My older brother Kale is 21. I have 18 and 19 year old brothers also, but they are not like this. I got pregnant with my boyfriend and I am 16. Kale has always been the "don't hurt my baby sister" one. He went to Adam's house a few days ago and was like "Did you rape Taylor?" "answer my bast*rd" Wtf is wrong with you?" He was like getting physical too. How do i get him to stop? i have to watch him constantly now so he dosent kill him. I have a huge family (3 older bros + 4 step siblings) My mom and step dad (my mom is pregnant) My step dad and kale like are going to kill Adam? I don't want the pressure on the baby either.
2007-11-08 06:24:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry i did'nt mention- adam is only 7 months older than me, 17.
2007-11-08 06:46:16 · update #1
Now you know why we older people tell you way to young people NOT to have sex until you are married!!!! This is what happens, everything gets screwed up when you do these things.
2007-11-08 06:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well getting pregnant at 16 is why there is a problem. Not lecturing you but you can obviously see why they are upset. You failed to mention how old Adam is. That is a big deal to what my answer would be. If he is 18 or older, he deserves the hassle from your brother, because that is statutory rape. If he too s 16, well then there is a situation in itself, his parents may have to call the law to get your brother and dad off his back. You can try talking to your brother but I doubt that would help. It shows that your brother cares for you a great deal. Has Adam talked with you about his plans for helping raise the baby. Or do you even know what you are going do yet. Because I am sure that is what your brother is thinking. Sit down and discuss with your brother and dad, and mother of course of what your plans are and have Adam present so they know what his attentions are. That is the only thing that might help them call off the dogs.
2007-11-08 06:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by sisinlovewithyou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They feel it's your bf's fault because you're only 16. It's easier to attack the older person in the situation, and because you're their family, they're naturally going to side with you. I'd say that aside from getting you pregnant at such a young age(you don't mention how old your baby's daddy is), that there is other conflict between your bf and your step brothers/dad.
The best way to deal with this is to have a family meeting, include your bf, and have it talked out. Either that, or set up a family counseling session with a professional.
Good luck.
2007-11-08 06:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by RetroDiva65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow from how you write this you are NOT ready for a baby! your 16 years old!! the questioning of your brother asking ur bf if he raped you makes it seem like he is older and you are not of age yet. I would sit the whole family down with the bf and have a family talk. If you are going to keep the baby (i dont believe in abortion over childish mistakes) you need to make sure your family is behind you and ur bf is right there next to you. let them know that this is causing you stress and your mother should know (since she is pregnant too) that it is not healthy. If your family does not understand you need to grow up and become an adult fast n on ur own!
2007-11-08 06:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by applesauce 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents need to stop and take a good, hard look at the reality of life. We are all sexual creatures, and sometimes teenaged pregnancy happens...
Your family will likely settle down after this all sinks in.. they are likely shocked at the news...
Having a baby is a huge responsibility -- one which will last at least 18 more years. So, i'm sure along with being shocked, your parents and family are scared for your future.
I am sure it will work out. take care ok?
2007-11-08 06:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a administration freak. And sure, he's ruining your son's formative years. He just about has no freedom good now. gazing Spiderman 3 and X-adult males 3 won't harm your son in the long-term. allowing your husband to limit your son's freedom will nonetheless. in case you enable your husband cage your son like a canine, in 5 years he will circulate out and spend his college existence partying 24/7. Please save your son till now he will become a stereotypical frat boy who gets under the effect of alcohol genuine speedy.
2016-10-01 21:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax. You don't need to fix everything. They are justifiably angry but will get over it. In the mean time take care of yourself and give this child the best possible start. God bless.
2007-11-08 06:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off what were u thinking but i know its too much pressure for u.. why dont u ask them to leave him alone and if he screws u over then they can help u out but right now u need ur air and the child needs his/her father
2007-11-08 06:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by striker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, ithink that you need to sit your brothers down and talk to them. let them know that you are and were aware of what you are doing. and that it takes two to make a baby. you need to let them know that you are responssible as well as your bf. also tell them that they need to back off! it's hard enough to know that you are going to have a baby, and that neither of you two needs any more pressure. hope that helps. and good luck!
2007-11-08 06:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by me, me, and me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to them and explaining to them that ur boyfriend did not rap u.u 2 just made a mistak-with too many hormones and emotions n the mix and u got pregnant.hopefully,they'll understand.and i doubt they'll tak it out on the baby.its not its fault,now,is it>gud luck!:-)
2007-11-08 06:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by luv64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋