im sick of the relationship im in with my girlfriend, weve been together for nearly 4 years now. At the beginning she was very insecure, i got her through all of that helped her in everyway i possibly could re-assured her, didnt go out without her. after 2 years she got through it. the trust was there. however she always flips out when she feels like it, shes a gemini (split personality) again i accommadated for this and helped her through it calmed her down etc. Anyway just recently shes going crazy flying off the wall over everything, i havent got the patcience anymore to hold her hand through it. I hate the way she talks to me when shes upset. What do i do, i moved down to her hometown to be with her, i have no family here but a good support network of friends that i work with. Do i dump her, quit my job and move home where my family are, work at the relationship or dump her and carry on living here????
2007-11-08 06:21:37 · 6 answers · asked by deadhead 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am a gemini too and my bf n i also have similar problems however that ended the first 6months of the relationship and we have been together 5 years...
you know the answer you just need some reinforcement. -you need to end this unhealthy relationship!- but then you still have problems. you have dedicated the past 4 years to her, so do you stay or do you go back home? my help would be this... end the relationship with her but do it nicely, sounds like you still care or lover her. talk to her and tell her everything, it might hurt you to be hurting her, but the truth hurts and its what she needs. dont give her an ultimatum but tell her things are over and dont move. give her some time, things might change and you might be able to make things work. if nothing works then at least u tried again and thats that, move back home and find someone who will make you happy and have a 50/50 relationship!! GOOD LUCK!
2007-11-08 06:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by applesauce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all part of being in a relationship. Have you tried asking her why she thinks she is acting this way? Talking is the most important part of a relationship, that way you BOTH can deal with it and get through it. Surely, there must happytimes in your relationship? Why dont you suggest she goes to see her GP, she may be depressed. And that is not a nice thing to have, or be the partner either!
I wouldnt say dump her because of this. I would have a serious think about the relationship as a whole though. Try telling her how you feel, she may be so wrapped up in her feelings that she has forgotten yours. Talk to your network of friends and get their support as well, see what they think. Just talking about it will help you to deal with it in a better frame of mind. I would work at the relationship, but maybe give it a certain amount of time. If after that things havent changed, perhaps finish it and move on. As for continuing to live where you are that is entirely up to you. Could you live near to an ex or would it be to upsetting? You obviously loved her at the start because you moved away from your family, it would be ashame just finish it without BOTH of you making a big effort first.
I hope this helps a little, good luck
2007-11-08 06:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by jodee1kenobi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a gemini has nothing to do with the fact that your girlfriend acts out, is insecure and has these mood swings... apparently, she isn't a very rational thinker, and has no compassion for you, considering you say she says horrible things to you.
don't stay with her just because you feel sorry for her, or want to be her "caretaker"... that's not a good way to go about a relationship.
i don't know whether it would be better for you to move back to your home town, or if you like the area where you are now? the choice is yours... and right now, it's probably wise to DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU...!
take care.
2007-11-08 06:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through the same situation with my ex. I finally left and went home to my family I have never felt so relieved and in control in a long time. It was the best thing I have ever done. This is a dysfunctional relationship. please take care of yourself. If she does not understand that you care for her after all this time she never will. If you continue to let chaos run your life you will never have any peace. Geminis use that as an excuse. chaos breeds chaos. not peace
2007-11-08 06:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by sugar c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is do you love her? Only your heart can tell you what to do.I know things at 4years can be the turning point. I would try talking to her about the outbursts.Maybe she needs more from you, but you seem to be the one giving more than she is.Might be time to move on. Are you from a close family?
2007-11-08 06:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to let her get some profesional help. I think she needs more then what you can give her mentally. I do commend you for hanging in there with her, not alot of guys would do that. Now it's time for you to let her get some profesional help. This is not healthy for you or her.
Good Luck.
2007-11-08 06:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by Hates 2 B Harassed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋