i was in a fight with my mom and i started crying on the stairway. She keept on saying come on christina lets watch the movie! I just keep on crying. She finaly came over and said,"What is wrong would you please tell me?" in a strict voice. I said well sometimed i have weird feelings that you dont love or care for me. i say this because if she really loved or cared for me she would be more understanding, she would come over and say whats wrong and try to make me feel better but no.She just said your wrong and im sorry you feel this way and hurt.she left. i went down the stairs to get a tissue and fell down the stairs preety hard. my mom came over and helped me to the couch. I clamed down and asked for a tissue i was hurting inside and out iwent over to her and said i need a hug.By then i was calm. She pushed me off her and said stop. I just couldent believe it. Im only 12
2007-11-23 15:18:30 · 7 answers · asked by Tara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie, your mom loves you. She is probably just tired. 12-14 is a difficult age for both you and her. You will have more of these spats as you develop into a young adult. It's normal. All of us have gone through it with our own mothers. I hope you feel better and I'm sorry that you fell down. Good night.
2007-11-23 16:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by pikachild2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom has mental issues. I'm being serious. Just as you said, you're 12. Even if you're an adult, why would a mother push her child away when the child is asking for affection? It's because there's something mentally wrong with her. Stay strong. Your mom will more than likely not change. Talk to a school counselor or your friends when you feel bad. I'm sure she loves you, she just needs help. :)
To the other respondents who think that it's okay for her mom to push her away because she needs her space, I hope that you don't have kids. You shouldn't treat kids that way. That's just wrong. Your kids come first. By pushing the child away so that you could have your space, you are putting yourself first and hurting the child in the process.
2007-11-23 15:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by mrs corinthos 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if your mom doesn't know how to make you feel better, it doesn't mean she doesn't love you. The way you describe her, I think she wants to help but has no idea what to do, and finally she gets frustrated. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you.
I think you love your mom, but I bet that she doesn't feel it right now. But she is older and has been 12 herself, so she probably realizes that there is love inside you but you don't know how to express it.
This is a hard time for a lot of adolescents. You are having feelings you didn't used to have. You are growing up. The things that helped you as a child don't always work now. You have to find new ways to feel better.
I've been 12 and I've had a 12 year old daughter, so I know both sides. It's hard, but you can get through it.
2007-11-23 15:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like my mom doesn't understand me ... but she hugs me when I am down. and I am 10
2015-04-28 14:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry your mom is acting this way. what i think is that your mom has issues of her own that she hasn't dealt with and that prevent her from showing love for you. here's the thing, she does love you, but because she is so broken, she is has difficulty showing it or it comes across as not caring. i know this, because when i was your age, my mom was the same way. thank God my mom is changing and dealing with her issues and our relationship is better than it has ever been. i have prayer for my mom for many years because i wanted to have a good relationship with her. so what i suggest is that if you believe in God, that you pray for your mom and in time i believe you will see results like i have seen.
2007-11-23 15:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, im pretty sure she loves you. =) If she didnt she wouldnt bother helping you to the couch. And becuase she pushed u off when u asked for a hug, maybe she has a problem and its really bugging her and at the moment she feels really irritated and doesnt want to be bothered. my mom does that alot.
2007-11-23 15:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by Caitlin ಠ_ಠ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sound like she loves you. She did ask you what was wrong. It's just that adults need space just as much as kids do. Don't worry.
2007-11-23 15:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by deeptruth246 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋