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i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years . we have talked about after we both get out of college we'd like to get married. The other day his step mom let it slip that he had gotten an engagment ring. When i asked him about it he siad it was true and said that he wanted to give it to me very soon. I'm worried that when he does i won't be able to tell them the truth about our engagment. I'm only seventeen, but i have no intention of getting married until after college. My dad is very strict about guys. When i had my frist boyfriend he didn't talk to me for a whole weekend and i was in 8th grade and it wasn't even like a real boyfriend. I just don't want them to over react and veto the idea. should i just hide it?

2007-11-09 13:43:07 · 8 answers · asked by dominospizza2610 1 in Family & Relationships Family

8 answers

don't get engaged till you can tell your parents

2007-11-09 13:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0 1

Since you're only 17 I say tell him no when he asks you to marry him. I'm glad you have no intention on marrying until after college so ask him to save the ring and the engagement until a year before your graduation from college. You may not like it but college changes everything and as you both grow up things may change. So it's best not to get engaged. There's nothing wrong with staying together and being in a relationship and if it lasts through college and you're still going strong get engaged then. Then you won't have to worry about telling your parents.

2007-11-09 13:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by pamalalauren 2 · 0 0

You answered your own question, I do not want to get married till after college !!!!!
So tell your boy friend you are not ready for that kind of commitment, any way, he should also be thinking about his education, how also is he going to support you and the family you will one day have
I would not get engaged at all never mind not telling your parents,you will lose their trust.

2007-11-09 14:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 0 0

It's your life, not his. You were a child before, but after college, you'll be an adult. You'll be old enough to make your own decisions. He can't control you your whole life. You're not a little girl anymore, and he knows that you'll eventually get married.

The good thing is that you're not rushing into it and doing it too soon. You're waiting until after college, so that the both of you will be able to support yourselves. He should be proud of you for not rushing into marriage and making a mistake. You're doing it the RIGHT way, and not a lot of people your age do.

Just tell him you love him and will always be his little girl, but you need to venture off and do what makes you happy.

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2016-11-10 23:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by du 4 · 0 0

You're too young to think about engagement or marriage for that matter....Your parents have every right to know because technically, you are still under their care because you are still a minor...You're too young to think about engagement...Enjoy your singleness...Finish college first, find a stable job...If you already finish school and has a stable job, then by all means, get married to the person whom you love...I'm sure your parents would not object at all....But for now, don't think about it yet...Enjoy life! (",)

2007-11-13 02:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I know from my past if u don't tell them they will hold it against u because that is a big step in ur life and they raise u for ---yrs. and they feel they deserve to know these things.Just let them know up front ur worried about telling them about this because u didn't want them upset at u but it's ur life and u love this person and u would love to let them share in this without problems.

2007-11-09 13:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by notthatagain 4 · 0 1

your 17! tell your bf no when he pops the question, then when you finish school in a couple years you will be able to say yes if you still feel the same way.

2007-11-09 13:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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