What will happen if calll the child abuse hotline on
my boyfriend's father and mother for abusing him repeatedly?
Will I break up his family?
He has two younger sisters and I don't want break them up.
But I'm so worried for his life because he's had biopolar disorder and depression.
Help! Please!
2007-11-24 15:02:58 · 22 answers · asked by gabiehr9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-11-24 15:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't say how old your BF is, but if mo and fa have access to children under age 18, they will take the accusation seriously.
I'm not sure how it's done in your area, but standard practice is to interview the kids separately, away from the parents' presence, to get their views of what is happening. If there's any question of physical battery or sexual abuse the kids could be taken to a medical exam to look for evidence.
If it's serious and evidence is found, there could be legal charges. More likely is that there'd be some court hearings about the safety of the kids in the home, and the parents could be ordered to parenting classes.
In the majority of calls to child abuse hotlines, nothing happens other than interviewing of the children and adults. That usually puts the parents on notice that they need to watch out what they're doing.
Here's a suggestion you might want to consider. You might want to tell a teacher or medical professional about your concerns. By law they have to report suspected child abuse to authorities, and they can help you figure out how to handle this. By the way, these reports are handled anonymously, so unless the law is real different in your state (I'm familiar with California law) the investigator will not tell the parents the source of the report.
By the way, I hope your boyfriend is getting professional help for his depression; that's not a do-it-yourself project.
2007-11-24 15:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by Pat D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would call the child abuse hotline first. Or call the police department and tell them! Everything would be anonymus and would not come back on you, unless you are the only one that your boyfriend has told! Or you can talk to your boyfriend and ask him if he has a place where he can take his sisters for say the weekend, and then have him tell a family member what his parents have done to him, and possibly to his sisters. Like a Grandparent!
Depending on what type of abuse and the ages of the children and which parent is actually doing the abusing, they might just send them all to counseling. Which would be a great idea, from the sound of it.
Hope the best for all and hope this will give you some insight of what can be done. My prayers are with you and your boyfriend.
2007-11-24 15:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by C M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call the cops if he is being abused. If he has marks they will put a stop to it. The help line will only help to a certain point I think. The cops will make a report and the mother and father will be investigated. I am so sorry he is going through this. It breaks my heart!!! Always stay by his side. But if he doesn't want the help you may have to step back even though it is hard. But has to want the help. You can't do it for him. It's his call since it is happening to him. You could even call the Social Worker to investigate it too. There are options.
2007-11-24 15:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask an adult about it. That is child abuse. I am going to suppose the mum was whipping the child with the belt or something. And I am positive that it is child abuse because the only excuse would be discipline. And would whipping a kid with a belt or something bee disciplinary for her saying good night? I don't think so. The proper punishment should be the mum just telling the child to be quiet or perhaps scolding her a little bit.
2016-05-25 06:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could allow worse things to happen by not calling. I tried calling for a friend once, and they told me that they couldn't act unless I saw her getting hit...so it really didn't help. Look, talk to him about it before you call and at best, have him call..that way they won't be as..afraid to take action. He's being abused, what if something happens and it's ten times worse? You need to make the call and realize it's in the best interests of the family. Sorry your going through this. I hope I helped. I'll be praying.
2007-11-24 15:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have to investigate every call so I suggest you do it anonymously so that your boyfriend doesn't find out it was you.
As far as what will happen all depends, there are guidelines that they have to follow and sometimes their hands are tied and can't do what you think needs to be done.
If the children are taken out of the home they try to keep siblings together as best they can(sometimes they can't, not enough room in one home).
If they are separated it should only be temporary.
The important things here is you need to talk to your parents and let them help you in this decision, and getting the abuse to stop.
Good Luck
2007-11-24 15:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by patience 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this young man is old enough to be your boyfriend and capable of having a relationship,he is old enough to call the hot line himself....? Have you witnessed the abuse yourself or are you just going by what he is telling you..? People with his disorder sometimes get delusional if they miss their medication.
Encourage him to get help if you have seen the acts of abuse. If you do it, how do you know he won't deny it to protect his parents..? Also, talk with your parents to get further guidance before doing anything you may regret.
2007-11-24 15:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by skyy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you look in your phone book I think there is a hotline where you can make anonymous tip off at your local state agency. I can't think of the name. Child division of something... Maybe someone else can help me out on this one.
2007-11-24 15:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get him help! Call the hotline and tell them the situation. The social workers assess the situation and will make a home visit. If you can't call yourself, then tell a trusted adult! Teacher, counselor, your mom etc. He has suffered long enough get help!
2007-11-24 15:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is tough. if u truely think its abuse and u fear for his health and or life i would call the worse that couldhappen is the family gets the counseling they need to bring them together as a family closer and this may really help your boy friend... just make sure ur not making a mountain out of a mole hill and its really abuse if it is please call
2007-11-24 15:08:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋