Family - November 2007

A friend of mine lost her husband 2 years ago, she had 1 child with him. They were a very well off upscale family...she had only met his brother twice during their 10 year marriage. Since her husbands death they started talking and grew closer over 2 years...eventually they started dating with the family's blessing. Now they are engaged to be married.
Personally I don't care as long as they are happy but I'm intrested in what other people think about this situation?
Is it wrong?
I know a long time ago it was considered "the right thing to do"
If your brother died you would marry his wife, but not so much these days.

2007-11-09 16:24:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

How did you move on and did you ever get over it. My mom passed away in August and I have been so busy between work and handling her estate that I haven't had time to really heal. It was so unexpected and sometimes I still can't believe that this is reality. Moving on is just so hard.

Some days I can barely function right, especially the times I am alone. It's also made me a little distant and my girlfriend sometimes doesn't understand. She has been there for me through it all and she is my heart. The way I am right now though is just a little tough for her I think. I also have so many family members asking me if I want to join them for Thanksgiving and I don't know what to do. It's only one day and so many people. Nothing feels right anymore.

2007-11-09 15:59:34 · 7 answers · asked by Veritas et Aequitas () 7

My mom was with this idiot for 10 years and put me through alot of emotional pain because i had to suffer with her through her relationship. Then she finally decided that she could not "handle me" so she told me to move with my dad. After that, her and her boyfriend split up and she told me she wanted me to be back with her by the end of summer and it is now november and she has not once mentioned me coming back to her. She seriously is so selfish now, she buys herself all these new clothes, an ipod, she goes out with her friends, she has no job.. and everytime i come to visit her if we get in a fight she threatens to take me back to my dads. Recently we got in a huge fight and she didnt talk to me for three weeks except for a text message saying "miss you", then i called her and tried to talk about things, she said she was busy and couldnt argue with me and i said i cant handle her being in my life if she cant change and she said maybe we shouldnt be apart of eachothers lives anymore.

2007-11-09 15:56:38 · 5 answers · asked by tiun 2

My boyfriend of eight years has started using drugs (meth) and his attitude has really changed. We hardly talk and he goes and sleeps on the couch. Four years ago we got in a big fight and I left with our 2 year old son to a shelter. I had to talk to a social worker and they opened up a case. I found out while in the shelter that I was pregnant with our son who is now 3. We got back together about 2 months later and things were going good until last night. we got into a fight because I came home from work and our lights were shut off for none payment, which he pays. He hit me and blood was pouring everywhere, I took our 2 boys to the police depart. and they arrested my husband and called social services on me! they have my other incident on file and are now saying they might take my children from me! luckily I had the money and our lights are back on but they said I'm going to have to take parenting classes and the father once out of jail can't come back. any helpful suggestions?

2007-11-09 15:37:13 · 12 answers · asked by TM25 3

I am 18 and i live with my boyfriend... My dad got my perscription of my inhaler for me and brought it over and refused to give it to me cause i couldnt find my cell phone to give to him isnt it against the law to with hold my medication from me? My boyfriends mom called my mom to try and tell her and my dad picked up the other line and told her to bring his kid home and yada yada yada and he is gunna call the cops if she doesnt (Im 18) and yeah... So she is gunna have a police escourt to my parents house to get my enhaler does he have to give it to them then?

2007-11-09 15:28:15 · 9 answers · asked by brighteyedgrl74191 1

He is very happy and full of life. Get's all A's in school and is emotionally stable. He tells me daily how much he loves me and thinks of my partner of 21 years as his daddy. Yet, we can't adopt him because we are gay. Is that fair?

2007-11-09 14:52:06 · 24 answers · asked by Slender V 1

I am 33 yrs old and one day I was hanging out w/ my Aunt and we went over to a friend of her's home where my dad does odd jobs.
I happened to tell my mom we went and saw him at the friends house and she got angry. My parents have been divorced since I was 5 yrs old, as he was abusive.
Well when I told my mom I had seen him she got angry and called him names and said I could no longer see my Aunt.
I know she has a right to probably still be angry w/ him about the abuse but when she said I couldn't see my Aunt anymore that really hurt my feelings,as my Aunt is the only person I can speak w/ about personal issues because when I speak w/ my mom she raises her voice and when I ask why she raises her voice she accuses me of starting a fight w/ her and to just drop it.
I am just wondering how I should handle this and why does she raise her voice when I try to speak w/ her calmly?
I would appreciate any healthy/good advice...thank you.

2007-11-09 14:46:15 · 5 answers · asked by sandiegogal2002@yahoo.com 3

I dated this guy in high school and have been together off and on since July *7 years * we have a beautiful 4 year old son .
This man has put me in so much pain and heart ache . He was in a totally different life style then I was he did drugs drank hung out with people who didn't have families etc . He * I believe cheated on me* He Hit me he always left me with our son home alone all the time *everyday* he would wake up and leave and go for the day to where ever he could get high and just be away from me . I got enough courage to go back to school and do something with my life and I told him he either starts working and helping with our son or he needed to go .He chose to leave a month later he got in a horrible car accident that left him in a coma and now with brain injuries which killed me to the unimaginable I tried everything I could to get to him *his family hates me cause I am white and I had a child out of wedlock * which is another reason I left cause I wanted to be loved not

2007-11-09 14:36:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-09 14:27:26 · 4 answers · asked by SEXINESS 3

my parents don't frekin let me do anything! i'm getting so pissed! the lateis i can stay out is like 6:00 pm, i can't spend the night at any of my friends house unless my parents know them, every where i go i have to call them and tell them where i am, if i go to the mall with my friends one of my parents have to be with us at all times what fun is that?! the only fredom i have is at school. i can't go anywhere without planing ahead like 3 weeks, cuz my parents have to know where i'm going, who i'm with, how long i going, and if theres gonna be someone over the age of 18 with us.

2007-11-09 13:45:09 · 41 answers · asked by Daina 1

i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years . we have talked about after we both get out of college we'd like to get married. The other day his step mom let it slip that he had gotten an engagment ring. When i asked him about it he siad it was true and said that he wanted to give it to me very soon. I'm worried that when he does i won't be able to tell them the truth about our engagment. I'm only seventeen, but i have no intention of getting married until after college. My dad is very strict about guys. When i had my frist boyfriend he didn't talk to me for a whole weekend and i was in 8th grade and it wasn't even like a real boyfriend. I just don't want them to over react and veto the idea. should i just hide it?

2007-11-09 13:43:07 · 8 answers · asked by dominospizza2610 1

2007-11-09 13:24:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-09 13:23:47 · 2 answers · asked by Chris L 1

im 14 and ive never done drugs,sex Ect.
but my older brother almost died from drugs and my parenst fear i will turn out like him. i cant even walk my friend home who lives 3 min away from my house. what should i do?

2007-11-09 12:42:06 · 6 answers · asked by Gabby M 1

my sister died when I was 4
suddenly
i have become heaps sad and think about it alot....although it is 13 years later.....
could this be me griving..which i couldnt do when i was 4?

2007-11-09 12:19:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad never acts like I'm an important person in his life. He treats my mom like a queen and me like crap. My mom's even worse. She never acts like I'm there. Only if the house is dirty (which is 24/7) and she tells me I'm stupid and retarded whenever I'm doing something wrong with my nephew. I'm only twelve and my heart's already broken. I feel so unloved. I'm the youngest of my siblings and they're all treated like gold while I'm being pushed into the background. What should I do?

2007-11-09 12:12:29 · 13 answers · asked by Luvahlee 2

So in the end of August, my great uncle died of pancreas cancer. It is not like I was that close to him, but I loved him. Then in the beginning of October, my favorite cat ever, ran away. I LOVED THAT CAT TO DEATH! Then yesterday, my great aunt died on the other side of the family, I wasn't to close to her either, but again, I LOVED HER! I didn't cry for any of them! I was so sad, but no tears could come out. I wasn't holding them back, they just never came! WHY NOT!

2007-11-09 12:10:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I grew up in one town, and one house.

2007-11-09 11:57:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i love my mom more because she had me, raised me up and brought me into this world. how about u?

2007-11-09 10:31:59 · 20 answers · asked by x0_ErOtiCA_0x 1

No cards, no happy birthdays, no cakes nothing! Ugh even when i told them thanks for telling me happy birthday (sarcasitcly) they didnt say anything. What a great birthday. I feel like crying right now.

2007-11-09 10:26:30 · 17 answers · asked by s_02 5

If you do what are their names ?.Mine are Austin,Andre, Jason Javion, Kimaya, Alexis, Isaiah and the baby Nevaeh.

2007-11-09 09:35:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

How many and what ages? Names if you want to..
I'll start. I have Jessica,Desiree' and Zach.
T4

2007-11-09 09:28:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 4 and 2 year old and they think it's funny to beat on me. They'll stand up on the bed while I'm laying down with them then "fall" over, elbowing me. Or they'll jump my back and hop up and down. Or if we're sitting, they'll pull my hair or hit me. They think it's funny & I'm the only one they do it to. I put them in time out every time, but they just keep doing it- Do they hate me?

2007-11-09 08:41:42 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

Thanksgiving is coming up and I was wondering what we could do besides eat, watch the parades, races and play card games. We have 3 generations so we need either several things or something everyone can do. Your ideas are really appreciated.

2007-11-09 07:19:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live with my boyfriend of 6 years, and just recently we had his mother move in with us. She has been living with his sister and that is longer working out. She doesnt have a car or a job and lives of a fixed income of $500.00 But thats besides the point I'm getting at. Anyways, we (me and my boyfriend) got a kitten he is now 5 months old. She kept saying, "the cat will end up getting attached to me cuz i will be with it all day. Mandy's cat ( my boyfriends sister), got attached to me too, so yours probably will do the same.", not meaning harshly just telling us. Well lately I get so P.O.ed every time she starts playing with him when I am at home and its like a feeling of jealousy and it overwhelms me!!! I get all red in the face every time she says "kitty kitty kitty" and plays with him! I know its sounds childish and petty but i just want to smash her face in everytime! Its like she WANTS the cat to get attached to her on purpose! I am 27 years old and need some advise, HELP!

2007-11-09 07:16:23 · 40 answers · asked by VMG 3

Do you have a favorite child? I've just always wondered if parents have favorites.

2007-11-09 07:16:12 · 9 answers · asked by christine 2

from his parents. his father is my brother and he and his mother was never married. A few weeks ago I was ill and he had a dental appointment and I ask her to take him. I don't exactly knnow what the conversation was between them, but now I am the bad guy.She told him I was too strict and he needed more freedom. He wants to hangout after school with his friends at Burger King and I want him home. She said I should give him a curfew. I told him he had one and it was home after school and in the house at dark. I also told him when he got older he would be able to do more things and have more freedom. Am I wrong?

2007-11-09 07:13:53 · 17 answers · asked by gypsyvagirl 2

well my mom's been saying stuff about me behind my back to my sibs and it's eventually going to get to me, which it did.

and i've just lost my appettite ever since,
and had second thoughts for if my mother loves me for real or not. it hurt alot. like ALOT. more than you could ever know.

i'm tired of crying.
and i still love my mom but i don't know what to do.
and i'm somewhat lost,
cause she can't accept me for who i am, i guess.
for the things that i love and like.
no support, just from my dad. i love my dad.
cause he believes in me and has high hopes.
without him, i wouldn't have stayed strong.

but my mom, she's critical on me and it really does hurt to have someone like that bring you down.

2007-11-09 07:04:52 · 7 answers · asked by IMBroken 2

All my life my parents fought & Ive never been able to let my feelings flow and take care of myself. But it's so hard. Last week my parents got in a fight & still ahven't resolved nething (theynever do). so today my mom was like ,"Tell your dad not to put his dirty dishes around im sick of his messes." And they always talk bad about eachother behind eachother's backs to me and my sister> Sometimes I feel like I lose concentration of how I feel in between their fights. Or like I dont even have emotions to begin with. My self esteem gets hurt too. I told my mom today I don't want to take care of her dirty work and she said, "No your not doing that." But she doesnt take my emotions into fact but rather its lke I either have to be in debt to her and be used to be "a good daughter" or I'm selfish and "like my father". It's so frustrating sometimes! What should I do to finally stand upfor myself because sometimes I feel like i don't think about my feelings sometimes and don't get vulnerable.

2007-11-09 06:58:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i asked the first question,but i did'nt ask it right .when i confronted my brother in law and my sister they say i need to mind my own business now i want to kick his *** .

2007-11-09 06:56:52 · 21 answers · asked by mustangs5875 1