I live with my mom in Texas but i reallllly want to live with my dad in Louisiana.The problem is my mom would be alone and feel really bad.My dad has a wife and step son so he is never alone. Any idea's to help me make up my mind?I have till Christmas.
2007-11-25 14:24:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks michelle!your right,though my mom hates dogs;)
2007-11-25 15:10:14 · update #1
I went through the same thing. Personally, I think it's bad my parents ever split up because they're still really good together, only they just say it's complicated. But yeah...
My dad and I lived in Virginia and my mom lived in Deleware and I wanted to live with my mom, but she had a boyfriend and my dad had no one and he'd be lonely and I'd be guilty.
In the end, I chose to live with my mom because it made me happy. My dad was disappointed but I visit him once a month for long weekends (like friday after school to late sunday) and we have fun and go out and do stuff. Plus, he got a puppy after I left so I think he's busy with all that potty training stuff.
I suggest you get your mom a dog and go live with your dad and visit her like I do my dad. It'll be fine. Things tend to work out. You'll just have more fun when you're with her. Like, my dad takes me out to dinner specially and we go to cool places. Whatever makes you happy.
Let me put it this way: they inconvenienced you by splitting. All you have to do is try and make yourself comfortable with it and okay with it. It sucks, I know, but it happens to almost everyone.
2007-11-25 15:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by michelle8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is hard choice but when I was younger I had to make a simular one and I chose to stay with my lonely mom. Now that I'm an adult I wish I would have went with my dad cause I don't think I ever really got to be a kid. That is your only job right now is to be a kid. Do what u really want, your mom will understand. Maybe your your situation is different but I hope I helped.
2007-11-25 14:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by jerink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You're carrying a lot of weight on your shoulders right now. More than any kid should have to bear. If you really don't want to live with your mom I'm not sure if you're doing her any favors by hanging around. Maybe you will be doing the "right" thing by hanging around but you will resent her for keeping you somewhere you don't want to be. And this can't be good for your relationship.
If you truly WANT to be there for your mother then this can be a good thing. But if this is a HAVE to or a guilt type of a thing it'll actually be worse for you and your mother.
2007-11-25 14:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone here is telling you to live with your mom because she alone well that's not right . you are a kid i am guessing and a kid should not have to take care of the parent . the parent should be taking care of the kid . and if your mom cant do that maybe you should live with your dad . but it is up to you . no knows the full story. you are the only one that can make this decision. but you don't want to make it for the wrong reason. because you will resent yourself and how ever you chose to live with . maybe ask one of them to move close to the other. they will want you to be happy . good luck.
2007-11-25 14:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by HEATHER L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit your dad before then and see if you want to live with him. If you preferred living with your mom it will be calmer without all the family members and she won't be lonely, but if you want to be with your dad more, go live with him. Whichever one works best for you is best. Your mom will understand if you talk with her about it and promise to visit. Set her up with someone!
2007-11-25 14:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur mom needs u more. u could however have a schedule for holidays and special events. like spend x-mas, thanksgiving, 4th july, and all those other holidays with either your mom or dad, also b-days!
2007-11-25 14:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Nocturne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live with your dad and tell mom its just for a year to try out.
2007-11-25 14:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by satya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you better live with ur mom because she is going to be so lonely cause she's all alone while ur dad's having another family...and maybe you wont get in nicley with ur dad's new family...specially ur steps..
2007-11-25 14:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by vandian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say live with your mom dont leave her all alone by herself
but explain to your dad you miss him and dont see enough of him
2007-11-25 14:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be with your mom.... he will be needing you more than your dad. since your dadhad already a family that will be with him. ANd your mother only have you!!!! so, just stay with your mom...
2007-11-25 14:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋