My daughter has a horrible tongue when it comes to her father, she yells at him, gets mad when we dont have extra money for her and says it is his fault he needs a better job, she isnt this way towards me and it is upsetting to me that these two are always arguing. I love them both very much and want a way to get her to respect him as she does me.......
2007-11-08 07:48:28 · 11 answers · asked by Shaunna C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not your job to "get her to respect" her father... if he hasn't taught her respect, and shown her respect FIRST, then he might start doing so.
Your daughter sounds like a brat, i'm very sorry to say. She really knows how to kick her dad in the balls, doesn't she? telling him to get a better job? She's hateful, and unappreciative.
If i were your husband, i'd spank her.
2007-11-08 07:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have two questions that might help. How do you treat your husband, she had to have learned this behavior from someone. Do you listen and respect your husband in front of this brat? Secondly what do you do when she acts this way other then be upset, which by the way does zero for the situation.
I am sorry It sound to me like you are as much a part of the problem as she is, do you do anything when she does this to her father ? obviously she listens to you more then him, which is funny too. either way it puts you in the position of authority and power, it sounds to me like you are not using that position to your daughter's or husbands advantage. It sounds like you like being on her good side so you don't punish her outbursts.
2007-11-08 08:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Average Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't being corrected when she acts out. she needs to be punished when she acts this way towards anyone especially her parents. You must ground her or take her toys ( phone, games, PC, ) away from her for a set amount of time. I raised two girls and they never got away with disrespecting other people. Your girl is a little spoiled at this point and it will get worse as she comes into her teens. Any punishment you give, you NEED to stick to. NO MATTER how much or how long she CRIES about it!!.
Put your foot down now or face the terrible teens with fits of screaming and threats.
2007-11-08 08:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell her that you will not tolerate her behavior and what you to provide for her is the best and at the top of your list before any other obligations are up.Tell her that you and her father love her very much and she has to understand that any man or woman who works as hard as parents do now to make ends meat for the family is hard and that your trying to do the best you can,and it would be alot more easier on you and the father if she could understand that,and understand that she could help to and things may work better for the two of them and for all of you.I hope you the best of luck,and yes please let her know that with each day passes she is your main priority and nothing else matters.
2007-11-08 07:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she better adopt a better attitude or you will take away all of her prized possessions and she will have to earn them back. Take away her cell phone, iPod, TV, DVD player, CD player, radio, CD's DVD's, phone privileges, friend privileges, computer privileges, etc. Take it ALL away until she decides to act like a normal 10 year old and not some spoiled-rotten-brat-diva-punk-kid.
Tell her exactly how she can earn things back. No rotten, disrespectful attitude for 1 week gets her the iPod. 2 weeks of acceptable behavior gets her the TV or whatever. Tell her that every time she takes that kind of attitude with your or your husband, she will have all her belongings taken away again. You take away everything when she cops an attitude, but she can only get things back one item at a time.
Secondly, your husband needs to put his foot up her *** and put her in her place once and for all.
Tough love, sista!
2007-11-08 07:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow this must hurt to watch and listen to.
If your the one she respects than have a talk with her, let her know that her behavior is not acceptable & it wont be tolerated.
Dad should talk to her to. Plus It's none of her business how much your man makes, she sounds like a spoiled brat and i wouldent buy her everything she asks for, she might have issues if you always buy her what she wants and her daddy dosen't. So you arent helping the situation.
2007-11-08 07:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to step in and be a parent, as does her father.
NO ONE speaks to their parents like that. It's simple--tell her to get a job or stop complaining. Her parents were made to give her money to buy her extra things.
Take her to volunteer at a homeless shelter. Nothing is more humbling then working at a place where you serve people who have nothing.
2007-11-08 07:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh no she needs an attitude adjustment. Best way I know to do that is a good pop in the mouth or slap on the butt.
2007-11-08 07:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by TheLight 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ground her. U need let her now she needs to watch who she is talking 2 like that. She don't talk like to 2 her father. Make that clear.
2007-11-08 08:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom would have literally killed me!!!
spank dat *** and set her straight
hell--dont give her any money and make HER get a job!
2007-11-08 08:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋