My partner and i have a 8 month old daughter and 1 on the way, we live across the rd from his parents and we have had problems with them for awhile because they dont like me but i never knew because they were nice to me but bitched about to other family members. The last time i seen my MIL was in August at lunch with other family members and when i got home my partner rang me and said that his mum was mad i didnt get up from my lunch to say hello to her when she had arrived late!! The last time my partner seen them was about 1 week after that and he had a fight with them when they admitted they dont like me because i dont have any respect for them cos i dont call them "MUM" & "DAD"! and that they know they will see the day that i leave with the kids and leave my partner with nothing! So we havent spoken to them in almost 4 months! So its almost xmas and i think my partner needs to talk to them again soon cos they have missed out on so much with our daughter and we are expecting another
2007-11-10 12:53:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
In March 08. So i need to know how he can go about talking to them again as i think he is nervous and should i push him too or just leave him to do it IF and WHEN he is ready?? He is pretty stubborn and so is his parents.
2007-11-10 12:55:01 · update #1
OMG you ppl are ridiculous!! There is no big deal that 2 people are not married you all need to get over it and dont give answers unless they are ACTUALLY HELPFUL
2007-11-10 13:32:17 · update #2
Your in laws may not like you - you may not like your in laws
BUT: you have beautiful children who can benefit a lot from being with their grandparents.
The GOAL here is not to push anyone to mend anything until they are ready.
The GOAL here is to make sure that despite any "adult" conflict - that the children are able to visit with their grandparents.
Of course, grand parent visitation should be shut off if the grandparents talk smack about you, hit them or do drugs, etc... But that doesn't sound like it will be the case.
Don't make the children suffer because you "adults" have conficting personalities.
2007-11-10 13:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont get why you want to interact with them. Why is it you think your partner needs to talk with them? Its not your business if he talks with them since you are not even married. Leave your husband alone, dont talk with him about his family and let him do what he wants as far as visiting them or not -alone. If you are smart you and he will move far away from his family. I dont mean to be harsh but without being married you have no say
2007-11-10 13:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try marrying your "partner" then they may respect you more.Also apologize for shacking when you should have demanded marriage or nothing.This will show them you have character.
Learn how they want to be treated and treat them that way.You now know your "mum" likes for people to stand when she enters a room.So stand when enters a room.
2007-11-10 13:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
obviously ur inlaws dont even care about ur kids if they could go this long without even talking to u guys. i think u should just leave well enough alone, and let the old hags deal with their own guilt of not getting to know their grandkids.
2007-11-10 13:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my question is this...why do the adults act like the children?
2007-11-10 13:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this a tough one , GOOD LUCK
2007-11-10 13:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋