Ok yesturday my dad tells me that he has a 4 1/2 year old kid with this home wreacker crack whore ****. He lied to me for 4 years how mad would you be!!!
2007-11-23 11:10:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he did this while my parents where still married
2007-11-23 11:16:41 · update #1
stomp into my room and slam the door...i wouldnt say a word...i would give him the "im mad at you" look
2007-11-23 11:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
He actually told you the child's mother is a crack whore? That's sad.
I can see how you would be mad at your father, but why the anger and hatred towards her? Did she even know about your fathers family? I'm guessing that he's married to your mother, but he's the one who betrayed your mom, not her. The 4 year old is your sibling, and I hope you don't hold your dad's mistakes against the child.
I can see why you would be angry, but anger won't really help the situation. And name calling will simply make it worse.
2007-11-23 19:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset and sad that he not confided in me before.
However, you using garbage language, shows that you have a problem yourself.
You can be upset, sad, and many other things, but to insult with the crude words you use, puts the onus on you.
Unless you change your whole attitude, you will receive more than just this surprise. Your whole life will be negative and troubling. Try being more mature and more positive and deal with your Dad in a better way than you are doing now.
You have a 4 1/2 half brother. You could be a good influence in his life. Don;t forget this is an Innocent child that didn't do a thing to you. So don't go around calling him names as well as your father.
Look to yourself first before you hurt yourself for life. You cannot have a happy life ahead of you, with the anger, hate and foil language that you use.
2007-11-23 20:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your Dad is a grown man and he is probably feeling guilty enough about this already. IDK. How old are you that this info bothers you so much? Never mind about your age...you must be young though...like, never made any mistakes of your own...at least not any mistakes that you are truly embarrased about.
EVERYBODY makes mistakes in their lives...some people just get caught and some don't. Kind of like criminals...some get away with it and some don't.
I say try to forgive your Dad...anger will just eat you up inside, and make you a bitter person...I think that you want to be better than that.
Sooner or later in life you will mess up too, if you haven't already...And Forgiveness is Devine.
2007-11-23 20:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shouldn't be mad. Just think there is a 4 year old sibling out there that may need your support, love and generosity.
Please don't take this out on the 4 year old. GOOD LUCK
2007-11-23 19:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by C D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is being honest with you. He has come clean with a mistake that he had made those 4 years ago. He felt that you were mature enough to handle it now, which is why he told you because one day, you would find out anyway, since the kid is your half-sister.Try not to be too hard on him.
2007-11-23 19:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by randmthots 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would be mad, however, it is his life! Accept it and try to get along with the little girl. She is innocent, she didn't ask to be born.
If her mother was a crack-whore, she may need you. Be bettr than the both of them and show how mature you really can be.
2007-11-23 19:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by karenpghblue 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is lying. It's called lying by omission and this isn't a little white lie - it's a biggie. Do you have a mother or grandmother or any other close relative around? If so, talk to them about it and see how they handled the news. Ask their advice. I can see why you would be so mad. Give yourself some time. Your reaction is normal. His behavior isn't.
2007-11-23 19:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Beckers 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is his problem... he will probably be paying child support, and will probably continue having drama. This is how he has chosen to live his life.
Move on. Get through school, get a job and bank your money, and move out as soon as possible. Distance yourself from the drama. Build your own life.
2007-11-23 19:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my dad lied to my mom and i. for 4 years he been dating another woman! He didn't tell us but eventually my mom found out and broke up with him. now the worst part...the girl my dad been dating came to live with us! They are married already and they didn't even tell us! I found out cuz i was looking through his pics in his camera...i saw a the girl living in our house and my dad getting married and signing forms!!!
2007-11-23 19:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by Hanon Hosho 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well first off your dad had some bad timing to tell you on Thanksgiving, but then again he should have told you over 4 years ago....not sure what type of relationship you have with your dad or how old you are......sometimes adults make complicated decisions OR sometimes adults are just ignorant....
2007-11-23 19:18:27 · answer #11 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋