hes been helping her parents work on their house..and so they started going out..and her parents seem oblivious...and they just dont even seem to care. my niece is also mad at me for trying to talk to her about how she is acting. how can i possibly fix this situation. she doesnt realize shes to young for this kind of relationship.
2007-11-23 14:35:07 · 42 answers · asked by babydol702002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im the aunt and yeah its my duty to put a stop to it..i called her mom and her mom went crazy on me telling me to not worry about her kids! i plan on contacting the cops monday if calling her mom didnt work.
2007-11-23 14:54:12 · update #1
Have him arrested.
2007-11-23 14:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by bbcranks 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
First you need to inform those parents. Asking how you can put a stop to it, is the most idiotic thing ever. You are the authority, it is your job as an adult to take care of children. Obviously you care a lot but she is a minor and does not know what is good for her, it seems as if this little girl is running the house and being allowed to do anything she wants. Why is this 18 year old man preying on such a little girl? He's a pedophile and that is disgusting. Put your foot down and make this your business since you say the parents are oblivious. Which is another shocker that parents would pay such little care/attention to their child.
There is no negotiations in this area. Your niece is stubborn right now and nothing you say will convince her that this relationship is not good for her, she will continue to believe that it is right. Its your way or no way. Do NOT let her do what she wants! she's 12 years old! Don't even make it seem like you care that she's mad, you lay down the rules or the law if you have to. If that was my neice i'd do everything humanly possible to keep her in the house, even if i had to keep an eye on her to stop her from leaving the house.
2007-11-23 14:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since neither she nor the parents will see sense, try talking to the guy. Ask him whether he's ever heard of statutory rape. The parents could also be considered negligent for refusing to intervene on their daughter's behalf, and don't be afraid to point that out to them.
You are in the right, so don't feel that you are butting in unduly. If she were even 16, she might be mature enough to date a guy six years older; but there is just no way that a 12 year old should be dating an 18 year old. The gulf in every way is too extreme. He is either wierd, an idiot, or both.
2007-11-23 14:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by lighght30 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you truly want to put a stop to the situation, and personally I think you are correct in your thinking, call the police. He is an adult and she is not. They can provide a restraining order. They will most likely talk to him and "scare" him into understanding how much time he can face in prison. That usually does it. I would just make the phone call to your local CYS (children and youth services) and if you get no satisfaction there, call the non-emergency number for the police in your area and discuss the problem with them.
You're doing the right thing. With CYS you don't have to give your name. With the police they are usually understanding enough to not give your name either. They can catch the two of them together and make sure he understands the ramifications if someone wants to press charges! All you're doing is sending a message very loud and clear!
2007-11-23 14:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, try and find out if the guy has a history of being a creep. If you can find something about him you might be able to use it when talking to her parents and get them to do something.
Second, try talking to the guy himself if you can and let him know what kinds of problems he's causing. If he isn't actually serious about the relationship then perhaps you'll be able to get him to stop. Also this might help you with step number one and he might say something creepy that you could tell her parents to get them to intervene.
Third, try and get through to her through her friends if you can. When I was 15 there was a girl my own age who had a guy who was like 21 or something, and pretty much our group of friends would sort of subtly make fun of her, which I think eventually caused the mock-relationship to fall apart. But certainly make sure that her friends know about it, for one.
And remember to always be talking to her directly about it, letting her know what you think and keep at her how she is acting. She may get angry at you, but in the end she will know that you were only doing it out of concern for her and for the best.
2007-11-23 14:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her parents they need to do something asap. If the parents don't do anything, I'd contact the police. She's a minor and if her parents aren't going to look out for her and you're aware of what's going on, the responsibility is yours IMO. She's just a kid and if he's messing around with her, that's sick and very illegal. Your neice will hate you now, but she'll get over it.
2007-11-23 14:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by siava101 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your niece needs to understand the possible dangers of doing this. Do you know if shes sleeping with him? If so remind her of STD's. It isn't illegal for them to date as long as the parents don't mind otherwise he could be in trouble. The parents are the ones you need to work on. Don't give up! I am a teenage girl myself and i think she needs to realize that she has all of her teenage life ahead of her to date. she doesnt need to be seeing someone that could possibly seriously hurt her.
2007-11-23 14:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jordan S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1.call the cops
2.tell the mother to simmer down and look at life diffrently
3.talk to your niece about what shes into
4.if this guy is a pedafile kick his a**
5.if this guy is nice let them be and see how it goes
2007-11-23 15:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You betta be like madea from ,'' diary of a mad black woman'' and call the POPO. Aint nobody scared of an 12 year old nor her parents.you care about her right so you betta call and say...
'' Hello dis da popo?... I got a 12 old bad a** niece who cant seem to get her act together, and her 18 year old rapist who cant seem to get his hands off her. Also I have 2 unruling parents who doesnt seem to care about her, but once she gets pregnant they wanna b*t*h complain. Please help before this turns out to be a h*** hole tragedy. Thanks... : )
Good luck!!!
2007-11-23 15:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sick and illegal if they are doing anything. Call the Police. A 12 year old girl with a 18 year old boy is disgusting, kinda illegal and she could get hurt physically. He is probably really dangerous. Your the only person who can stop it.
Or you know... you could just shoot him.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 14:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Crazy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well umm 6 years of difference is not that much but for her age wow seryusly call 911 lol ok that was a joke but alright try to make her meet with people her age and just always have talks with her about having a BF at that age because no1 at that age ever ends up with the person they talk to she'z just gonna ruin her life because how stupid is the guy its like h is taking advantage of her cuz shez younger and like shell listen to him just cuz his older and she might think that sence his older then he knows everything just try talkign to her become more friendly with her den u already r but by just telling her to stop talkign to him shez gonna egnore u more and not gonna wanna talk to u because kids at that age always think that dey are right nomatter what and later when they regret not listening to u then it'll be too late GOOD LUCK and its very nice of u to care abotu ur neece this much well i would like to say dat u prolly care more den her own parents good luck once again
2007-11-23 14:44:33 · answer #11 · answered by AngelWithHorns: ] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋