What do you when all of your family just gossip about one another? I came in to see my family and I love them all so much. Half of them do not get along but I get along with everyone. Anyway, when I am with them I just have to sit and listen to all this drama. I just sit there bc I do not know what to do or say. But I am so tired of it btw I have been listening tothis for 27 years ugh I guess it always will be like this!
2007-11-25 16:47:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do not gossip so that is why they all like me, lol. I do not talk about it and I always try to change the subject. It I dared say something that would be a whole other drama, lol. I just try to be civil I guess, thats how I am. Now I do not like it thats what the post is about DUH lol. I live out of state and also we have had a lot of bad things happen it just drives people further away. I get along with everyone bc I do not gossip, fight, argue, and all that.
2007-11-25 17:21:24 · update #1
My family are not family people (everyone comes in and out on holidays eats when they feel like it etc) I have always tried hard to make it a family but when I am the only one it feels impossiable. Most of my fam dont even speak, its sad. I pray a lot for everyone bc in my religion even to gossip is a sin and to listen is just as bad I know. My ears are so tired of listening but I do not knwo where to go. All my mom does is talk about the same things over and over all day long even when I call her she says it all 1000 times. Ugh and if I said something hahahah she would go insane
2007-11-25 17:25:05 · update #2
my family is the exact same thing. all of us dont get a long. i have cousins who dont care about me at all. i have aunts and uncles that betray my parents in the back and talk fakely to them. my dads brother thinks he is better than everyone and his wife wont let us talk to her child...it is really crazy. but i try to think of them and how they are seperatly. i mean, when they are alone, they arent so bad. i like spending time with them when they arent all together. when they are, they startt having fights or start ignoring liek how my cousoins do to me. i think you should just spend time with them a lone. it isnt our fault that our relatives are fighting. try to get a long with everyone and if you can, speak up. it is sad when families are falling apart but all we can do is try to make it work. good luckk
2007-11-25 17:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by dreamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the key here is that it is your family. are you truly going to stand up to them and ask them to stop? or just leave the room? lots of families have this gossip and not getting along. seems like away to past time...27 years. maybe you can help them make up. if you have children teach them not to be like this and end the cycle on your end. it is good you do not get involved with the fighting and gossiping.
2007-11-25 17:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by ktsec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing what you feel is right for YOU.. and that's the best thing you can do.
If someone in your family asks you how you feel, you can certainly let them know that you don't want to be involved because you feel it's wrong and hurtful to speak badly of others.
It would be nice if others could live by the "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" rule, wouldn't it?
2007-11-25 17:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then, its about time you speak up, kindly, nicely, calmly, without accusation, but letting your family KNOW, how you feel about all this, and how its actually crumbling and pulling down the family structure, the foundations and pillars, so to speak, that we need to build each other up, think the best, talk the best, and start being loyal to each other for a change!!
2007-11-25 17:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say just continue to be kind/do good to every single one of them like what you are already doing :).
In case you hv not done this - try getting everyone to be involved in a family activity... X'mas Family Dinner is perhaps one suggestion you can consider...
Try not to be too discouraged with your family situation... the fact that you get along fine with every one is really AWESOME man! I mean there are lots of families out there with worse family dramas...
Although you may not be able to completely iron out the differences in your family... your acts of love towards every one of them will go a long way - mark my words!
Finally pray about it... you can never know how God is able to turn around things for the better in ways you never imagine...
Cheers!
2007-11-25 17:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by Maxelimus 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess it will just be worthless to stand up for the people you believe is right... cuz it'll probably start more drama...
27 years? wow i dont think theres really any advice we can say.. but wats sad is.. in the end it may just be some big tragedy that will bring your family together..i pray not. but sometimes thats just wat happens...
just stay out of the drama..
good luck with that.. and its good that ur at least good with everyone else..
god bless
2007-11-25 16:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by sincerelyjackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has family drama
best thing is to deal with it with humor
or to just put up with it and try to be positive and think positively
appreciate what you have rather than what you don't
2007-11-25 16:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you must enjoy listening to it...... if ppl are talking about others and its not there business you should say something or leave........ listening to that just fuels the fire...... its like your saying yes i believe you .... if that's all they can think to talk about is to trash others i would find somewhere else to be . if they are trashing ppl who aren't there to stand up for them self they are talking about you when your not there!!!
2007-11-25 16:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dana S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I would say take some distends of it.
Family can be a real pain .
2007-11-25 17:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Chantal D. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋