My whole life my EXTREMELY emotionally abusive father, who happens to be a habitual, functional alcoholic, has always told me what to do, what not to do, and everything in between at every given moment. I was never allowed to second-guess him, nor did I ever try for fear of intensive punishment. Now, I am 17 and about to go away to college and don't know what to do because soon I know I will be very very lost and not know what to do......help?? How do I figure things out without messing up my, and everyone else's lives? Without resorting to that punishment that comes with the second-guessing of my dad's judgements??
2007-11-25 13:50:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also...I am so scared because everything I do...nothing is ever right, I am always doing something wrong and getting in trouble for it....only now there won't be a constant dire pressure for me not to screw up, so what will I do??? I will just screw up and what??
2007-11-25 14:07:22 · update #1
I understand your insecurities coming from such a tough household, but the reality is, you are who you make yourself to be. If you go into college with a positive attitude, you will succeed socially and academically. Think of this as your "big escape," if you will. This is your chance to shine.
I'm sure you know what's wrong and right, so be sure to have some common sense going into things. College is a hard transition for most people... it's pretty much a person's first shot at true independence. You don't have parents to answer to, you can stay up all night if you want to, you can skip class if you want to, not do homework, etc. This is what causes problems for a lot of individuals. Sometimes they cannot handle the freedom and seriously screw up by partying too much and not focusing on school. As long as you have a good head on your shoulders, you will be fine. Trust me. Be nice and I promise you you will make friends and do well.
Best of luck.
2007-11-25 13:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with a low sense of self-esteem because you have been controlled for so long. Don't let anyone ever tell you that you are not good enough.
Please focus on your impending FREEDOM. Hooray for you!
If there is a document you have to sign, just read it carefully, and ask what each thing means if you don't really understand it.
Nothing you can do while at college will mess up anyone else's life... you might make a set-back happen for yourself... but nobody else.
Get out there, do your studies, find some new friends, and perhaps a part-time job. Once you are gone, stay gone.
2007-11-25 14:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get therapy to help you adjust and become healthy again. Good luck
2007-11-25 14:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok nicely first of all im no longer gonna say what your doing is ideal yet its no longer my existence its yours so im no longer going to guage you... what i could do is basically get some tissue and do your stuff it drys all of it up! works everytime!
2016-10-25 02:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by corujo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋