Do I have the right to be pissed off that my future in-laws are too overbearing? Amongst other things which have occured, this evening I'm sitting along because my 25 year old fiance has to wait for his 20 year old sister to come home before mid-night while the parents are out. He said he doesn't want to hear it that he's already confronted his parents about it. I don't get it, once we're married next year am I supposed to be ok with him going home to watch his "baby" sister?????? Uggghhhh!!!! His parents say its not right for his 20 year old sister to be alone at night...is there something wrong with me that I don't understand this?
2007-11-23 10:50:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What are you willing to tolerate? Tell him that it is not okay that his parents make you and your fiance responsible for his sister. She is not 5 years old. She is a grown lady.
She can take care of herself. Tell you fiance to either stand up to them or you will have to go your own way. They need to stop splitting people. That crap needs to stop.
Tell him in front of his parents. Let them know that what they are doing is putting a strain on their son's relationship with you. They need to give you and him the same amount of respect.
-Good luck.
2007-11-23 11:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he hasn't cut the apron strings.
He is 25... why is he still living with his parents? By now he ought to be out of college and in his own place, even if it is a humble apartment.
Are you expected to live with your in-laws? Eewww!
You really need to get these questions answered before you continue with this relationship. You know things will not improve after marriage.
2007-11-23 11:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how dysfunctional...your fiance needs to grow a pair and simply refuse to give in to their mania. Worrying about a 20 yr old coming home is just too ridiculous. His parents sound as if they don't have both oars in the water.
2007-11-23 11:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he going to keep babysitting after you're married?
The whole thing sounds wrong and I'm sure is just the tip of the problems. Obviously he isn't going to talk to them or deal with it. I would seriously be reconsidering marrying into this family. My in-laws were hell before we married and only got worse after. It has lead to hubby not speaking with most of them. It brings us peace as far as drama but leaves me torn inside that it has come to that. You need to set him down and make sure he understands just how much of a problem it is for you. If he is unwilling to deal with it you need to decide if you can live the rest of your life with it.
I'm surprised they let her out after dark if they're like that!
2007-11-23 12:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The top contributers have already said their part.
I agree with them. Take action in the most reasonable way for your relatinship to work. Not for the parents. "It's time for little sis to grow up now, I can't help her, I got fiancee to take care of now mom, sorry dad. I love her and I have to be with her no matter what. See ya on Christmas!" Drives off with you. (That's how it should be.)
He has to face the facts that he should not be driven by his parents. She should have been kicked out by now if she is that dependent and wants to be cakewalked about the place.
2007-11-23 11:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by sesshoumaru sama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He shouldnt be baby sitting after he married you, but there is no reason she cant stay at your place instead of him staying with her.
Think before you say I do because they will be your in laws for life, and if he isnt man enough to be YOUR man then he will be their little boy for life EVEN AFTER the honeymoon, that will NOT change him.You could go over to the future in laws house to be with him.
2007-11-23 10:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hell no i know u didnt if they feel like that they need to come and stay with her and if they dont live close they need to let her stay with them or she needs to get married herself. they r crazy. what's up with people now days.
2007-11-23 11:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both adults and they need to stand up to their parents.
2007-11-23 10:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋