My dad never acts like I'm an important person in his life. He treats my mom like a queen and me like crap. My mom's even worse. She never acts like I'm there. Only if the house is dirty (which is 24/7) and she tells me I'm stupid and retarded whenever I'm doing something wrong with my nephew. I'm only twelve and my heart's already broken. I feel so unloved. I'm the youngest of my siblings and they're all treated like gold while I'm being pushed into the background. What should I do?
2007-11-09 12:12:29 · 13 answers · asked by Luvahlee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Is your name Cinderella?
No, really, you do sound pretty dramatic about this whole thing. You are 12 years old and maybe you are not seeing the whole picture.
Make a copy of your question and set up a time to talk to your mom. Let her read the question and talk to her about it. I'll bet she will be pretty understanding about everything. It is not easy being 12. The best thing to do is to talk to your parents in an open way.
2007-11-09 12:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Libby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and just talk with them; if this does not work suggest family therapy--if money problems are present go find a church where they have family therapy; you do not have to believe in what that church believes but they do try to help---it is part of their belief system; to help others. It seems that your parents have more problems than you know and sadly both are taking it out on you. Unless certain issues are addressed you will be treated the same way.
2007-11-09 12:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry, some parents are not perfect and then some are just kind of crappy. Do you have any older siblings or aunts, uncles, or really any older relative that you can talk to?
Does no one else see this? You know abuse is not just physical it is also emotional. If all else fails try a school counseler...I wish I had better advice for you!!
Take care!!
2007-11-09 12:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by ~Just 1 good egg~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to consider this...Is there something you know wrong with your family? Do you feel physically threatened? Then you really need some adult help. Talk with a teacher, or a guidance counselor, and explain what's happening. Confide in one of your siblings if you trust them/one. Talk to your dad, try talking or send a note to your mom about it. If it gets worst, maybe you should try to talk with another relative, an aunt/uncle/cousin/grandma. Maybe you could arrange to live with them for awhile to keep yourself from going bonkers.
Good luck. ^.^
2007-11-09 12:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Rhapsody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey, we've all been neglected at times and pushed around by our closest family members. Just try to be good and focus on ur studies and don't give ur parents or ur siblings a reason to be upset. this doesn't mean that what's going on is ur fault, i'm just asking u to get closer to them and share their interests and spend more time with them and tell them that shutting u off really bothers and hurts u.
If nothing works then keep writing to us coz we're all lost here and searching for ourselves. all the best to u!!
2007-11-09 12:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by hope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should confide in a counselor or someone else you trust at school. you are being neglected/abused, which is NOT okay by any stretch of the imagination.
when your mother says those things to you, she is being verbally and emotionally abusive. it is understandable why you would feel unloved.
what you should do--is confide in someone who can help you far beyond the limits of this site. please get some help. if you don't, things will most likely just get worse.
2007-11-09 12:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by vivienne r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your parents weren't expecting to have so many kids or weren't ready for so many and they are now just worn out. I KNOW it's NOT you. Talk to your school counslor. Better to talk to someone now and identify these issue early on. There's probably more going on in your life and in theirs than you realize.
Have to tried talking to ANYONE? (Adults) Anyone at school? Try finding hotlines online for teen help. Or try going to this site: http://www.bbbs.org/site/c.diJKKYPLJvH/b.1539753/k.65B0/Volunteer_Opportunities__Volunteer_programs_and_Importance_of_volunteering_information.htm
I don't know ,much about big brothers/big sisters, but there ARE people out there who can help you.
talk to people, if you want you can talk to me
e-mail me or IM me
ur_a_deedeedee@yahoo.com
or
chica123123@hotmail.com
2007-11-09 12:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi im 12 also (using my dads account) i cant really set my self in your position cuz its the exact opposite for me. try to talk to your parents and ask them if you can do more family things and tell them how you feel or go to the school counseler for advice i hope it helps! GOOD LUCK!
2007-11-09 12:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try sitting your parents down to a discussion and tell them how you feel. if they don't listen, it's time to tell a teacher or someone at school and see what they think of the situation. no kid should ever go through their teens without a caring parent
2007-11-09 12:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Xx_Starry_Eyed_Xx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You should really talk to your guidance consler. Dont worry. I go to the gudance consler. And she helped me soooooooo much. (Im 12 too!)
2007-11-09 12:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋