I'm 18 years old, and go to college. My parents are divorced, both side remarry. I live with my mom and my stepdad. They have been married one and half years. They want to have a baby. My mom is almost 44 years old and is hard to conceive. However, i keep on worrying, and I DON"T want them to have a baby. i keep on complaining in front of my mom, and my mom says i am being very selfish. That i shoud give out more love instead of demanding for more. Because maybe i don't want them to have a baby because i feel i'd be the outside. I am an only child. So is she right?
2007-11-10 11:47:07 · 12 answers · asked by ginger_spic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you want your mom telling you how many children you can have and when to have them? ???
If not, then you can understand how ridiculous your request is.
Stay out of your mom's business. Deciding to have a baby is a very personal decision and the last thing you should do is to put your 2 cents in on it.
If you have "issues" with it, get therapy to fix your problem. Don't reflect your insecurites onto your mom.
2007-11-10 11:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dina K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 years old when my dad and my stepmother had my little brother...Talk about a blast! I loved every minute of it. You are in college and starting your life. How often are you going to be home? Every weekend? Once a month? What does it matter if your mom and stepdad want a baby? And do you honestly know what you might be missing? A little girl or boy who might just think that you are greatest thing next to sliced bread...And might just want to be just like you. So why deny something that could be the coolest thing in all of your lives? I am 42, and my brother is 23. We hang out together outside of family holidays, we like the same music, like the same jokes, and have a blast together. He calls me twice a week just to gab...and I know that if I need help, he will be there in a minute, and he knows that I will do the same for him...So it is all on how you approach it...Either accept it and be surprised on how much fun it can be...Or don't and you can run the risk of being an outsider which is what you are afraid of anyhow....
2007-11-10 12:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by m p 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think your mom is right. but think about this, you will soon be out on your own with your own life and things will be different between you and your mom just because of that. there is no reason she shouldn't have a baby with her husband. i think it's great that she wants to. and just because she has a baby doesn't mean your relationship with her will change. you can still have a great relationship with her. no matter if you are 2 or 20 when your mom has a second child, she still loves you as much as she ever did and will never love the second child more than she loves you. try to see it as a positive thing. you could have a sibling and it could be more fun for you this way. if and when you embrace the idea, there would be so many things you could do with this child than you ever could have if you had a sibling when you were just a child yourself.
2007-11-10 12:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being selfish. Your only thinking of yourself. That's what makes you selfish. You have the right to feel the way you do but you also need to treat others in your life the way you'd like them to treat you. Such as lending moral support (even if you disagree). Your eighteen, your in college, you are soon going to become more possessed with leading your own life. You'll begin to not have as much time for your family (parents) as you begin your career and move into adulthood. Which is perfectly normal and acceptable, living your life by your standards to meet your needs is what we all do (to varying degrees at times). You mom should have the right to do so as well, your not a child anymore, why would you want to lock yourself into this position in life? Support your mom and enjoy having a baby brother or sister, life is short, enjoy yours and let them enjoy theirs.
2007-11-10 12:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your being very selfish, your mom is going love you no matter what, you have to know that. And your 18! almost an adult its time for you to wrap your mind around the fact that at your age you and mom's relationship is going through a transition, but she will still love you to pieces, your her first born! You should be excited about the addition to your family, this little person is going admire and look up to you. So yes your being selfish, but your aware of it, and sounds like you want to change, which is good.
2007-11-10 11:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kiki from K-town 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as the only child for so long you have a right to feel the way you do but you are also being selfish because you are only considering your own happiness and not your moms. besides you are grown its time to get your ow life and let mom live hers. you sound more like a 12 year old than 18 year old
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2016-10-16 01:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grown let your mom be happy, although I'd worry about her from a health point of view as well as for the baby.
Old Granny Woman having a baby!
She will be 65 when that kid is 20.
2007-11-10 11:56:31 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You feel the way you do. Right or wrong that's your feeling. You have expressed your feeling and they know about it. If it is right for them they will do what they want and you have to decide if you will be included or not by your actions. If you alienate yourself then they will exclude you if you embrace the new baby then you will be every bit as important as the new baby.
2007-11-10 11:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are being selfish. Your mom is remarried to this man and they want to have a baby together. You should be suportive of them.
2007-11-10 11:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋