My mother-in-law is a very old, sickly, pious, annoying woman who loves to guilt trip us into visiting her frequently with our toddler daughter (even though she lives 4 hours away) by saying we don't love her. I want to find a nice Christmas gift for her that will make her happy and maybe get her to lay off with the whining for more visits! I thought of giving her a quilt I'm making out of my daughter's old baby clothes--but I was making it for ME and I selfishly want to keep it! I'm torn! Part of me wants to give it to her and say, "See? If we didn't care about you I wouldn't give this to you! Now leave us alone!" but the other part of me wants the quilt. :( What should I give her?
2007-11-08 07:41:09 · 11 answers · asked by Jacqueline D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Keep the quilt. It is a momento of your baby -- and some day when she's an adult you'll want to give it to her. Would she like a pet for companionship, or would she be annoyed that you gave her something that requires tending to? Seems to me that no matter what you give her, she's not going to be happy; it's just her nature and her way to manipulate you. Buy her a nice robe or nightgown.
2007-11-08 07:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by justme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about making a memory book/scrapbook for her. You can put alot of pictures of her grand-child in it and add pictures of the erst of the family. You could even add some pictures from when she was younger, if you have any. Include favorite recipes and memorable stories. You could add some historical references like how much a gallon of gas cost when she was born versus how much it costs today.
You can decorate your pages with stickers, stamps, stencils, and other embellishments. Write your stories or captions of whatever with markers, colored pencils and crayons.
You can find relatively inexpensive albums and scrap-booking supplies at your local Dollar Tree, Wal-Mart, Target, K-Mart and Big Lots stores. You can also find specialty items at your local Michael's Arts & Crafts store or any scrapbooking stores that may be in your area.
Maybe the album will give her something to look at when you all aren't visiting. It will also show her how much you care for her because you will have taken the time and made the effort to give her something you handmade.
Hope this helps!
2007-11-08 07:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she is as old and sickly as you say I can't blame her for wanting to see her Grand daughter.
How much longer do you think she will be around. I would much rather have the gift of time than any monetary present you could give.
Take the time to establish a relationship your daughter will remember with fond memories. This shouldn't be about you. This really doesn't answer your question I just feel bad for her knowing she won't be around long to see her Granddaughter grow up.
2007-11-08 08:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep the Quilt.
Those are memories for YOU AND YOUR KID.you cant replace that. unless u make 2.
Give her a digital Photo frame or Keychain (they store about 10-20 pictures that change every 10 seconds like a slide show. just load the images from your computer)
2007-11-08 08:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by jean grey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT give her the quilt. But I don't really have ideas on what to give her. Have your daughter give her a homemade gift. My mom (who is a grandma) loves those types from the grandkids!
Good luck!
2007-11-08 07:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by screaming inside 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about a nice, matted and framed family portrait? A nice gift basket of consumable goods (like powders, lotions and soaps) from a bath and body store?
2007-11-08 07:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by DJ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she is old, sickly, pious, annoying, then why would you want to give her a christmas gift?
no one can make you feel guilty unless you are predisposed to that feeling, and have done something to cause YOURSELF guilt... you don't have to visit if you don't want to. Unless there is a new law which states a person must visit people they dislike intensely? If there is, i haven't heard of it yet.
2007-11-08 07:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why don't u just record a video for her, so that every time that she get feel lonely,, u can suggests to her to watch the video you recorded for her, make it long and a presentation about her. for being a mother in your spouse,, how you felt about her before your husband introduced you with her,and make all members of the family say something about her in that recorded video..that's all
2007-11-08 07:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by khen0619 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep the quilt as she will not appreciate it as you say she is old, and wants visits as she is lonly. I would give her a viedo of the kids playing, doing what ever that she could watch.
2007-11-08 08:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for my mom i got a soapcard
www.soapcard.com
u can customize ur own soaps for someone with a message and with 4$ more dollars u can add a picture on it to..i thk she will like it considering my mommiii loving it
remember its a SOAP soo she can use it in the shower also
2007-11-08 07:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by strawberries. 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋