A friend of mine lost her husband 2 years ago, she had 1 child with him. They were a very well off upscale family...she had only met his brother twice during their 10 year marriage. Since her husbands death they started talking and grew closer over 2 years...eventually they started dating with the family's blessing. Now they are engaged to be married.
Personally I don't care as long as they are happy but I'm intrested in what other people think about this situation?
Is it wrong?
I know a long time ago it was considered "the right thing to do"
If your brother died you would marry his wife, but not so much these days.
2007-11-09 16:24:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't "care" I'm happy for them...I'm just curious if other people will have something to say because she's basically marrying her kids uncle.
I know they love eachother it's just different.
2007-11-09 16:37:59 · update #1
In biblical times, this was the right thing to do. In today's times, who cares? I think it's kind of nice.
2007-11-09 16:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by justanotherone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is wrong, it's a little odd considering our society today but it isn't immoral.
I don't think they are getting married because the brother feels some duty or obligation to his brother's widow, nor do I think that she would feel as though she is marrying him out of duty or obligation....
I mean, I don't know them, and while I think it would sound odd if this marriage popped up out of nowhere, it sounds like they had a normal courtship and decided that they were right for each other--which makes sense considering that the men were brothers and probably are similar (meaning that she likes the same thing about them) and probably had similar taste in women...
I say it is a bit of a blessing that the family didn't lose a son and a daughter-in-law in this tragedy....I approve.
2007-11-10 00:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel that the child would find it awkward that his uncle is now considered his father. And if I were him I would never go out with someone that my brother married and had children with. I dont see much wrong with it but it is kind of awkward.
2007-11-10 00:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by littlemissmay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not ) in the horse and carriage days . they would married with in the family like that if a wife died the man would marry the sister , a lot of it went on then
2007-11-10 16:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're not doing anything wrong,although it may make some feel quite awkward.
2007-11-10 00:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just how things worked out. why do you care?
2007-11-10 00:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋