I'm 15 yrs old new to U.S., caught between my father and sister's dilemma. Sister leaving house.?

Question

I'm confused. My sister who is 19 yrs old new to U.S. as well, she was adviced to just focus on studies and work since she is not that mature yet. Don't know the system. Relatives are the ones helping us with room and board and taking care of us. My sister found new friends who happen to be not that very good plus was introduced to a guy and he became her boyfriend in less than two weeks. She promised to stay away from friends and boyfriend. When she started working, behind our father and relatives back, she has been seing her bad influence friends and boyfriend. She has been lying and told our brother not to tell anyone. So now, our Aunt in California wants us to move there. I'm a minor. What should I do? Are my relatives and father wrong for advicing her to focus on job and studies first. My sister doesn't pay rent nor help around the house. She spent the night on a friends house when my father found out that she has been lying. She did not call. Should I come with my sister

Answer 1

well I would say your family wanting her to focus on her studies is for the best, but unfortunately she has SEX on the brain,

If you don't believe me , believe that thats what this guy is thinking, and NO he has no plans to marry her.

things work the same here as they do everywhere else

If she wants a husband then she better keep her legs closed

Friends are bad influence because they don;t have the COLLEGE instict, they want to work at Mc Donalds for the rest of their lives, cleaning out toilets, and collecting welfare,

Do me a favor, whatever your sister does, do things the right way, You wouldn't want to end up pregnant by some guy who could care less about you

AND ANYONE who tells you diffrent is just fooling themselves and YOU

Meg
BEEN THERE.

Answer 2

Well, meg was just ranting away huh? I've been there two, I LOVE IT! Its honest! But not really the problem here. What you've got is a female who has been emotionally neglected to the point that she is looking for ANYTHING to belong to. ANYTHING!! Unfornutely being college ordinated would mean she'd have to feel like she belong to the college life, seems thats not the truth. But this is a consequence of the fact that the most important thing to her is that need to belong to people she feels she can relate to, and that TRUMPS college ambitions becuase its igornat ideals that make people belive that going to college, getting a good job, is going to bring you happiness, deep down we know this. YOU DO HAVE THE POWER to help her thou!!! IF, and I mean IF, you can help her see that she belongs to something more powerful then them, AND get her to see how going after that would benefit everyone. Unfornutly I don't see you having that in you, so learn from your sister, if you can, and don't repeat this. If you want to change her, then get busing fighting for her, becuase this is a direct result of her parents thinking that college was good enough to fight for her, it wasn't, it never was, hence the state of our society. But you can fix it, or you can just deal with it, and use it to your advatage. The lady before me was right now, she understands the dymanics well....