Ithink that my grandma likes my cuzin more than mi what should i do?

Answer 1

Sweetie, don't let it bother you so much. I'm sure your grandma does love you, but maybe doesn't show it the way you'd like her to. Maybe she gets to spend more time with your cousin and that's the difference you see in the way she treats her. I see how my mother in law treats her grandchildren so differently and that IS awful... she buys expensive gifts to her daughter's kids at least four times a week, or every time she goes out shopping; but for her sons' kids, she buys absolutely nothing. Now this is obvious favoritism, and it's not that I'd want her to give gifts to her sons' kids every day, I'd just like for her to at least try to not boast about it in front of everybody, but she's so ignorant, she doesn't even realize what she's doing and how much it hurts the rest of her grandchildren.

Answer 2

Grandmother's don't take an oath to love all their grandchildren equally. Sometimes they see one grandchild more often than another thus have the opportunity to get to know him/her better. Some grandchildren are more like their parents than others which also gives them a special bond or maybe they have more interests and hobbies in common with their grandparent.

Basically, you can't do anything about it but you shouldn't let it bother you so much. Life is never equal or fair. I'll bet your grandmother DOES love you and love is love. Be sure to show your appreciation when she does do things for you and that will help.

Answer 3

The only thing you can do is continue to treat her with respect and be there to help her with things she can't always do ~ or just be there to share time with her. Ask her about her growing up years and learn "who" she is and you may understand more why she is like this. Most older people like to talk about their past and share that with others.

My grandmother and I were very close for many years and part of that had to do with my working on our family tree and discussing things with her. It was interesting to hear her tell stories of her growing up years in the early 1900s and how different life was in the 1980s. I also went to her place all the time and helped her with things around the house and took her to the doctor and set up her medicine for her after she had a stroke. She may not change her attitude towards you but you will at least have a peace of mind knowing you were the "adult" in this relationship :) and that you always treated her with respect.

You might start working on your genealogy with her while she is still alive, something that will draw you closer if she is willing to share stories with you and tell you what she can about her ancestors. Go to this link to get started (this is free)

http://www.rootsweb.com/

Enter the name in the Roots Web area and hit enter, then when you get to the next page, look to see if there are listings in World Connect. Click on that and start browsing. Remember that this information is just what others have entered so it isn't always correct. As you get older and are able to drive and do things on your own, you can then research and verify the information for your own files.

There are forms you can get to help you fill in or if you really want to do this, I highly recommend having someone buy you the Family Tree Maker for your computer so you can compile all your information there and then print up blank forms or pages for your book with the information you have entered.

You can also get information here which help explain things a bit more:
http://genealogy.about.com/library/onestop/bl_beginner.htm
http://genealogy.about.com/od/basics/a/internet.htm

There are lots of sites online but most cost an arm and a leg so work with the freebies first and see what you find. When you go to RootsWeb, you can also go to the Message Boards (tabs at top of page) and read what others have posted and post your own questions as you go along.

And like the first poster said, learn from this so history doesn't repeat itself through you. It hurts when you get treated this way but it is a part of life and it's going to happen alot through the years so learn to overlook others when they do things like this and find people who will be true friends to you. You can't change them, they have to want to do that themselves.

Answer 4

learn to accept others at face value... and move on.

you could also learn a lesson about how to treat kids when you grow up. don't show favoritism. it hurts feelings.

im sure there are many people in your life who love you dearly. depend upon them!