what sould i do
2007-11-12 10:45:25 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Make sure no one finds out.
2007-11-12 10:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Don't act on it-Is this worth destroying your family? Find someone who's available. Realize this is only a crush (or lust) and that it will pass if you move on. This happened in our family over 20 years ago and some people are still greatly affected by it and it causes a lot of bad feeling still. DON'T do it-he is not the only man on earth-although right now you probably think he is. It would also never work because he would feel so guilty that it would adversely effect your relationship in the long run.
2007-11-12 10:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all THINK THINK THINK about your sister and what you might be putting her through. do you really love her and care about her FEELINGS or what?
seconly you seem to maybe be spending too much time around your brother-in-law to develop any kind of abnormal feelings for him. get away from the guy. he belongs to your sister...not you. go find your own man and leave the one that has been taken already alone.
and finally remember one thing. we all eventually reap what we sew in our lives so, i warn you don't try anything with the guy or you will live to regret it some day. when you THINK you have finally found that right, perfect man some day you will get a huge surpise when you find out, thus someone else has a crush on him too. if you dont want it to happen to you don't do it to others. its called the golden rule for a very good reason.
USE THE COMMON SENSE THAT THE GOOD LORD GAVE YOU!!!.
2007-11-12 10:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Leicha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think about your sister. Put yourself in her shoes, imagine finding out that her own sister cheated her and stole her husband!!!! Stay away you are only gonner cause alot of pain embarrassment and hurt to yourself your sister and brother in law. If you have a little respect for yourself and your sister you will go find someone who is single. Just think how would you live with yourself, when you break your sisters marriage? Do you think you will EVER forgive yourself and more over will your sister ever forgive you? Is this risk worth taking???
2007-11-12 11:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON"T make any move on him,
first of all.
But you might find
out later that is wasn't
a crush but just a
slight feeling.
If you see that it goes on
and it is serious,
talk to it with your
mother or
someone really
close to you.
If it gets too serious,
(it might sound crazy)
but confront your sister
and brother-in-law
about it.
However,
this probably happens to others
and the emotion
will probably go
away slowly.
2007-11-12 10:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by No 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to destroy the relationship you have with your Sister? It will never be the same, even when your fling with her husband is over..... Think long and hard before you make a move. It will be one you can't take back!
Until you can get your thoughts and feelings under control. You will need to excuse yourself from being around him.
Good Luck!!
2007-11-12 11:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know why this happens,is he older than you? as you say it is just a crush and will wear off in time if you don't pursue it! if you do something about it,it will either end up in heartache all round,as the family will close ranks,or it will be very embarrassing for you,when he doe-sent respond,either way not worth it hun! keep the feelings to yourself,no-one can stop you dreaming!
2007-11-12 11:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't act on it, and just remember that is your sisters husband. And then get over it, and find you a nice guy and get married some day. My sister had crushes on a couple of my boyfriends, she told me years later. That seems to happen with little sisters.
2007-11-12 10:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably it's just a small admiration for him because he's someone who's in your family and you can;t have him and if you would ever even try you'd ruin your whole family and alone with your life your whole families life, so best to get over it and is staying away is best for awhile than do it and don't ruin your whole life and your familes.
It's actually a normal thing to feel that way but you must get over with it.
2007-11-12 10:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by nappa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go watch Dan in Real Life... that could show you the solution!!! And it's only a crush right?
2007-11-12 10:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Cullen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing, unless you want grief in the lives of three people.
Choosing not to take an action which is going to hurt you and others is a sign of *maturity*.
Just do the adult thing.
2007-11-12 10:49:59 · answer #11 · answered by jotacar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋