Hi everyone... i need advice : (
Ive always been a daddys girl... We would always cuddle on the couch, watch movies, and id go everywhere with him. My dad was the principal of my christian school, and head deacon at my church. I looked up to him very much.
Then his life came crashing down... he had an affair, my mom found out and took me and the cats to live in apartment.. they got a divorce shortly after.
My dad and i havent really been seeing each other since this happened. A year ago this month.
I think im ready to see him again, hes my dad. i love him.
So we made plans to meet this afternoon.
He wants me to go back home w/ him (where i lived b4) and well rent a movie and talk and stuff. I know he wants it to be like old times... cuddling and stuff. But it almost feels weird. I feel like his past life w/ me and mom was a lie. I feel like i dont know him. how do i get over this? I love him but i feel it will be akaward and i dont know what to do.
2007-11-10 03:40:55 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you should go hang out with him,ask him if they can work stuff out like you go see him evryother weekend. ask ur mom if yoou can hang with him on some holidays like thanksgiving. i wish u the best of luck daddys girl i hav the same problem right now 2.
2007-11-10 03:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is strange and a bit shocking when you find out your parents are human and can make mistakes.
I think before you both go and watch movies, you should go and have lunch and talk about your feelings. Be honest with him and yourself. He probably doesn`t want to talk about it either, it is just easier not to and to try to act like it never happened and just do what you used to do.
That is not healthy and may result in you resenting him. I do not think your past life with him was a lie. He just fell into satan`s trap. Jesus forgives and in time with an open relationship with your mom and dad, you will too.
2007-11-10 03:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hear him out. He made a mistake; he's human. He's now paying for it. He loves you and misses you. He didn't have the affair to hurt you. Try to forgive him.
2007-11-10 03:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by justme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋