My kids beat me up.. seriously..?

Question

I have a 4 and 2 year old and they think it's funny to beat on me. They'll stand up on the bed while I'm laying down with them then "fall" over, elbowing me. Or they'll jump my back and hop up and down. Or if we're sitting, they'll pull my hair or hit me. They think it's funny & I'm the only one they do it to. I put them in time out every time, but they just keep doing it- Do they hate me?

Answer 1

sounds like they see you as a playmate they can play rough with. Assuming they didn't learn this watching anyone else get rough with you, you need to let them know that while you love to play and snuggle with them some play could hurt you. set down the rules of play w/them and keep reminding them when it gets out of control. if time out does not work try some other punishment, maybe no cartoons or no bedtime story? what will they miss?

Answer 2

TIME OUT??????? TIME OUT??????????????????? Ummm.. that's not going to do nothin!!!! You need to put your foot down. Children will keep doing what they do if they feel they can. The only reason the 2 year old is doing it is because the 4 year old is doing it.

You need to make the 4 year old understand who's the boss first. The 2 year old will catch on, but you need to let them know too.

I have a 2 year old daughter, and she used to think it was funny to do the same thing. I "tapped" her leg a couple times and she doesn't do it anymore. When I say Tapped.... I didn't spank her hard.....continuously..... I hit her moderately on the leg about 2 or 3 times and she stopped and doesn't do it. She does try every now and then but I tell her to stop and she does.

Ask what the other people who handle them do, to make sure the kids don't do that! I don't know if you're married but if you are, ask them what they do and why they don't do that around them. My daughter doesn't act like that around my bf, because my bf has established with her the limits.

GOOD LUCK SWEETIE!

Answer 3

Either it's time for the super nanny or better discipline, time outs do not work, I would seriously have laughed in someones face if they tried to give me a time out, I find it completely ineffective and a waste,If they hit you or something grab their hands and slap the back of it, just enough so that it will sting a little bit, and while your doing it tell them what they're doing wrong it might be hard for you to do, but if you don't, then they will grow up to be more bratty annoying little kids that yell and scream and don't appreciate anything. But as the get older, your punishments should get worse not just little slaps on the hand.

Answer 4

They don't hate you. They are just trying to play with you, and for some reason they have gotten the idea that this is the way to do it.

I am guessing that you have tried talking to them? Explaining to them that it does hurt, is not nice, and they will be punished every time that they do it?

One thing that may help is to simply stop interacting with them when they do this. I know, it can be hard to get kids to sleep when you don't lay down with them. But they need to see that you will not put yourself in a position to be hurt like that. The next time they do that, I suggest you get up, tell them you will not be laying with them any more if they can't be good, and leave the room. If they get out of bed - make them go back. If you sleep with them, try to make sure they are worn out and go to sleep before you are ready for bed.

You should also figure out where they are getting the idea that this is ok. What do they watch on tv? Wrestling? Action-filled kid shows? Even some commercials could send a mixed message.

Do they see other kids or adults behaving like this? Neighbors, people at daycare, family, other kids when you go to the store, etc.... ?

I know that you can not shelter them from the world by taking away all tv privileges and locking them in the house with no windows to see what is going on outside. But perhaps if you figure out where they are getting these ideas, you can figure out how to get through to them that this is not ok.

You may also want to talk to their doctor about this. I know it isn't fun to admit that you don't have control of your children, but he/she may be able to help. 2 of my cousin's kids behaved like this. It turned out they were hyperactive.

Answer 5

No, they don't hate you, but they seem to have some serious issues with understanding clearly what you've said and that they need actually listen and do what they are told. Time out DOES NOT solve issues like this. You need to be firm and hold them responsible for their actions. Giving them a punishment that tells they have gone too far. Taking something away from them-something that they really really love. Take it away and tell them that they behavior it not nice and until they stop doing this, they will not get it back. You got to realize that if this behavior is not curbed they will continue to do and will do it to others, quite possibly to kids at school. This is a serious matter and will continue to get more serious.if not handled properly now. Good luck.

Answer 6

No they don't hate you but you are being their door mat.

If they pull your hair. Pull theirs back so they know what it feels like. Then tell them no more will you allow them to pull your hair. When the fall on you and elbow you. Grab them and tell them with authoritative tone that you will NOT ALLOW that any more. You are the adult. You need to be the parent and not let your children walk all over you.

I shudder to think how they will act in ten years if you do not nip this in the bud!

Answer 7

We had this problem. They don't hate you, they are doing copycat behaviour and playing you up basically.
Try rewards instead. First time, tell them to stop now and they can go to the park.(or whatever you choose). If they carry on, punish them. If one does it - reward the other.
Be very firm. I am not ashamed to admit that when we had a problem with one of our children biting, I bit her back. Hard enough to hurt, but not damage. I warned her first, she ignored me, so I did it. Perhaps do it with the hair pulling - like I say, make sure it is hard enough to hurt the first time, so that you won't have to do it again.

They don't hate you, they are just a handful and it's one of their amusing things to do. They will learn if you are forceful.

Answer 8

You need to take charge now!
Maybe you should read some books on parenting and discipline. They could help.
Or just try different punishments until you find one that works. And ALWAYS follow thru with your threats. ALWAYS!

Seriously though, you need to get control of those kids otherwise can you imagine how they'll walk all over your when they're teens!?!?!

YIKES!! Dont take this lightly!

Answer 9

No, they don't hate you, they think it's a game! My kids do some of this to my husband, but he plays along with the whole "restling" idea. My oldest tried to do this with my once and I firmly told him if you hit me again your going to be sorry. I was straight forward with him and he knew I meant business. They are trying to release some energy...try going outside (if it's still nice there) and kick a ball around...this will divert their attention from wanting to beat you up and they will have fun all at the same time.

Answer 10

You need to get your kids under firm hand. My cousins that are younger do that to me too, and no they dont hate you. They actually do think its funny, obviously your not being firm enough if they keep doing it. Next time threaten to put them to bed early or not let then have desert or toys for a week. You really need to beat that its bad to do that into their heads. Good Luck.