Family - November 2007

I have a really small family, my mom and dad, brother (and wife) and sister (and boyfriend) plus me, these are the only people at our family holiday dinners as I have no extended family and faux family members have married off into their own families- this year my boyfriend has requested that I attend his family party for christmas eve because he feels sad we're not together over the holidays (dont' get me wrong, i do too!) but my thing is this, my family is small and getting smaller (my sister and boyfriend won't even be at this year's christmas, they'll be at his) while my boyfriend has a huge extended family that gets together in full force- I'm not going to lie, i would feel ridden with guilt and probably have a horrible time thinking of my mom and dad and brother by themselves- I'm trying to hold my family together, what am I supposed to do in these situations when I look really selfish? I tried to explain but I know that doesn't change the fact he wants me there too... help?

2007-11-23 17:08:07 · 6 answers · asked by peaches11 1

I'll try to summarize everything. We had to give my fiance's brother a ride to their parents vacation home 3 hours away. His brother told his dad that we were going to be late leaving, because I needed to see my mom... his dad went ballistic. He then told his dad that we'd have to leave their house early so that we could get back to see my mom--he still said no way.

My fiance said that if I went w/him, then we'd for sure come back. At 6pm my fiance told his dad "our dogs are home alone, this is her first t-giving w/out her dad.. and plus her friends dad died". (my dad died recently, my friends dad died yday)

His dad yelled and said "I have more sense than any of you, I'm a doctor and know what I'm talking about. Who cares if she doesn't see her mom-don't put her above us. Her friends dad is dead and it's over with.. and your dogs won't starve over night". This went on for 10 minutes.

How would you feel about this?

2007-11-23 16:38:06 · 15 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2

so he my friend was pissed at me for things i said to my sister that has nothing to do with him. i was pissed at him cuz he didnt even go after me when walking and left me behind i tried to explain to my sister how i felt she said i was being jealous becasue he stuck up for her. i was shocked because i wasnt even caring i was saying things to you not him why does he feel he needs to do that i was his friend for 3 years. he has repeatedly been rude talking down to me and being very mean and my sister totally thinks its ok for this to happen yes i may have been rude we both were vut do i desrve to be treated like this havong my sister go on trips knowing he is being mean to me posting our private conversations on line fore every1 to see and saying hateful things to me because i was fighting with my sister. I just dont know what to do i apologized for the things i said to my sister. every time i try to tell her about how i feel aobut her and my friend she says iam jealous what do i do ???

2007-11-23 16:35:57 · 2 answers · asked by luv4majik 1

2007-11-23 16:03:55 · 2 answers · asked by gorgeous gm 4

I'm 16 and I've really been fighting with my mom alot, only verbal she hasn't tried to hit me yet, I don't think she will. But along with this I've been getting in trouble at school for ditching. This has been going on for the last month and before but not as bad as it is now. It may not seem like a lot but I've already got like a foot out the door and am about to just runaway. Is there any other alternative in the legal aspect or maybe just some advice any one can offer me it would be truly appreciated.

2007-11-23 16:02:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have just started writing an independant blog/advice column for pregnancy/parenting/family issues and my readership is still kind of low. I know a part of it is because the page itself is still new, but I was wondering if part of the reason for the low numbers is because I do not have a psychology degree.

Do you think that people are less likely to take advice from someone who does not have a diploma in a related field, or do you think people appreciate "mom-to-mom" advice and I just haven't gotten enough exposure yet?

Thanks!

p.s.-If you want to see the kind of advice I'm giving you can go to http://www.askmrsm.wordpress.com

2007-11-23 15:47:08 · 3 answers · asked by lovelymrsm 5

My mom let me buy a few things off of the internet, but I bought about $40 worth of more stuff. I don't know why I did, but now I feel really bad. Should I tell her? I thought I would just sort of sneak the money into her purse or something, although I wouldn't be comming clean. I'm think I'm going to return the stupid extra items that I bought as soon as they come in the mail.

2007-11-23 15:26:19 · 12 answers · asked by deeptruth246 1

I often get into an argument about this with my husband but our 6 and 10 yr old do not listen to me. I have to repeat myself often and raise my voice and am getting poor results. I know a kid needs to be a kid but this is a situation where they dont mind or respect me. I'm constantly saying stop kicking me , breaking things of mine in the house, no you cant have 5 pudding cups for dinner , no coloring on my bed sheets with crayons. My husband says im too hard on them especially the 6 yr old . Please help

2007-11-23 15:19:04 · 12 answers · asked by K 1

I am 45. I have always felt that I had the ability to be successful with my own business. To this point, I have had lots of ideas, but no success. I want to be able to provide for my family whatever they need. You know, pay for college, help purchase a vehicle etc. I have not gotten to that point yet and it really bothers me. I feel that I have let my family and myself down. Is this common?

2007-11-23 15:19:01 · 11 answers · asked by Brian L 1

2007-11-23 15:19:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was in a fight with my mom and i started crying on the stairway. She keept on saying come on christina lets watch the movie! I just keep on crying. She finaly came over and said,"What is wrong would you please tell me?" in a strict voice. I said well sometimed i have weird feelings that you dont love or care for me. i say this because if she really loved or cared for me she would be more understanding, she would come over and say whats wrong and try to make me feel better but no.She just said your wrong and im sorry you feel this way and hurt.she left. i went down the stairs to get a tissue and fell down the stairs preety hard. my mom came over and helped me to the couch. I clamed down and asked for a tissue i was hurting inside and out iwent over to her and said i need a hug.By then i was calm. She pushed me off her and said stop. I just couldent believe it. Im only 12

2007-11-23 15:18:30 · 7 answers · asked by Tara 2

Being a dad, sometimes one of the kids will speak hatefully and out of line in a way I don't allow in the house, which triggers them getting sent to their rooms to cool off or to the proverbial "time out chair", and often while they are on the chair they continue to be hateful and mean. So I keep upping the time they have to spend sitting there until they finally stop spouting and obey the quiet rule on the chair.

The problem is that my wife thinks that I should just ignore whatever crap they are spouting while they're in the punishment zone, which strikes my as being the same thing as saying " of any crime committed while in prison doesn't increase the time an inmate has to spend" -- and she won't let up on the criticality for hours, even after the kid is off time out and has accepted the correction, gone back to happy, etc.

At which point I don't see a way to fix things and usually just have to walk away -- which really doesn't help either.

Suggestions?

2007-11-23 15:16:45 · 4 answers · asked by HeartSpeaker 3

I am the youngest of seven. There is a 23 year gap between my older brother and myself. We have only been able to form a cordial sibling relationship because ever since I can remember he has had a family and kids.

His wife died three years ago. The rest of my siblings were all too happy to move in and take over his funeral arrangements but have not kept in touch with him since. I call him every Sunday night, and he always tells me I'm the only one in the family he ever hears from. I am especially pissed at my second third and fourth oldest brother about this, because the first two grew up under the same roof with him, and he took the third one in for a full summer when he and my dad were fighting.

The sibling Christmas party is coming up. They usually get drunk and are busybodies at these gatherings. My oldest brother (who is a recoverd alcoholic) is hurt, and does not plan to go. My wife and I are planning not to attend either to support him in this. Your thoughts?

2007-11-23 15:13:33 · 6 answers · asked by rhino 6

well, to start, my parents buy me everything i need. i want to earn my own money so my parents can have a rest and wont always need to give me money. what are some ways i can earn money?

2007-11-23 15:05:34 · 19 answers · asked by Lols 3

My mother-in-law gave my husband a birthday card with a half naked chick on the front with suggestive wording and sexual content - I find this bizarre when its a card from his mother and 2 nieces who are 11 and 13 - it wouldn't bother me if it was from a guy friend. I was so shocked when he opened it and she kept saying to me "did you read it? ha ha ha" - I am so annoyed or am I overreacting?

2007-11-23 15:01:42 · 11 answers · asked by lyndlyn 3

okay so when i was 6 my parents split up and got devoriced because my mom was cheating on my dad with another guy. i live with my daddy now. And visit my mom every wednesday and eveery other weekend and when im there all she does is yell at me. and she just had my lil sister about a year ago and now shes prego with my new brother due in janurary and i dont have a room there. and i never want to go to my moms. is it bad that i still cry about the devorice?? and is it bad that i hold all my feelings inside and push them to the side? and put all my friends feelings before my own. and that i am always smileing and all happy and all my friends think i am always like that but i am not really like that at all. if they ask me whats wrong i just lie and smile saying "oh nothing". is it bad that i lie to my family and teachers (NOT FRIENDS) about it?? cause my one teacher seems like she can see right through me and behind the mask. is it bad that i lie to ALL of them about it??

2007-11-23 14:56:16 · 10 answers · asked by Sadie.♥ 2

2007-11-23 14:42:00 · 35 answers · asked by Sufi 7

hes been helping her parents work on their house..and so they started going out..and her parents seem oblivious...and they just dont even seem to care. my niece is also mad at me for trying to talk to her about how she is acting. how can i possibly fix this situation. she doesnt realize shes to young for this kind of relationship.

2007-11-23 14:35:07 · 42 answers · asked by babydol702002 2

I am 17, a senior in high school with a younger sibling, my dad is an emotionally abusive alcoholic. An alcoholic so much so that he drives 1 1/2 hours to go to his favorite bar where he drinks all day long, and when he is ready my mom and I go to the bar to pick him up....we park and I go into the bar where I wait until he is ready and I find someone to help me carry him out to the car. After we leave, one of us rides with him and other one drives the other vehicle we drove and we start home....it always ends with him angry, us frustrated or sad, him belittling or pestering us to our last end, or sometimes he is really mushy and just wants to snuggle with everyone......I've dealt with this since I was 3.....how do I keep it from bugging me and how do I deal with it for my sibling when I go to college next year??? No wise cracks please....it isn't funny.
Distracting him wouldn't work....he leaves for the bar before I wake up in the morning. We don't have the resources to do anything.

2007-11-23 14:20:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

because she's having financial problems... she's very difficult to be around as it is. Does anyone have any advice before we make a decision either way?

2007-11-23 14:07:59 · 14 answers · asked by Shana B 6

2007-11-23 13:25:18 · 3 answers · asked by show hui t 1

My 3 year old daughter father is a deadbeat he works a good job and literally doesnt give my daughter a dime each payday. Aside from that he will go for months and not call or keep any kind of contact, holidays pass and her birthday. He does this every year we argue a lot because of how he treats my baby he hates me he does not want to try to reach a resoloution for her sake he finds it easier to just act as if she doesnt exist he disrespects me,badmouths me to his family.They barely call for my daughter either only a few do now. He lives with his 41 year old immature *** girlfriend i just found out she is pregnant by him. It angers me because he doesnt acknowledge his daughter or how she feels and now he is having another child which he will be there for everyday he would never do the things he did to me to that other woman how can i handle this besides taking his sorry *** to court im a single parent struggling i never get a break im angry and depressed all the time and alone

2007-11-23 13:14:47 · 12 answers · asked by Bleedingheartz 1

Ok long story short. I live with my grandparents and aunt in NV and my aunt hit, kicked, and shoved me. I told my mom and she said don't tell anything to my grandma cause she could get really stressed and have another heart attack. But my grandma found out and I have decided to go live back with my mom. The only thing is that I have to share a room with my brother cause they changed the hole house after I left and my room has my sisters in it now. She won't give me my own room back and go back to how it used to be. My brother and I really don't get along no matter how hard i try to ignore him and i just want a place to go to so i can get away from all the yelling and screaming in my house cause i have 4 siblings. Here with my grandparents I have my own room and they told my aunt never to touch me again, but she will probably start something in the future which will stress out my grandma. And here i can take care of my grandma incase anything happens. What should i do?

2007-11-23 12:56:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 17, a senior in high school with a younger sibling, my dad is an emotionally abusive alcoholic. An alcoholic so much so that he drives 1 1/2 hours to go to his favorite bar where he drinks all day long, and when he is ready my mom and I go to the bar to pick him up....we park and I go into the bar where I wait until he is ready and I find someone to help me carry him out to the car. After we leave, one of us rides with him and other one drives the other vehicle we drove and we start home....it always ends with him angry, us frustrated or sad, him belittling or pestering us to our last end, or sometimes he is really mushy and just wants to snuggle with everyone......I've dealt with this since I was 3.....how do I keep it from bugging me and how do I deal with it for my sibling when I go to college next year??? No wise cracks please....it isn't funny.

2007-11-23 12:51:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do I come across like a c0ck sucker?
This is what my son's mother just called and called me. All I did was told Shannon's mother to tell Shannon that I want to take some picures with Santa Claus with my son at the mall, just to celebreat x mas. Do you people think I came across like a c0ck sucker?

2007-11-23 12:37:49 · 2 answers · asked by Isai 2

Ok yesturday my dad tells me that he has a 4 1/2 year old kid with this home wreacker crack whore ****. He lied to me for 4 years how mad would you be!!!

2007-11-23 11:10:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My father, my best friend, died last January. It still seems like yesterday that it happened. I feel such an emptiness inside and miss him more than I can explain. Never to hear his jokes, see him carve the turkey on the holidays, and the empty seat at the table is just too hard. Have any of you found a way to help in the healing process over the holidays?I used to love the holiday season, now I dread it and the rest of the family doesn't seem to be having a hard time with it.

2007-11-23 11:05:00 · 8 answers · asked by heartwhisperer2000 5

My mom is well a mom & likes to protect me.
On the other hand my dad let's me go anywhere.
I always ask my mom if i can go to my friends house.
"NO!" because she doesn't know the parents.
& i tell her that she can talk to them on the phone or
meet them when i get there.
STILL A NO!
I've talked to her but, nothing.
i need some advice to help me.
All my friends go out & invite me
but i can never ever go.
HELP?

2007-11-23 10:55:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do I have the right to be pissed off that my future in-laws are too overbearing? Amongst other things which have occured, this evening I'm sitting along because my 25 year old fiance has to wait for his 20 year old sister to come home before mid-night while the parents are out. He said he doesn't want to hear it that he's already confronted his parents about it. I don't get it, once we're married next year am I supposed to be ok with him going home to watch his "baby" sister?????? Uggghhhh!!!! His parents say its not right for his 20 year old sister to be alone at night...is there something wrong with me that I don't understand this?

2007-11-23 10:50:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad's been sober a month. He was sober for 4 years before this year because my grandpa died the day after my older half brother's 12th death anniversary who died of leukemia at 28. My dad kept on drinking after my grandpa died even though it was my maternal grandpa he was close to him but my paternal grandpa's still alive. And if my dad ask my mom to pick up a 12pack of Michelob, she doesit. My mom's never drank but a half of bottle of beer and a few glasses of wine in her life. She hasn't drank in 25 years. She buys it because my dad gets mad if she doesn't. My dad drinks up to 5-6 beers a nite sometimes just 2-4. It aggrivates me cuz if I ask him not to, he says, " Why don't we just perfect the world to your liking." In a snobby mean way. It makes me hurt because he's a great man and he's Christian and he just drinks sometimes. Now he's drinking a coke. But sometimes he'll get drunk and act crazy and wierd. Please help!!! Thanks?!><>

2007-11-23 10:46:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous