Family - November 2007

My uncle has been supporting his three children and their mother for years; however, all these years she has been always asking only for money. She doesn't even ask my uncle if he is okay or getting sick. I know she loves him because they have three children out of wedlock. Not married because my uncle was petitioned by my grandmother before as single. The mother of his children constantly ask for extra money and lied to him.She was also asking money for support from her sister in the U.S.My uncle thought the money was not enough but really it was more than enough. She would cuss my uncle. Recently, my unlce had a problem with his eldest daughter, new to U.S. who wants just to have friends and boyfriend. The mother took side with the daughter. The daughter is rebelious and disrespectful with my uncle, slept in a friend's house or maybe the BF house doesn't call. Let us worry. She just want to do want she wants to do. Mother told daughter that her father is stupid and ignore him.

2007-11-08 09:29:47 · 1 answers · asked by Kittytweetie 2

I'm confused. My sister who is 19 yrs old new to U.S. as well, she was adviced to just focus on studies and work since she is not that mature yet. Don't know the system. Relatives are the ones helping us with room and board and taking care of us. My sister found new friends who happen to be not that very good plus was introduced to a guy and he became her boyfriend in less than two weeks. She promised to stay away from friends and boyfriend. When she started working, behind our father and relatives back, she has been seing her bad influence friends and boyfriend. She has been lying and told our brother not to tell anyone. So now, our Aunt in California wants us to move there. I'm a minor. What should I do? Are my relatives and father wrong for advicing her to focus on job and studies first. My sister doesn't pay rent nor help around the house. She spent the night on a friends house when my father found out that she has been lying. She did not call. Should I come with my sister

2007-11-08 09:07:49 · 2 answers · asked by Kittytweetie 2

when i started to date my partner my parents was very nice to him and even let him stay at there house.
My oldest brother hates him and wont tell me why. He talks to him like a child.
please give me some advice as my partners doesnt want me to have anything to do with him but he is my brother.

2007-11-08 09:01:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Basically me and me and my parents have been arguing alot all week...I went like out and didnt come back till 1130 ish one night but that was because i had a black out && this girl had an accident! I couldnt tell them this because they get even more worried && they dont let me out!!!!

Anyway another night i went out but i didnt get back till 11 && basically they just started arguing with me saying they dont trust me because my cousin had seen me going to bradford && with people or something!! when i wasnt!!! i dont even go bradford???? && then there was another day when school rang && said i want at school but it was all a mix up because i was there!!! But since then we have been arguing alot && they have been saying some really harsh things to me about being adoped etc && so i obviously got madd!! && now i have made the situation worse but im not even allowed to go out now...the only place i can go is to someone house to babysit because they need me to do it!!!!

2007-11-08 08:39:25 · 3 answers · asked by no name 3

When he was to turn 15 he made mistakes, lied. He used to be a good boy, very close to me, but I got hurtm said he had lost my trust and it'd be hard to get it back. He got devastated, cried, pleaded, but I was hard on him. It took me 6 months to trust him again, though he never messed up again. It was a hard time to him, he got emotionally disturbed, suffered, got depressed. But he got over, he found people who gave him trust among teachers and in a church where he voluntered. When I finaly trusted him again it was a hard surprise to learn my trust wasn't so important to him anymore. He told me he still liked me but was hurt, I hadn't acted as a mom, should never have told him he had lost my trust, never belived I thought about his best. He could understand a punishment, but never what I did.Actually, he made us proud but a starnger, never shared his life w/ us agai. Today he's doing great, a dr in Math, married, will be a father in 3 months and I got to know because a friend told m

2007-11-08 08:05:18 · 28 answers · asked by Helen 1

im 16yrs young.
and lately i have screwed
everything up.
i missed more than half the
school year and i have all
f's. they just found out.
i tried running away but
i came back the
same night
and i have just been
getting in so much trouble.
my parents think
i dont love them.
but i do i love them with all my
heart.
how can i tell them
that???

2007-11-08 07:59:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter has a horrible tongue when it comes to her father, she yells at him, gets mad when we dont have extra money for her and says it is his fault he needs a better job, she isnt this way towards me and it is upsetting to me that these two are always arguing. I love them both very much and want a way to get her to respect him as she does me.......

2007-11-08 07:48:28 · 11 answers · asked by Shaunna C 1

ok i'll start from the beginning i know its long but please someone give me advice? My cousin lives in wv and i live in ga. we have known each other since we were 6. Her baby died 3 months ago and she is going through a hard time and doesn't have any money so I bought the baby's headstone and told her she could come and stay with me I even sent her 100 dollars to come down to ga. As soon as she came down here she was snorting pills left and right I had oral surary the same day and she stole all of my pills and did something with my antibiotics since we locked all my meds up well just the ones she would take. I have a brain dicease so i have alot. well she was asked about then lied of course but I believed her and just though i forgot what I had done with them. Then I caught her stealing my keys to break into my parents house to look for pills and this time my neighbor caught her and so did I. her fianc"e never did anything like that so I felt bad for him.

2007-11-08 07:46:20 · 3 answers · asked by babydoll12383 2

My mother-in-law is a very old, sickly, pious, annoying woman who loves to guilt trip us into visiting her frequently with our toddler daughter (even though she lives 4 hours away) by saying we don't love her. I want to find a nice Christmas gift for her that will make her happy and maybe get her to lay off with the whining for more visits! I thought of giving her a quilt I'm making out of my daughter's old baby clothes--but I was making it for ME and I selfishly want to keep it! I'm torn! Part of me wants to give it to her and say, "See? If we didn't care about you I wouldn't give this to you! Now leave us alone!" but the other part of me wants the quilt. :( What should I give her?

2007-11-08 07:41:09 · 11 answers · asked by Jacqueline D 4

I am 26 , my dad and his new wife have 8 kids , my dad asked me to come stay and help w/ getting the kids up in the morning , feeding clothing , laundry and bossing kids into doing chores (wich often means threatening) , while he and his wife work , but when they get home i continue to be on call , it was originally to be in lieu of rent to do these things for a basement aprtment for me and my son , but then they changed their mind and put me in a small room upstairs , i was orginally supposed to come and go as i please after 6 , no i need permission , and my dad has started saying that i must ask every night my boyfriend stays over , which i humilateingly enough do , which i dealt with then he started saying that my bf couldnt stay over unless he was (my dad at home) my bf is a school teacher , dresses acts professional is out of the house by 5 every morning , he helps with chores , the kids and helps clean the house w/ me. Does this sound a bit unfair ?

2007-11-08 07:34:48 · 37 answers · asked by Dissonance 2

My husband and his family do not celebrate Christmas whereas my family and I do (we're of different religious backgrounds)
We have an almost two-year-old little boy.
Here's the dilema: His parents want to keep our son for two weeks right during the Christmas holidays, as that's when everyone in their family is off, and although they don't celebrate Christmas, they still get together (like a reunion type thing ) They have a big family and this is when people are able to get together.
My family, though, is really looking forward to spending the holidays with our son, as am I.... we've already bought gifts for him and a stocking and everything. Everyone's excited....
My husband is telling me that it's selfish of me to want to keep our son with us for the holidays when we see him all the time and his family hardly ever gets to see him (they live across the state) and I think it's selfish of him and them to not keep him the couple of weeks before Christmas. Who is right?

2007-11-08 07:29:10 · 8 answers · asked by shellj_foxy 3

my gran had to go to my uncles house for diwali. she didnt want to stay so then she made up stupid excuses and came back. now becoz of her ma mum n dad hve split up n ma dad wants 2 throw ma gran out of da house. im stressed alredy coz of ma gcses and now dis is another problem. wat should i do???????plz answer!!!!!

2007-11-08 06:34:37 · 9 answers · asked by >o_OStarry Eyed>VandazZ 3

My older brother Kale is 21. I have 18 and 19 year old brothers also, but they are not like this. I got pregnant with my boyfriend and I am 16. Kale has always been the "don't hurt my baby sister" one. He went to Adam's house a few days ago and was like "Did you rape Taylor?" "answer my bast*rd" Wtf is wrong with you?" He was like getting physical too. How do i get him to stop? i have to watch him constantly now so he dosent kill him. I have a huge family (3 older bros + 4 step siblings) My mom and step dad (my mom is pregnant) My step dad and kale like are going to kill Adam? I don't want the pressure on the baby either.

2007-11-08 06:24:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

im sick of the relationship im in with my girlfriend, weve been together for nearly 4 years now. At the beginning she was very insecure, i got her through all of that helped her in everyway i possibly could re-assured her, didnt go out without her. after 2 years she got through it. the trust was there. however she always flips out when she feels like it, shes a gemini (split personality) again i accommadated for this and helped her through it calmed her down etc. Anyway just recently shes going crazy flying off the wall over everything, i havent got the patcience anymore to hold her hand through it. I hate the way she talks to me when shes upset. What do i do, i moved down to her hometown to be with her, i have no family here but a good support network of friends that i work with. Do i dump her, quit my job and move home where my family are, work at the relationship or dump her and carry on living here????

2007-11-08 06:21:37 · 6 answers · asked by deadhead 1

Before I even begin to detail the conundrum I find myself in with my younger brother, may I just quickly state what a positive bundle of energy this young Miley Cyrus truly is? I can see her as being the one person that can save and unify the American music scene!

Getting back to the question at hand. My brother is upset that I spent $5000 for 4 tickets and a limousine to the Hannah Montana concert in our city. It was my niece’s birthday and I wanted her to enjoy this landmark event in her life! My brother Robert states that he is trying to instill in his daughter a sense that you do not have to follow trends in order to be happy, and would prefer his daughter find interest in other activities.

As I stated to him, how absolutely silly he is being. He is absolutely leaving his daughter in peril of being left behind if she is not cognizant of what trends are around her.

My goodness, what is wrong with having a little fun?

Americans have such a difficult time appreciating the arts.

She absolutely enjoyed herself, and it was an absolute honor to help her celebrate her 5th birthday in such a wonderful fashion.

2007-11-08 06:20:49 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have made plenty of mistakes in my childhood and do now but I am trying to rectify those. As a result of my actions, my mom and I are no longer close. She loves me and I love her, but we no longer have a relationship. I miss my mom sorely. What should I do?

2007-11-08 06:14:25 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son's biological father was never around to help out in any way, my son is in his teens and I don't know how to tell or help him out whenit comes to his personal issues! and all of a sudden his father wants to be in his life. Is it right of him to just come into our life again after all these years, and now that I'm Happy where I'm at with my Husband. my husband even named my son after him?

2007-11-08 06:13:02 · 3 answers · asked by shibuddy 2

2007-11-08 06:05:06 · 13 answers · asked by shibuddy 2

Why do parents think they have the right to make you feel small? Why do parents think they know everything? Why do parents think they can answer your phone and put their nose in your business? Why are they so annoying?

2007-11-08 05:47:12 · 8 answers · asked by no name 3

I have recently had a family upset, not with my immediate family but an extension. I have grown up with these family member. Especially thier child, whom I have been close with since she was born. They recently have just stopped all communication with my immediate family
( mom, dad, and myself) I had nothing to do with it. They have never called me to see how I was doing since I just gave birth to my daughter. I think about them all the time. But they never call me. What should I do. All I want to do is keep in contact the their little girl, since they really don't care about me. I just miss them so much. I just don't know what to do.... HELP!!! I am so sad about this situation. I have actually called in the past. And I have never received a call back from them.

2007-11-08 05:40:23 · 5 answers · asked by zengarden 2

Hi, I have a serious situation, my 11 years step daughter, who doesn't like me much because her mother keep poisioning her mind against me.I tried my best to win her heart but all in vain.We are planning to go on long trip, wherever she goes with us, she keeps nagging, crying, throw tantrums and non stop talking. She won't let my husband discuss any serious matter even for one minute. She is very verbal and has lots of anger. Previously, I tried to take some music cds, Nintendo, books, her fav. food and toys. She has no interst in anything. All she wants attention and keep talking non-stop. Sometime, its annoying and give me headches. My husband won't go anywhere without her.And If I am holding my husband's hand, she will take him away and then I have to walk alone behind them. She is the only child so very spoiled, and my husband won't say anything to her. Now, I am very stressed and afraid going with her and I can't say no to my husband either, then it means I will stay home alone.

2007-11-08 05:35:19 · 3 answers · asked by truecolor 1

My mother had an addition put on her home so my grandmother would not have to be placed in an elderly home. She runs a business on her property and is trying to take care of her too. She's partially paralyzed on her right side but does not require a nurse so insurance won't help. It is physically taking it's toll on her. Her brother and sister refuse to contribute by sitting with their own mother or bringing her meals. When my mother wanted to hire a home healthaide worker they refused and my grandmother doesn't want one either.

They know she will not neglect my grandmother so she has no choice. My aunt and uncle work too but she just wants help on the weekends. Neither of them have spouses or children at home. They go on with their lives and my mother is taking care of her 24/7 and trying to run a business.

Any suggestions, she's under so much stress it's hard to sit back and be so

2007-11-08 05:32:54 · 6 answers · asked by Georgia Peach 4

My sister and my mom haven't spoken in 8 years. It's messy, but my sister decided to put her kids up for adoption because she was having some drug troubles and didn't think she could provide for them.

"I did what I thought was best - now they have a chance," she says. In her mind, making the decision to give the two boys up was difficult, but

The problem is that my mom takes this all very personally.

"She took my grandbabies away from me, and I can never forgive her, ever," she says, and the anger and in her eyes is geninuine. In her mind, raising a child is the only option - there is no other option, come what may.

Today, they still swear they will never say a word to one another. They speak of one another with such vile that it makes me nauseous; but I keep trying with each of them, explaining the other's point of view.

Now the old woman is getting sicker and it isn't looking good. What can I do to change it before it's too late?

Like mother, like daughter.

2007-11-08 05:29:13 · 3 answers · asked by Beb B 5

I am divored with joint custody of my kids. I am moving back in to my house in July of 2008. I got the house in the divorce and told her she could stay there until july 2008. Okay so I find myself with the kids about 75% of the time. I take them to all of thier practices, school functions, etc. She doesn't go to any of their events. Also, she doesn't get home until 7:00 at night from work. I pick up the kids after school and make them dinner and help with homework. She doesn't make dinner but orders take out and then she sits outside and smokes and talks on her cell phone while the kids watch TV or play X-BOX.
I am thinking of asking for full custody. Am I being fair to her? She isn't a bad mom; she doesn't abuse the kids or anything, but she doesn't pay attention to them or their needs. What are my chances of getting custody?

2007-11-08 05:18:04 · 8 answers · asked by mickey n 2

Had a heated argument with my parents on last Sunday & all becoz of my young bro's attitude. Was on my way to work, midway thru the bus journey, searched for office key & realized the key was left @ home. Called home asked my bro to help take the key down to office & I'll pay for taxi fare. Told me that he doesn't want to go by screaming & shouting @ top of his voice, said why am I like that & etc. Hung up his phone coz no point to listening him screaming, called my boss & colleague to ask client to postpone timing. Came home took key, slammed the gates & left for work. Came home pressed the bell, bro opens door, I slammed the gate & told him off. Told my mom to tell "his son" better change his stupid attitude. Told my parents off that if they were so good why not teach their son some manners. Dad got angry, both of us started a screaming comp. Dad dared me to hit him, told him I don't do such thing. Dad gave me 2 tight slaps on my face for not talking to them in a civilized manner.

2007-11-08 05:16:45 · 3 answers · asked by jermae_tan 2

my mothers house was catully put in the newpaper for being a health risk. she has bipolar and i was put in foster care at age 8 ue to the way she lives. i was wondering if this disorder is common to make people not care how they live. to collect 20 or more cats dogs animals and let them urinate and deficate all over the house and do nothing about it. leave furniture,clothes,trash piles in and out of the house. let the roach population get so bad they short out the fridge,microwave and a wall clock. fleas are so bad i was standing far from her home and my 8 month old was bitten. i feel so ashamed she lives like this but i dont know what can be done she wont change herself. does anyone have relatives with bipolar that live in these conditions. here is the newspaper article of her home. i live in boston ma and she lives in west virginia i found it online after she called and told me about it. http://www.hampshirereview.com/xnm/templates/general.asp?articleid=138&zoneid=6

2007-11-08 05:15:48 · 5 answers · asked by ? 3

I am 16 years old and my parents divorced when I was 8. I nver thought that it would have an affect on me like it has. I have done things that my parents never dreamed I would do. At the age of 14 I had sexual intercourse and tried on 2 counts to have a baby. I have been asking myself if my dads absence could be to partially blame for this but I'm not going to blame him completely. I don't even know how to explain to my mom that I may need to spend a little time with him for a while because she feels like his lifestyle is too much for me and all he's gonna do is let me grow up and be a teenager. I know how much it will hurt but it seems like he wants to be in my life but she keeps pushing him away

2007-11-08 05:13:20 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1

I have recently had a family upset, not with my immediate family but an extension. I have grown up with these family member. Especially thier child, whom I have been close with since she was born. They recently have just stopped all communication with my immediate family
( mom, dad, and myself) I had nothing to do with it. They have never called me to see how I was doing since I just gave birth to my daughter. I think about them all the time. But they never call me. What should I do. All I want to do is keep in contact the their little girl, since they really don't care about me. I just miss them so much. I just don't know what to do.... HELP!!! I am so sad about this situation.

2007-11-08 05:08:04 · 4 answers · asked by zengarden 2

...with two paragraphs. One saying "thank you", the other saying "I'm sorry".
What would you thank them for?
What you you apologize for?

2007-11-08 04:37:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm losing my mind with her and I just don't know what to do! I've tried everything I could think of. Any suggestions?

2007-11-08 04:37:09 · 33 answers · asked by Tabitha P 1