My father is a fat lazy bastard with a crazy temper and no notion of logic. He just works and eats and does **** around the house. IF he cooks for anyone (although he rarely cooks for anyone other than himself) he sit at stove to cook because he can stand there to cook pancakes for all of ten/twenty minutes it would take. On his day off, he just watches TV. When he comes home from work, he pretends to read at the dinner table waiting for Dinner to be served to him. He doesn't do anything my mother asks him to~ I know the weight gain and laziness started after his father died, but that was 8 years ago! He needs help, but refuses it! Yet he blames my mother for "turning the kids against him"
I don't know what to do anymore! Any suggestions??
2007-11-12 01:00:33 · 25 answers · asked by Momo27 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he works 40 hours a week, and provids for his family he can be lazy all he wants, If you don't like it move out
2007-11-12 01:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Zenkai 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well, like what other people said. If you are over 18, than you need to move out on your own. Get a job and pay your own bills. Did you ever think O well maybe he's tired from work. What kind of work does he do? I think you need to stay of there arguments, and mind your own business. Unless they bring you into a particular situation, than that my friend would be a different story. Until than keep your P's and Q's..
It would be in your best of interest to stay out of there disagreements. At least he works, and after all he does support your unforgiving butt.. Also since he is your father, you need to have respect for him. Your father's responsibility it to, keep you safe, keep a roof over your head, put cloths on your back, and put food on the table. Nothing more and nothing less, and it seems like hes keeping his end of the bargain. He does not have to buy you toys or give you money, or even buy you a computer which you used to disrespect him with, I tell you what, if I had a kid like you disrespect me, like you do to him, you would not even have a computer, I would lock it up some were. Take all your music, TV, radio, phones, and cellphone all away from you. You have no appreciation for what your mother and father do for you, and that's what is wrong with you kids today, some of you kids are lazy, don't want to work, just sit and be on the computer or play video games. When I was a kid growing up, my mom would tell me to go outside and play. Or do something, not just sit your lazy a** and do nothing. It seems to me that you are a spoiled little brat. Man I'll tell you, weight until you get a place of your own and have bills to pay, and have your own kids to take care of and see what you go through... GROW THE HELL UP!!!
Captain, Chris W T
ATP- Lear 45, B747- A318 - A380
CFI
2007-11-12 10:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by CaptainChris 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You sound horribly disrespectful to your father. Do you think he LIKES having no more of a life other than working, eating, and doing stuff around the house?
The man is probably depressed. I would be too if I lost my parents and had kids that thought I should work to provide for them while they sat around calling me names.
Do both you and him a favor and move out on your own. Once you are in his spot, maybe you'll have some understanding of why he is like he is.
2007-11-12 12:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to grow up and show some respect to your father! You may not like him but you are living under HIS roof and he works to put a roof over your head and food in your belly. So what if he relaxes on his day off- is that a crime?And if you hate how he cooks then why don't you get your butt in the kitchen and cook the pancakes and help your mom with the housekeeping? You sound like a spoiled, selfish brat!
2007-11-12 09:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Bella*~ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You could think about what it must be like to live in a household with people like you and have alittle compassion. Obviously your father needs help, but unless he wants to get it there isn't much anyone can do.
You are living off this "fat lazy b*st*rd", who manages to bring in enough money to make your life an easy one. Either move out, or learn what it means to love unconditionally and attempt to understand and help your father. Its obvious he is depressed. I'd like to think if he had cancer you'd do what you could to help him, but from your disrespectful and selfish tone, I'm betting not.
2007-11-12 09:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, he isn't hurting you or your mother. He's fulfilling his responsibilities, he's going to work every day to support the family. Of course, you watch him and you wonder why your mom is willing to put up with him, but, that's their business, not yours. Since he's your father, and he isn't hurting you, you still have to respect him. You don't have a god-given right to the perfect father, just to parents who keep you safe and meet your basic needs, and you've got that. Beyond that, you've got to respect his right to be whatever kind of person he wants to be, and your mother's right to have whatever relationship she wants to have. Recognize that even if she complains, SHE is the one who is choosing to stay.
The fact that he blames your mom for turning the kids against him, says that you've let it be known that you are against him. Don't do that. He's your father. Let him do what he wants to do, don't criticize him, it won't help anything. Nobody changes for the better when they feel nagged. Just, live with it, and be grateful for the good things.
2007-11-12 10:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Janelle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would really like to know your age, but here is my answer..
You sad that everything started after his father died.. Many peoples have problems when time comes for confronting with that, and they start changing in their acts.. Anyway, rational person know that that's not the way for resolving problem.. He is maybe fat, but he can do many things in his life.. Like, helping your mother, having some occupation with some thing.. You can talk to him, to try to understand him and to help him.. But if you can not do anything about his problem.. .. ..
Just resign, and try to live your life.. Because it's to short..
But, sometimes Bible can help, if you\him are religious people..
Sorry for my bad English..
Sincerely,
Aleksandar - Acko ('84)
Nis - Serbia
2007-11-12 09:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by andjeonis 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i no how frusterating it is. but my best friend died 8 yrs ago and it still affects me. maybe he just needs to deal. maybe what he needs is sympathy tell him i miss grandpa too...what you need to realize is you dont need to be calling him a bastard...my dad is dying and i would love for the cure to be counceling but cancer is his ticket gone. and i cant believe how you are taking advantage of your father because hes having a hard time dealing. be grateful he can be there and stop taking him for granted......i wish i could solve my dads problems with commen sense
2007-11-12 09:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and move on and get a full time job with "a day" off. Why do you care if he sits or stands when he is cooking? Do you cook?..
2007-11-12 09:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by DrB 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
All you can do is grow up and move away. The only one who could have any effect on him is your mom, and if that's not working, there certainly isn't anything you can do.
:hug: Sorry, wish I had a better answer for you, but all there is, is the truth.
2007-11-12 09:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Marion K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋