Family - November 2007

So...
here's the deal: I feel like my family's slowly being ripped apart by lots of things, and it's the whole family (relatives too) that are affected. my uncle just died a couple years ago, but it's still pretty fresh for everyone, a cousin is in iraq, working in a high-danger-level job and another cousin is leaving for iraq in couple months to be over there for a year (this one has a preschoolage kid), and the rest of the family is pretty much divided over what would be best for a grandparent. she is quite elderly and starting to forget things. a lot. at thanksgiving i found out that she doesn't know who one of her daughters is anymore (my mom), and im 99.99% sure she doesn't know who i am or my sister or dad.

everyone is really stressed out and there are so many taboo subjects at meals like thanksgiving that it's hard to have a conversation without at least *some* awkward moment. i also feel a bit jipped because all my cousins are at least 10 years older than me (cont. below)

2007-11-24 15:48:01 · 7 answers · asked by scarheadlovesferret 4

Yikes, were talking collage! I've always had A+ report cards, except for the occasional A, and once even a B.( which never happened again)

Anyways, we're thinking Harvard. I know it's a wacky dream, but my parents are going to try ang get me in for an interview. I want to become a lawyer, and my parents say I have the brains for it. But suddenly, after I really thought, I wasn't sure if I wanted to go to collage at all! I was suprised when I thought that! Should I go for the interview or not? I'm confused!

2007-11-24 15:46:25 · 7 answers · asked by Mickey 1

So my bff's husband is getting deployed (he's in the service), she currently lives on base where he is stationed. In a few months she is moving back to town, when she does we are getting a place together. I am excited but recently heard through the mill she is trying to get pregnant before he leaves "just in case something happens to him". I don't mean to be inconsiderate or anything but I do not want to deal with a pregnant person or a baby. I mean, I am young with 2 jobs and in school trying to jump start my career; I don't think it's fair to me to make me deal with that. I have anxiety and am stressed enough as it is, with my plateful and I really don't want to hear a baby crying or have to take care of a pregnant person. I choose to never have kids for a reason. She has not discussed any of this with me about her wanting to get pregnant. Am I being a jerk or do I deserve the right to decline being her roomate if in fact she happens to be pregnant when we move in? Do I say something

2007-11-24 15:44:32 · 4 answers · asked by hi 2

cant have nice things becuase of my little brother and sister, and really cant have anything. im freaking out i need a gift for my mom for christmas. oh plus she cant wear anything but her uniform? i love my mom but shes hard to shop 4

2007-11-24 15:26:18 · 37 answers · asked by Hope:] 2

Long story made short-My husband found out that his mother borrowed his identity and opened two credit cards in his name without him knowing about this. We got a shock when he ran his credit report and found two cards he never even knew about that had gone to collection. He confronted her over the phone and she fessed up. We found out that to do anything about this legally that we would have to press charges against her-needless to say, he couldn't do that to his Mom. He did tell her if this ever happened again that she would not be a part of our lives EVER again. So, we are now stuck with the bill. I feel as though he should put her on some type of payment plan to make her realize her behavior will not be tolerated-he just wants to forget the whole incident. It isn't that we need the money back, it is the pain and grief she has caused that makes me feel as though she should have to do something to realize how much of an issue she has caused.
What would you do?

2007-11-24 15:24:57 · 14 answers · asked by Christine D 1

ok so i no it sounds mean that i hate my mom but i do..no dought about it..she is so controling, she controls everything..ok to begin she got me this cell phone but everynight it has to be in her room at 10 pm to charge..when it is in her room she goes through all my messeges, i delete them when i put it in her room but the ones i get when they are in her room she reads..she tells me that since its not my phone, i dont deserve privacy, next is my life, i cant do anything or go anywhere, i am a teen and should be having fun but no i have to beg and pleed to get out..i should have my license for about 4 months now but she wont let me get it, i dont no why, my grades are good a 3.0!!! finally she tried to take my paycheak last night. i was like no and she was pissed, its my money but she told me it wasnt cuz she took the time and gas to take me, its only like 10 min away..she is the reason for my depression and i cant deal with it anymore she is the biggegst ***** ever and i want OUT NOW

2007-11-24 15:24:04 · 55 answers · asked by phatmeegan91 1

I made it through the high school years with raciest parents and being in a white school it did not really affect me.But I'm in college now and I date boys of all races and do not care.The only thing I care about is that they are in college, could care less about their color.My dad does not approve and I just do not bring it up.But when a guy calls me the the first words out of my dad's mouth are is he black? that angers me. I go can I have friends come over, and he goes only if they are white. I watch videos on MTV and he goes you better find a normal boy.I calmly tried to explain my views and i just can not agree with his hatred. He forbids me to date anyone not white. I don't know what to do!

2007-11-24 15:21:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 3 growing up children, a boy and 2 girls

2007-11-24 15:15:24 · 2 answers · asked by noy 4

What will happen if calll the child abuse hotline on
my boyfriend's father and mother for abusing him repeatedly?
Will I break up his family?
He has two younger sisters and I don't want break them up.
But I'm so worried for his life because he's had biopolar disorder and depression.
Help! Please!

2007-11-24 15:02:58 · 22 answers · asked by gabiehr9 2

help me please!

2007-11-24 15:02:46 · 1 answers · asked by princessleilel98 1

My father has been gone for 16 years. I don't blame my father for leaving, for I know that he had many problems and obstacles to overcome however, I can't say that it has not affected me. As a matter of fact, it affects me everyday. I choke relationships and constantly feel unwanted or feel like I have go the extra mile for people to like me. In reality, people rarely dislike me and i'm always being told that i am a strong person and that it seems like the abandonment has no affect on me. Recently I feel like that I have been tricking myself into feeling like it doesn't bother me. I feel like this is the root of all of my problems. My Mother shut down due to this and following abusive husbands/boyfriends and was rarely able to be there for me. I got into a lot of trouble as a kid. I tried to self medicate with sex. I'm now a father to three sons at 24 and will never leave them. I overcame a lot and am about to graduate college but, can I truly ever overcome the abandonment? how? when?

2007-11-24 14:55:45 · 13 answers · asked by luckyme3435 1

omg i am like getting sick of my parents!!!! and my brother and everyone else!!!! they just get on my nerves!!!!! Please does anyone else get this way they are so anoying!!!!!!!

2007-11-24 14:52:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its for christmas.....and it can be something small but really cute so they appreciate it...and im really good at art so if it involves that im up for it!! i want to give all my uncles and aunts and grandparents something like that too...everything can be similar you know!

2007-11-24 14:45:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I lost my dad this morning and as of right now i really don't know what to do i feel lost in fact i feel no emotion at all and it scares me that i can be this calm. Im gonna go to church tomorrow morning and see if the pastor can help me through this tough time but i need all the help i can get cause i really feel like at sometime i may loose it and completely break down cause i was real close to my father and im taking it really hard. any prayer and help right now would be appreciated.

2007-11-24 14:36:38 · 15 answers · asked by PupeTTo Loco 2

ok, i had a huge fight with my mom because of my sister's big mouth!
now i don't talk to my mother and my sister wants to pick a fight with me, she's the most annoying thing to live because she's really immature, she's 22 but acts like a 9 year old!
she's always temping me to say something to her to get in more trouble.
I have to see her face every night because we share our bedroom(yes a 22 yrold woman living with her parents and sleeping in the same room as her 17 yr old sister!!!)
so what i need is help calming myself down so i won't pick a fight with her.
what can i do not to fall on her stupid game???

2007-11-24 14:33:33 · 12 answers · asked by ¬¬ 5

My sister is the spawn of evil and I have used every trick I know of to get back at her but nothing works. What things can I do to get back at her w/o getting into trouble. I NEED SOME TIPS HERE PPL!!!!!!!!!

2007-11-24 14:21:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend is a victim of child abuse.
He is biopolar and has serious depression.
And today his father busted his arm.
How do I help him?
Should I go to the police?
He has two sisters is it a good idea to say something?
Should I break up his family?

2007-11-24 14:18:04 · 8 answers · asked by gabiehr9 2

I am always sad, I can cry so easily and cry often. I am going through so much stress, I moved to a new city to go to law school with my BF of 2 years then 6 months in he became verbally abuse and emotionally absent and void. I still see him everyday and try so hard to get him to want me (I know that sounds pathetic and the thing is that I don't really want to be with him, I just want to reject him like he did me). I gained 15lbs this summer so none of my clothes fit and I am uncomfortable in my body, I don't get along with my mom at all so I am mean to her b/c she has no idea how to interact with me I am a no-nonsense type of person and with her everything is some corny joke or lie. I just want to be happy! what can I do?

2007-11-24 14:17:13 · 6 answers · asked by ~♥ Sicilia D ♥~ 3

Since i was 8 I have had my step dad problems get worse and worse(that was when my little half sis was born) it has escalated to the point that whenever my mom isnt home there is at least 3 times that he makes me feel like i am a worthless little kid who crys at everything. he threw me across the room once when I was 11 because he 'thought i was attaking' my little 2 year old brother he has slapped me twice backhanded me once practically choked me another time because he smacked me in the throut so hard, but the last straw was when he pinned me down and yelled in my face, i ran away. they found me later that night because my friends parents called and told them where i was...after that my mom promised she would sign us up for councelling but it has been two months and that still hasnt happened, for a while i didnt have to talk to him if i didnt want to...which i dont...but my mom isnt a good middle man, and it is happening again, what should i do?

2007-11-24 14:12:34 · 21 answers · asked by Court 1

My grandma is 77. When she was in Cambodia before living in the U.S, the pul pot(the Vet that practically destroyed Cambodia) was there. they killed my grandpa and my uncles. only her and my mom survived. now, she is very sick. everyday she says shes "really" sick. she complains everyday. shes so annoying now. she always goes in my room and starts to be nosy. my mom takes care of her everyday. more than she takes care of my family. and if you dont listen to my grandma, shell start crying and say your mean and a bad person. she is sooo selfish. she likes to play slots a lot. she has a gambling problem. A BAD ONE. The doctors cant cure her sickness. She has leg cramps, high blood pressure, and if she smells any chemicals shell get sick for almost a week. lately, shes been coming up with excuses. like now she cant sit in teh back of the car anymore because of the material on the chair and stuff. she is giving me stress everyday freaking day.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER? =[

2007-11-24 14:05:01 · 12 answers · asked by samantha<3 2

Why must parents bring their kids to the store and then the kid starts crying and get grumpy that shouldn't be their time and place to do that at all having all the employees work and listening to kids whine is a nuissance. I don't like it nobody else likes it for all I care they should lock up their kids in the car until they get out of the grocery store I hate kids coming in and being a pain in the ***.

2007-11-24 13:48:33 · 11 answers · asked by David S 1

I am so worried for my sister. My sister is smart, beautiful and successful. She has it all going on. Shes been seeing this guy for several months now, and she pays for everything they do, cause he has no money. He works for some car detailer, but has been divorced and moved back in with his folks. Anyway, he has said " I never wanna grow up." (He is 34 years old and has a kid by his ex wife.). Over the Thanksgiving holiday, he has spent the past two nights at me and my family's house. But last night when my sis brought them back home, they got into an argument and he spit in her face on our front porch. Now when this happened, she yelled for my step dad and he came out to see what was wrong. Then this guy didn't even apologize etc. My step dad sent him back to his family in a cab. I told sis to dump him, as this can later lead to violence etc. But, today, she told me she didn't. What can I do if anything? I could write tons of stuff about him, but I am scared. What can I do?

2007-11-24 13:43:54 · 10 answers · asked by perfumeholic 1

I have been interested in the Baha'i religon. Does anyone know some of the basic understandings of this religon? What do they belive about sex before marrige?

Please no rude comments.

2007-11-24 12:36:21 · 6 answers · asked by Caroline 6

2007-11-24 12:29:05 · 18 answers · asked by boomba.3090 1

She's 14 I know I know she's to young to be having kids but she just found out she was six weeks pregnant. Her boyfriend's mother took her to the doctor and told her she was six weeks she called me crying and asked me what to do. I'm just as confused as her. No one in our family knows but me and I don't want to tell my mama because she's going to tell her mother and she wants to tell her herself but doesn't know how. Her mother has a bad temper and we are scared that she might snap on us. Her boyfriend is on the phone crying his eyes out saying he's to young to be a daddy and that he had to step up and take care of his responsability but he's still scared for her since his mother knows already and I'm on the other end confused. Please help us out? Please someone? Tell us what to do?

2007-11-24 12:00:06 · 51 answers · asked by demitria c 2

Ok, well this is a big one..ready? I have the option to move but no way to move my things, i have 2 kids and i am living with my parents...they have threatened to have me arrested for indangering my children if i move in with my boyfriend even though there is no danger...i will have a wram home for them and am completely able to care for them in all ways...my family is just a bunch of negative asses..i am the "black sheep" and iam a good mom my children are happy and healty....now my family still holds my past against me and they are using my past as tgeir fight fuel now. when i was a teen i stole and lied and ran-away from home partied and did drugs but all that was over 5years ago...im 21 now and my children are 3 and 1 1/2...im a better person and very responsible...but no matter how hard i try nothing i do is good enough or ever right...i am always being told that im never gonna get ahead in life cause i screwed myself when i got pregnant at 17. any words of encouragement??

2007-11-24 11:54:35 · 11 answers · asked by adarkerdream 1

if a boy and his father were in an car crash and the father died..... and the boy got tooken to a hospital. the doctor came in the room and said this is my child how is that possibe .......i know but do you

2007-11-24 10:44:30 · 10 answers · asked by Miss Chicago 3

my sister is 24yrs old now and she has told my mom and i that our uncle(my mom's brother) use to molest her when she was 10yrs old. he was 18yr old then, .. i want to confront him but my sister and mom says that it will tear the family apart and that it was so long ago what positive can come from it.. my sister is married with kids now and so is my uncle..should i confront him or not? if i don't he will feel he has gotten away with it

2007-11-24 10:31:24 · 21 answers · asked by trustluvlove 1

so i've had this computer for about a year. and i paid almost $250 for it with my parents and its been in our den till now. I want it in my own room because its just easier and it would be nice to do my homework alone and such. but my parents wont let me because they think i'll do bad things. I am a really good kid and i would never do that. how can i get them to compromise to let me put it in my room. like blocking websites and such. thanks!

2007-11-24 09:43:20 · 7 answers · asked by coloradogirl21 3

I have noticed this in the U.S. Can somebody explain?

2007-11-24 08:58:47 · 29 answers · asked by shakky_wakky 2