Family - November 2007

Okay,my family and I started going back to church when my grandmother passed away and most of our family goes there.Okay,theres this girl ,shes my cousin by marriage and she wa smean to me and did alot of mean things(shes 3 years older than me at the time she was 13 and i was 10)and i asked my mom and dadd and they said she was jealous and which she was because everyone liked her and then i came along and they like me,they say im sweet and alot of other things.And now shes 16 and she goes to a boarding school and she came back today and at chior rehearsal she kept lokoing at me rolling her eyes,bumping into me and not saying excuse me etc.Can someone tell me houw i should deal with this and why is she STILL acting this way?

2007-11-24 07:41:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-24 07:37:56 · 38 answers · asked by Gabby 1

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little bit over a yr ( we are almost 18) My mother and father have been to his house a few times to hang out have tea with his parents and what not. Every time we have asked them to come to our house for lunch/dinner or just to simply come over they have made all kinds of excuses with us. I find it as a big insult. His parents are Indian and mine aren't they're Mixed. My father being Italian and Puerto Rican and my mother being from Trinidad and France. (just a little detail that may help answer this) Obviously there's a difference in culture and food. My parents love Indian food so when they eat at his house it's not a problem... they make excuses(b/fs parents) such as oh we're busy or too tired... Yet they have new neighbors down stairs from them that haven't been there a yr and they go to their house to eat all the time. What is their problem that they can't come eat or just come by us? Are they too good or are they being racist??? >.<

2007-11-24 07:24:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm Dan and I am 17 years old. I have had a great relationship with my parents for 17 years and have had virtually no fights, I never screamed "I wish I was dead" or "I hate you". My parents have always bragged that we've had no problems. Lately however it seems to be all unraveling. Things around my house seem to be very strained my Dad hates his job my mom is being irrational and yells alot. We have huge fights with my family and have quite a few problems there my grandmother is mentally unstable and an alcholoic . I am having trouble getting along with my parents latley I am homeschooled and I am going to college in january. My mom feels like she got robbed of school time I feel like she holding me back. I dont have any true friends and no girlfriend so I feel lonley a lot of the time.I want to get out and go to college now. I have taken my GED and my parents support me to a degree but I still feel imprisoned I play videogames and read to pass idle time but I feel imprisioned. Help

2007-11-24 06:50:35 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well last night I confronted my Dad about his girlfriend. The main thing I brought up was that she was a gold digger, He kept repeatably buying stuff that he did not need. On the other hand, she is 23, married and dating my Dad who is 52.

"I need to have two men in my life to keep me happy", this is what she said exactly. So I had to ask what if something happens between you and your husband, would you still be with my Dad, while seeking out another man?

Recently my dad has told me that he's most likely going to go back to his old ways of being sad, lonely and a social outcast because he believes that he has no friends. I for one would love to hang out with him, and if he just put himself out there he would have more friends.

I don't know if what I am doing is immoral, I would just like to stop being depressed about the whole situation and to be happy with my dad again.

Could anyone help me out, I don't know what else to turn to.

2007-11-24 06:49:08 · 3 answers · asked by customtppmnn 1

hi am naveena from a upper middle level family living insouthindia.Am studying B.Sc.My problem:That is regarding my Mom. she is working in a private hospital as a Head NURSE.I suspect she is filtering nowadays.The reasons is because she wear lowhip saree in office and home.My dad also likes it(I have seen dads hand on her) he is working in a star hotel as a managermorning shift and me too like her dressing because It gives her good look and she feels confident but 1)When I went to pick her from the hospital after finishing her nightshift, she told me to wait in reception for 15 min and went to a doctors room. it took beyond 15 min and i gave a alert to her mobile and she came and i noticed some puncture, its of nail spots and some blood spots(in and around her navel).I asked her and she told its because of allergy, and when my dad asked she told its some insect bite, she bluffed.Also at night i noticed she applying burn balm in that area.Is my doubt right.and how can i make her correct

2007-11-24 06:37:08 · 5 answers · asked by First Namenaveena N 1

My younger brother told me that his internet wasn't working.
He said he accidentally deleted his 'wireless connecting program' thing.

I had things to do, but I decided to help him. During an hour or so of struggling, I cursed out alot. And after an hour, I gave up, and I said "I did what I could, and it's your fault."

Was I being mean?

2007-11-24 06:00:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

We used to crush on each other when we were KIDS, but that was a long, long time ago. Now, a few years later, she hears from some friends of hers that I already have a girlfriend. I said yes, and she JOKINGLY said that SHE was jealous!

2007-11-24 05:55:49 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lately my dad hasn't been letting me go ANYWHERE!!
He usually always lets me go to my best friend's house. But for the past 2 weeks, he hasn't let me go out at all! (Unless I'm with an adult.) Oh, and Im 13 by the way. I haven't done anything wrong so I'm not being punished. I don't get it. When I ask my mom, she says "No your dad told me not to let you go out anymore" it's getting soo annoying! whats wrong with him? If i call him to ask him if i can go, he hangs up on me or yells at me. he isnt the kinda person who u can talk to. he's the annoying, stubborn, waayyyyyyyyyyy overprotective, always in a bad mood type of dad. this sux cause today was my friends birthday =[
im so mad! its saturday and i cant go ANYWHERE! people r gunna think i have noo life

2007-11-24 05:36:12 · 7 answers · asked by xxsmile4me 1

she is smoking and if i tell my mom she;ll never trust me again. she is 14. what am i suppose to do?

2007-11-24 05:35:07 · 74 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-24 05:17:24 · 25 answers · asked by bagman7 2

My fiance doesn't seem to have ever really loved me. He seems to be okay and happy about moving back home to his parents. He doesn't seem to be in any pain because of our breakup. We got engaged last Christmas and now I'm going to be alone.I was a good woman. I cooked, cleaned and loved him with all my heart. I treated his son like my own, built a good bond with him.Although I felt he was totally spoiled. I wish I could take the pain that I'm feeling away. This was my first interracial relationship he's white,I'm black. His son is biracial.
I thought this was going to be the one.. I just can't stop crying...I'm afraid of being lonely again with my daughter..no hope for a family of my own...I feel so sad for us.

2007-11-24 05:10:49 · 30 answers · asked by Misslady 1

My husbands family did not even bother to invite us over for Thanksgiving this year, nor Easter. Now granted we did have a falling out with his step mothers children, and stated we will not attend any holiday when they are present. However they did not even bother to invite us. And to top it all off, we have a one year old, and they haven't seen her in nearly two months. They never invite us over, and when we invite them they make excuses. When we try to swing by they make excuses. As a result, my daughter is afraid of her Grandfather when she actually sees him. And I every day am starting to dislike the step part of the family more and more. Because I feel they are creating this wedge. What should we do? I so badly want to confront them about this, and let them know how terrible (atleast the biologcal grand dad) is for not even knowing his own grand daughter that lives maybe 20 mins away.

2007-11-24 04:57:49 · 12 answers · asked by Lolli 2

MY mother-in-law to be..'the pepperami' (on account of her being old , skinny and bad-tempered) is coming for Christmas dinner...
She refuses to each anything I prepare - even when I forward a menu for approval - and will basically spend the five hours looking for an opportunity to ***** me.

I adore my partner's father, who makes every effort to have a good time, but I am facing (for the 5th time) a miserable Christmas dinner thay I'm going to be sweating blood over.

How can I best handle this so there is the minimum of upset? - everyone is aware of her behaviour and she's already made it clear that she doesn't want to come this year even though her husband has accepted...
I love my fiance dearly and want to make every effort for him...what would you do?

2007-11-24 04:53:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have no clue what to uy m dad for christmas what should i get him?

2007-11-24 04:48:13 · 14 answers · asked by Chantel C 2

I really want to be in ballet all if been asking my parents if i can be in it.My mom says that I should ask my dad.But my dad just won't let me because sometimes I just don't like to spend time with him.So shoukd I keep asking him!!!!

2007-11-24 04:35:31 · 2 answers · asked by Water Girl!!! 2

I have a problem with keeping my mouth shut when my dad, uncle, mom, etc. say and do rediculous things. Dad and I have gotten into many confrontations over my insolent tone of voice.

I'm 34, and I've concluded that it is not possible for me to refrain from remarking in opposition to an elder relation. I've tried very hard to let things pass, but it's against my nature to watch wrong things happen before my eyes! I become moved to intervene out of desire to help. It's always met with anger, however.

In every other way, I am very respectful and go out of my way to show love and support to friends and family.
Any tips on restraint?

2007-11-24 04:12:49 · 11 answers · asked by urbanavatar 1

I told my mom i was going to save my money this year and buy the new iPod Touch because I love the new feautres. She said "No, I'm not letting you go on the internet all over the house"

Does she not trust me? She also won't let me have a cell phone

2007-11-24 03:57:48 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom got me an ipod touch (16gb) and she said i have to open it when it's christmas. i SERIOUSLY DO NOT want to wait that long, knowing that there's an ipod touch in my house that's ready to go wherever and whatever i want it to do. any suggestions on convincing her to give it to me now??? she says she wants to see good grades and clean room..

2007-11-24 03:15:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everytime I get some cash my mom takes it from me and spends it. In order to spend my birthday money I had to give it all to my grandma to hold! I'm really getting upset by this because I have earned my own money by babysitting and for holidays, what do I do?

2007-11-24 02:07:17 · 25 answers · asked by deathbyshelby 1

My dad is 74, i'm a 31 yr old female. We were never really close and have always had these super shallow conversations when we do talk. He's a military man and ex cop, not the kind you talk about emotions with. I've never seen him display any emotion over the years other than his default expression (which is stern) or anger.
I used to get all tangled up about not being closer to him. Now that we're both getting older though, i've come to accept our distant relationship. I know he loves me in his own way, just as I love him.
So, my question is, do you think it's ok to have just sort of 'given up' to the idea that this relationship is all we can have, or do I need to keep fighting for something closer?

2007-11-24 02:02:24 · 11 answers · asked by Eraserhead 6

So my mother-in-law goes from telling me I'm an angel to telling me all her family's problems are my fault.
I am chronically ill and have been out of work for almost 2 years, she rubs this into my face every chance she can get (Even though before I got ill I was working almost 80 hours a week). She will actually trap me into a conversation so she can verbally lash out at me. (And it's worse when she's drinking) I have NEVER said ANYTHING mean or even remotely unkind. All I've done is help her. My husband and I decided that we don't want to be around her when she's like that and especially now because we don't want our 4 month old togrow up around such negitivity. So my hubby made me a deal, we'd visit, but as soon as she starts in, we'll leave. but yesterday he took that back: see his dad asked if we'd come over to help him move and my husband said yes, then he tells me he's not going to leave his dad hanging and if his mom acts up he won't leave with me. is this fair?

2007-11-24 00:57:13 · 10 answers · asked by reptileandee 3

2007-11-24 00:33:24 · 15 answers · asked by Barbara M 1

My antie as a daughter and on new years day my antie rang her to say happy new year and she said do you mine I was watching EastEnders. and my antie said sorry. was she rong for being rud on the phone? and was my antie daft for saying sorry?

2007-11-23 23:36:33 · 4 answers · asked by Phillip K 1

My perents took me and my brother to a caravan and my brother is always bad. my dad asked me a question that I did not no like the capital of mexico and because I did not no it he said You stay in the caravan all day and they took my brother out and he was bad all day.They said when they come home how he was naughty all day but they gave him sweets and ice cream to shut him up. Is that bad?

2007-11-23 23:24:13 · 2 answers · asked by Phillip K 1

my brother has bipoloar he is not properly diagnosed long story but i hav no dbout that the problem. i ahv lived with this violent time bomb for the first 15 years of my life and it was hell som times. i wont go into detail i am now 24 so havent had to live with him 4 abot 10 years. he is getting worse. the piolitical party he voted for didnt get in and as a result i get out of the blue threats and abuse from him. somthing didnt go right and i am the instant target of his anger. i love my brother but i cant do this any more i just want to turn my back on him. i have a son and abay on the way and he is to the point now thati fear for my familys safety wen he snaps. i will break my heart to turn my back but i hav no choice.
dont say talk to him help him get him help we hav been going through this 4 years and yes we hav tried it all im just looking 4 som understanding and reasureance on the matter

2007-11-23 22:53:10 · 5 answers · asked by joeyjo123 3

Every time they call to my house or i call to their house there is always something that sticks in my mind and its the way my sister in law treats the kids and my brother doesnt say anything! they are both in their mid 30s and have been together 3 years, they have a 2 year old girl, and she has 2 girls, 11 and 8, from a previous relationship..
she treats the oldest ok, and its like the youngest is the centre of their universe but the 8 year old is not shown any ove, just contempt! it sickens me! if she tries to speak, she is told to shut up, that no-one wants to know, and if she says she is hungry her mother says 'what do u want me to do about it?', very viscously! i was their last night and he child was being quiet , went to tell me a story abt school, and was told to go to her room by her mam cos she was annoying her!!! the toddler is always being told that this child is bold and not her friend, but that the oldest is her friend! the 8 yr old often says that no one likes her and...

2007-11-23 21:23:45 · 18 answers · asked by purplegal 3

Hi there,
Any advice on the following conundrum would be greatly appreciated :)

My twin brother and I seem to be "at war" with our parents almost every day. Our parents seem to believe that we do not help out enough in comparison to the privileges we recieve ( laptops, xbox 360, tvs, math tutoring, cars,horses and tennis etc) . I'm not trying to portray myself as the patron saint, I know I'm not perfect. I can be very argumentative and sarcastic, and I have often been labeled a smart alec. The problem I seem to be having is that I am begining to feel extremely angry and I am displaying this to my parents in a way I wish I could prevent. However, they refuse to let me walk away when I feel this anger build. They are now threatning to take away every privilege my brother and I recieve, they say that if my attitude does not improve soon they will send me to bording school overseas (probably The Netherlands)! I don't know what to do anymore, they won't take me seriously. Any advice?

2007-11-23 20:43:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-23 20:24:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

when my sister arrived in new delhi, my cousin called us, then he talked to me, then he gave the phone to my sister for us to talk, then when my mom came on the phone, my cousin talked to my mom for 2 minutes, then he talked to me..is it rude that my sister didnt talk to my mom when my cousin called, nor did he talk to my mom about my sister..

2007-11-23 17:10:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous