Please help! My dad's drinking again?! :(?

Question

My dad's been sober a month. He was sober for 4 years before this year because my grandpa died the day after my older half brother's 12th death anniversary who died of leukemia at 28. My dad kept on drinking after my grandpa died even though it was my maternal grandpa he was close to him but my paternal grandpa's still alive. And if my dad ask my mom to pick up a 12pack of Michelob, she doesit. My mom's never drank but a half of bottle of beer and a few glasses of wine in her life. She hasn't drank in 25 years. She buys it because my dad gets mad if she doesn't. My dad drinks up to 5-6 beers a nite sometimes just 2-4. It aggrivates me cuz if I ask him not to, he says, " Why don't we just perfect the world to your liking." In a snobby mean way. It makes me hurt because he's a great man and he's Christian and he just drinks sometimes. Now he's drinking a coke. But sometimes he'll get drunk and act crazy and wierd. Please help!!! Thanks?!><>

Oh yeah, I'm 12 and he's not violent
thankfully he only drank 1 and now he's drinking a coke.

My mom only buys it because he gets soooo mad. One time he kicked me and my mom out of the house and when he did that for me crying at my own grandpa's funeral he made a nasty joke in front of all my cousins after the funeral at my grandma's house for a celebration of life. He said, you guys (my mom and I) don't ever have to come back. I'll just become a drunk and go to an AA meeting. I thought it was really mean he forgave me and my mom which she didn't do a thing it was mostly me if you're going to blame anyone and 2 night s3 days at my grandma did me good

when he kicked me out he said that he was going to take away all my clothes in my closet but he didnt

I don't think he's an alcoholic cuz when he's not drunk, it's the other side of him, the Christian side, the side that gave money and time to se sick kids that needed help. The side that shows love and cares about his family.

Answer 1

He's a christian but gets drunk?
Drunkards will NOT inherit the kingdom of heaven you cannot be a Christian AND a drunk he needs to choose one or the other.
GOD can deliver him but it takes more than just "believe" and you have it all.
Read John 3:1-5 and Acts 2:38 and all of chaoter 8 of Acts.You will see what is missing.If you have any questions just e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 2

My father was an alchoholic and he was abusive he beat my mom brother and i and even punched my 2month old sister in the face even though our fathers an be great people alchohal if they cant handle it can change a person in unexplainable ways try reminding your dad of all the fun things you did when he was sober and how much better things are when he's not drunk compared to when he is alcholism is a disease and people can get addict to liqour quickly just stay strong because this is a personal battle which he'll have to overcome

Answer 3

There is only one solution; you need to get him to go to an AA meeting. My brother got scared after a serious blackout and joined and has now been sober over twenty years. This may prove difficult since your dad is such a mule, but try anyway. And you need to go to an Al Anon meeting so you get a better understanding of how alcohol affects alcoholics.
Your mom is a classic enabler by buying him his alcohol she approves of and validates his alcoholism, which, of course, will prove very bad for your dad one day.
Just an FYI; alcoholics will use any excuse to start drinking again; without AA it is hopeless. My step father lost his 19 year old daughter and he never started drinking again.

Answer 4

You don't mention your age.
This could be a phase for your father, while he is working through his grief. He may straighten up a little later on. Consider this as being between your two parents.

My suggestion would be to do what you can to move on with your own life. When you know he is drinking, stay out of sight and keep a low profile... don't be a target. Use any legitimate excuse to be out of the house... part-time job, studying with friends, library, school clubs. Just work on developing yourself.

Answer 5

Violence can result to being Drunk but talk to your mom and maybe get him into a program at church if his drinking is outta hand

Answer 6

hi
well ur dad needs some help and he needs it soon ,,have you spoke to him about it and does he scare you when he gets all crazy and that if so tell him when de don't drink and let him know that it is strating to get out of hand and you want him to see a doctor

Answer 7

weird by how??