Family - November 2007

Im 24 i av a daughter 4 and a son 1 i am getting married in june me and my partner have been together 8 years but i got a big problem me and my daughter just dont get on i am consantly shouting at her sometimes i feel like smaking her or just leaving i dont no wat to do

any body got any idears on what to do i av tryed spending quality time with her i doesnt help. i love all my family to pieces and i would do any thing for them HELP!!!!!

2007-11-25 19:41:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-25 19:06:22 · 12 answers · asked by sammy p 1

i had a secret relationship with a family friend.we had a relationship at the same time he was engaged to marry a girl he got pregnant.he said he didn't love her and would never marry but he did and since i really loved him even after he was married our relationship continued and when i finally realize i want to stop it i found out i was pregnant.now i'm raising my son alone without any help from him.he lives just beside our house and his son is only 6 mons older from mine.i don't want my son to be hurt knowing that his father is just there but doesn't care for him at all.it's only me and him who knows the truth no one else does...i wanna keep it a secret but what should i tell my son when he'll ask me someday who his father is...

2007-11-25 19:00:14 · 13 answers · asked by iane_d 1

No matter what culture it is, a father or an elder brother is very protective over a daughter or a younger sister especially the one with gentle personality and beautiful and cute appearance. A father or an elder brother is so protective that he has to know his daughter or younger sister's whereabouts all the time. In some case so protective that not let other men approach. Why is it like this?

2007-11-25 19:00:02 · 4 answers · asked by chayaninsun 1

Maybe you've heard of Megan Meier?

She was 13 and hung herself after a neighborhood mother created a fake profile on myspace. The mom acted like she was a hot guy and then broke the heart of the over weight 13 year old and posted nasty comments about her weight and called her a slut.

Do you think the mom should be punished?

2007-11-25 17:44:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Because she knew he had outstanding warrants. They were pretty serious charges so he'll be in prison for a long time and I can't wait that long for him. She ruined my relationship. She says she did it to protect me and others from him, but she didn't know him like I did. I seriously HATE her for doing this.

How do I get over this? How can I forgive her? I don't know what to do and I feel like killing her for it.

2007-11-25 17:38:08 · 14 answers · asked by Aileara 3

What do you do if you feel like your being watch every moment. I really do love my family but it seems that sometimes they are watching me every moment, and its not that I'm doing anything but they are constantly calling me at work to see what time I will be home, I have flexable hours so its not uncommon for me to be home early, when I'm on the computer my 19 year old daughter asks what I'm doing, she also tells me that my DH asks her questions about what I do when he is at work or asleep. I really love these people and don't want to hurt them, but it seems for the most part they don't care about me, just want to know when I can do something for them, and seems they are constantly over my shoulder trying to catch me at something, how do I tell them to leave me alone!

2007-11-25 17:26:13 · 4 answers · asked by vjustmehere 3

Well, I asked a question yeesterday about my husband and step daughter.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
Well,today I started to bring the subject up to him. He asked me what was wrong and I told him. "I need alittle help, I know you work, but I could even use a few hours a week to myself." I told him that its very hard to raise a colicky baby with severe Acid Reflux all by myself plus take care of your daughter who refuses to listen to me. And that I cant chase her around all day while the baby is screaming, vomiting and crying.When he does get home the first thing he does is crack open a beer. Which is fine but, then Im left to care for his daughter all weekend long.Im not her Mother, so it makes it hard for me to disapline her.She just wont listen and does nothing but disrespect me, and my family.I have my son to care for, if she refuses to listen to me, CONTINUED BELOW>

2007-11-25 17:11:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

really can't stand watching nearly 80 yr old mother ignore my advice
she pees herself
doesn't take her meds right
doesn't eat right
sleeps on couch till 1 am
I know she wants freedom
but needs cared for
she fights so mean with me
her tongue has always been a two edged sword and now itrs worse
now she is abusing me over taking care of her
would love to throw her out of my home
but she has no money abd nowhere to go
at least til next Oct when her house is sold
can't get her to cooperate
she really and truely is a headache
watching her can make me sick
never saw someone so destructive and ignorant
she won't accept she is getting older and is no longer independent
she walked without her cane yesterday and fell and has big bruise on her face
[she looks like Rocky]i need advice as to what to do
have one brother who cares for sick wife
I have no help
last week she faught with the doctor over taking her meds and living not on her own and having to take orders

2007-11-25 17:05:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband works in a big mall as a supervisor, he doenst have sundays & holidays day off, he made a leave of absence in 3 different days of December, his manager wont accept his excuse due that these are all personal matters ( dec 8- our wedding anniv & our daughter's 5th bday, dec-14 our son's 1st bday & dec 30 my bday) i told him its up to him if he consider's us his family over his job. I am so disappointed with him and his manager! If he will pursue his leave w/o approval, he may be suspended or whatever, shall i consider him to work? or shall i beg for him to celebrate with us????

2007-11-25 17:04:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents can't stand that I just got my PhD in Electrical Engineering, but instead of finding a "real job" I decided to work for SETI to search for aliens... I also moved in with my girl friend (she is 19)... I am doing NOTHING to them... these are my life choices and I am happy... but they are about to disown me! help!

2007-11-25 17:00:38 · 6 answers · asked by Plazzmoidi F. McStinkleshlonger 3

my cousin is a violent angry person. when we were little he would seriously try to kill me. His grandmother encourages his violence. She is crazy. she made him crazy.he'd come up behind me and take a chair or something and hit me until i was unconcsious. he's evil. his grandmother broght him up to beleive that he is above me on all fronts and to hurt me and humiliate me at all costs. he's the golden child in the family. he's untouchable. I go to the same college as him now and he's still violent. I'm so scared of him. His whole family is nuts. i try to avoid him at all costs. What do i do?

2007-11-25 16:55:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

my grandparents are heading down from manhattan next week and they're spending the holidays here...i don't talk to them that often only b/c we don't get along that well....they're really controlling and just arrogant people who think that everyone has to be the best...so well, recently, my grades have been declining, so they told me that i have no future lying ahead of me...umm....i was kind of quiet and my parents are pissed AT ME....but i don't know what to do...i love them...by all means, they're my grandparents, so i'm forced to...but i wish they would treat me better...every talk i have w/ them somehow leads to my two cousins (who are their only other grandchildren)...even my brother gets criticized...is there anyway this can be resolved? thanks.

2007-11-25 16:51:19 · 3 answers · asked by Coolio A 5

A man( The grandaughters boyfriend at the time) punched the grandaughter in the eye. When the grandaughter was 19.After the grandaughter told the grandmother what happened....the grandmother ends up giving the Ex boyfriend keys to the home (the grandaughter was living with grandmother at the time.)The grandmother wanted to remain friends with the grandaughters Ex- boyfriend.....even after he abused the grandaughter!!Ex boyfriend and the grandmother are still friends to this day.He even asked the Grandmother could he move in with her for a while because he got kicked out for pushing his mom!!!!The Grandmother let him move in.This man is 50 years old!!The grandaughter is now 30 years old.The granmother is continuously trying to turn the grandaughter and her two siblings against each other...by saying mean things about one to the others.All 3 grandchildren are ready to ignore the grandmother and never speak to her again.What is wrong with this Grandmother?

2007-11-25 16:51:08 · 16 answers · asked by DO YOU LOVE ME♥*´`*•.¸★｡ 3

What do you when all of your family just gossip about one another? I came in to see my family and I love them all so much. Half of them do not get along but I get along with everyone. Anyway, when I am with them I just have to sit and listen to all this drama. I just sit there bc I do not know what to do or say. But I am so tired of it btw I have been listening tothis for 27 years ugh I guess it always will be like this!

2007-11-25 16:47:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

well, my parents always whatever i need and want. i don't always want to ask them for money since they always sound annoyed. what are some ways i can earn my own money???
all ideas are appreciated. thanks to all!

2007-11-25 16:45:04 · 32 answers · asked by Lols 3

A relative (who I rarely see and not even close to me) asked me if our aunt who is working for her can be trusted. Based on my past experiences, she definitely can't be trusted but I've seen her with our other relatives and she does seem alright enough. I believe in giving people another chance so a part of me wants to say "You can trust her." but I also do not want her to blame me later if something does go wrong.

I'd appreciate any answer that you can give me.

2007-11-25 16:26:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom was living with this younger guy for 4 yrs. She divorced my dad for him. I thought it was a bad idea, especially since he was 30 & shes 47 but since I'm grown and not living at home, there was little I could do about it. Just a few days ago, the guy dumped her. He told her a while back that he didn't want to marry her. But they were building a house together. He wouldnt let her put any money into it. She also bought herself a ring and changed her last name to his. I think she was pushing herself on him in a way and he was only wanting a good time and let it go too far. I think he was too scared to tell her and he liked having her around. What advice do I give her about it? She will be staying with me & my family for a while, so its bound to come up. I cant make her do anything, I know, but how can I help her see that its best to just cut her losses and move on? I dont want her to find some other younger guy who likes to be waited on hand and foot, either.

2007-11-25 16:24:54 · 11 answers · asked by MomOfThreeBoys 3

he gets drunk once in a while but when he does, he usually goes around the house and breaks things. last night, he broke a sliding glass door and like half of our china. How can i make him sober really quickly. i heard of making him vomit by drinking salt water, drinking coffee and eating bread but wat else could i do in a situation like this?

2007-11-25 16:09:11 · 37 answers · asked by AHAHAH =) 2

they seriously hurt your feelings, would you ever go home ever again to see them? They really hurt my feelings a week before Thanksgiving, plus my Mother and brother will NOT stop they're racist comments on my sister's long time boyfriend who is a black man, and a very nice man as well. My family really stepped on me (another matter unlike my sisters') and hurt my feelings, and they know they did it and see nothing wrong with what all they did (long story), plus they know I'm sick of the racism against my sister's to-be hubby. Would you write them off?

This is solely my mother and brother, not my Dad. I actually wrote my brother off 2 years ago when we last spoke, so this is really about my Mom in general. She's a very rude and ignorant woman!

2007-11-25 16:08:16 · 8 answers · asked by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6

You see,My friends look "Bad" and my parents will not trust me anymore.
i know you earn your trust back...but this just wont happen.
i could go for 5 years straight super good,and still,wont trust me.
they arent like other parents.
You tell them something,they think about it,and say Ok.
My dad,i tell him i threw a soda can at a bush,and i leave for a second,and he checks if its a soda can...then if its not..if its like liquor or something,he gets mad and wont stop bugging me.
Yes,i have thought of suiciding,its just TOO MUCH.
IM TIRED....

2007-11-25 15:08:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live with my mom in Texas but i reallllly want to live with my dad in Louisiana.The problem is my mom would be alone and feel really bad.My dad has a wife and step son so he is never alone. Any idea's to help me make up my mind?I have till Christmas.

2007-11-25 14:24:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriends family are good people. They are just fake people. So we go to a great Monday night football game back in october. Everyone having a GREAT time. It's time to go and we all had a good amount to drink. We leave to only leave from a good and exciting place to entering a war! My boyfriend and his sister start to argue...next thing you know his brother in law is going after him for no apparent reason. His sister is yelling, everyone is yelling!!! I look to see him on the ground b/c ( his sister had to sick her husband on him) with his arm hanging out of his shoulder. From there we sat in the E.R. and two months(almost) later surgery is completed and it's a healing process til February. Delema is we haven't talked to his sister or her husband since the accident. The holidays are here his mother is upset with the fact he is not around and guess who is the talk at the table??...Me i am the only one who did nothing wrong and his family hates me for this!!...WHAT SHOULD I DO

2007-11-25 14:17:54 · 7 answers · asked by nikki 1

My mom is being mean alot.She goes off and does things behind my back and the same with my dad.

Tonight her friend found out that his friend commited suicide,and she was took him to a bar and was all like "Im not drinking and im trying to be a friend!!!!!!"

Like 2 weeks ago my friend accidently hit me in the head with a shovel and then i got home and she said that she was going to her friends for a while,and i wanted her to stay home cause i didn't feel good at all and i started crying and she started yelling and i didn't even do anything.

Then tonight i found this crap used for THINGS *hint hint* and it really ticked me off.

Im sick and tired of her friend and her big mouth,He is all she cares about and she doesn't act like she cares about me and when she does she acts like a little kiss-up.

I am so mad and just want to run away and never come back (Not really gonna!) and cry.

Im angry and upset both at the same time.

Please help!

2007-11-25 14:13:37 · 5 answers · asked by Bcb Girl 1

ive been hired to take care of an 11 year girl for a few weeks. im going to being going over to the girls house in the mornings. ill be making breakfast, helping her get ready school, making her lunch, taking and picking her up from school, taking and picking her up from ballet, helping with homework, helping with dinner, and whatever else the mother might need to do while she is recovering. im not sure what charge though. help me out!

2007-11-25 14:11:48 · 1 answers · asked by lindsey_philyaw_05 1

I have had issues with my hubby's sister, who hates my guts and here is an exerpt of the other day's events. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ape_XwW5hYIHpcjhvVO8q_jsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071120142256AAb5FyX
During which I didn't even get to respond. She just screamed at me on the phone accusing me of "excommunicating" my hubby from his family and accusing me of holding him "hostage" here because we moved 35 miles away and then she told me I am punishing her mother because I took him from his home there. He's 46. It's ridiculous. I wrote her a letter. I asked her to take it nicely and in it, since I didn't get to dispute her accusations the other day, I dispute them and then I tell her it's none of her business and that my husband backs me up on everything I say. To my face he does back me up. Do I send this letter to her? I think it will shut her up. Doesn't matter what I say, she will always hate me, but at least I'll get my 2 cents in.

2007-11-25 14:05:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have good reasons to do this, and I was even recommended both on yahoo and by a therapist that this would be a rational option ( would rather not go into detail about why I plan on doing it though).

For those of you who had to get of your family system or cut yourself off, did you feel it was a good decision? Did you feel happier or did you regret it?

I don't mind regaining contact with my mom if I take the plunge, because I want to show her something for her own good.....but there's a chance she won't like my decisions and refuse to talk to me. If she refuses to talk to me, I will accept it and move on with myself.

No, talking to my parents and explaining to them how I feel won't help at all (I've tried for many years)If people don't want to change, you can't change them.

2007-11-25 14:05:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

alright so for ten years it was just my cousins Chris and Ben and Me. Chris is seventeen going on eighteen, Ben is fourteen going on fifteen and next month i'll be seventeen. growing up we were literally best friends. being an only child, Chris and Ben were like brothers to me.

I always knew i loved them more than they loved me but i treasured having them. they were the only thing close to brothers and i treasured that.

recently, i got their myspaces. Chris never had me on his top friends (when he turned ten, he basically stopped talking to me. now he is though) and Ben put me on his top friends. Now i am not on ben nor chris's top friends and when i leave them a comment, they dont reply.

we used to be very close. i know we have had our rough times but i just wish i could be close to them again like we were all those years ago. i dont know what happend. all of a sudden i am off their top friends and out of their lives. they dont even talk to me!

what should i do?????

2007-11-25 13:56:55 · 6 answers · asked by MissSamanthaAnne 1

i live in michigan and i reside with my mother, we dont really get along( my brother and her didnt either) and we are having some problems. she has been unemployed for almost a year and we ar basicly living on child support and her boyfriends meesly 8 or 9 dollors an hour. we are behind in bills i believe. i have talked to my brother which is 22 years old and i can go live with him. if i get my moms permission can i move in with him and if so how do i do so?

2007-11-25 13:55:15 · 5 answers · asked by cashmoney 1

My whole life my EXTREMELY emotionally abusive father, who happens to be a habitual, functional alcoholic, has always told me what to do, what not to do, and everything in between at every given moment. I was never allowed to second-guess him, nor did I ever try for fear of intensive punishment. Now, I am 17 and about to go away to college and don't know what to do because soon I know I will be very very lost and not know what to do......help?? How do I figure things out without messing up my, and everyone else's lives? Without resorting to that punishment that comes with the second-guessing of my dad's judgements??

2007-11-25 13:50:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous