My parents can't stand that I just got my PhD in Electrical Engineering, but instead of finding a "real job" I decided to work for SETI to search for aliens... I also moved in with my girl friend (she is 19)... I am doing NOTHING to them... these are my life choices and I am happy... but they are about to disown me! help!
2007-11-25 17:00:38 · 6 answers · asked by Plazzmoidi F. McStinkleshlonger 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I understand the disappointing the parents thing. But, you know what, you have to make your own choices and live your life the way you want to! Tell them that you respect their opinions but you'll just have to agree to disagree. Enlighten them about your job (it sounds cool to me!) and your girlfriend. Maybe they will see that you are doing whats right for you. Let them know that its your decision but you hope they can offer support for you even if they don't agree. Good luck!
2007-11-25 17:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by MomOfThreeBoys 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, it is your life and you get to make your own choices about how to live it. It sounds like you are a successful person with a PHD, a gf, and a job you really like. Follow your dreams and do what you feel is best for yourself. As far as your parents are concerned, try to explain to them that you only want to have a happy life. When you are 65, you want to look back at your life with no regrets, knowing you did what you truly wanted to do. And who knows? You may not want to search for aliens forever. You may eventually get that "real job" that they want for you. Tell them that. Be honest with them, yet sensitive. Good Luck!
2007-11-25 19:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Disown you?
You are already an educated, self-supporting adult.
You are happy.
If you get tired of SETI, you can go somewhere else to work.
You need nothing from your parents... you really don't need their acceptance. Stand up for yourself, tell them that these are your choices and that you are pleased. They should be happy that you are successful and out of their house.
Make yourself scarce and don't call them for a long time. Hopefully they will come to miss you.
2007-11-25 17:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever pay attention your mom and dad fuss? If you have not, I can see why you "consider" your loved ones was once ultimate. You can not fairly see or pay attention what is going on at the back of your mum or dad's closed doorways. Then whilst it turns into an excessive amount of, it comes out within the open so you can also consider it is your fault, however it's not. Your mom and dad had disorders for the duration of their years and it is gotten so dangerous they can not conceal and false anymore. Sorry.
2016-09-05 14:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by mesidor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those parents, well I have a father like that.
Good advice: avoid them, better without them, parents who telling that are not worth to be called a parent at all.
Well, here in my country (Belgium) a parent can't disown (he tried but did not succeeded!).
In your case I would say built up a stable life with your girlfriend and all what you will achieved is better then living with such " parents".
I wish you good luck!
2007-11-25 17:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by Chantal D. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are living their lives vicariously through you... so they are disappointed because of it....
Let them be disappointed... You are right, it's YOUR life, and it's OK to live it as you see fit, and the way which makes you happy.
take care.
your parents will get over it...
2007-11-25 17:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋