life is hard for me all the time and !my brothers dont really respect me like ho and so mean things and I'm trying my best to get a long with my brothers.. The only one who understand me is my aunts.. My mom is cArzy and I just hate her soooo much I wish she never was mine mom like my dad kinda understand me causes.
But when mine brothers is so mean and I hate mine brothers too. Cause one of mine brothers take mine stuff And put it in the black trashed can outside like he sure never touch my ****. My life is sad asf noone in mine life really understand me..
2016-10-05 14:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by Carolina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking this question to your school Guidance Counsler or anyone else in your family that is close to you
2007-11-10 09:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by islandbreeze9hs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your money why cant you do what you want? i think the best thing is to sit down with her and let her know how you feel about how shes acting. say it in a polite respectful way. and come upon an agreement. you only have one mom. so treat her with respect dont say you hate her, because shes so special because without her who do you have? theres only one of her.
2007-11-10 09:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about how you feel.. tell her how much you dont like what she's doing and be specific. make sure she completely understands how you feel. my mom always thinks everything is my fault too but i always tell her she's right and she gets annoyed so either way its a win-win.
2007-11-10 09:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by lindaa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to your mom and tell her to let go a little tell her you are growing up but talk to her but be nice when you do it in a nice way.i ll have more advise later for you
2007-11-10 10:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by TINK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋