Okay,my family and I started going back to church when my grandmother passed away and most of our family goes there.Okay,theres this girl ,shes my cousin by marriage and she wa smean to me and did alot of mean things(shes 3 years older than me at the time she was 13 and i was 10)and i asked my mom and dadd and they said she was jealous and which she was because everyone liked her and then i came along and they like me,they say im sweet and alot of other things.And now shes 16 and she goes to a boarding school and she came back today and at chior rehearsal she kept lokoing at me rolling her eyes,bumping into me and not saying excuse me etc.Can someone tell me houw i should deal with this and why is she STILL acting this way?
2007-11-24 07:41:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately, there is no golden rule or guarantee that we will like and enjoy EVERY member of our family. If she is harboring past resentments toward you, and takes every opportunity to express those, then you will have to decide how much you are going to let her "get the best of you". I would assume that she tends to have this selfish and mean-spirited attitude with others at times and for different reasons, so try not to take it too personally. If you don't have to have alot of contact with her on a regular basis, then it will be easier to just ignore her behavior, but if not, and you truly care about what she thinks of you, then you may have to confront her about this.
Whenever I run into a situation with a family member who I don't see eye to eye with, OR even a perfect stranger who is acting rudely and not nice, I simply smile and somewhat sarcastically ask them, "Are you having a BAD day?" Usually they don't even know what to say back, but it lets them know that they need to check their behavior. lol If they do happen to respond back with a "NO", then I say, "Well, something is putting you in a bad mood". Just turn it around on them, and don't let their negativity affect you.
2007-11-24 08:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is jealous that you are with your family and she doesn't get to be. Just deal with it for a little while and try talking to her, she may feel like you are a threat to her attention in the family and that you are taking her place in the family. Just sit her down and talk to her. You may have more in common then you thought.
2007-11-24 15:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you to react - don't. The less attention you give her the less power she has over you. Try to keep away from her as much as you can. If she is trying yo hurt you inform your parents right away. The girl sounds like a nut. Good luck!!
2007-11-24 16:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she has not improved at all over the time. She is trying to provoke you to some quarrels. You should not fall in her trap.It will be wise for you to ignore her. Do not lower your standard of thinking to her level. If she persists in her attempt, keep your elders well informed of her designs.
2007-11-25 05:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably still haven't gotta over what happened a while ago, and is still jealous of you. what i would do is invite her somewhere and you guys talk, and see what happens from there. or you tell people to give her the attention unless that's a big thing too you.
2007-11-24 15:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Shy Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just that way, poor thing...AVOID her at all costs!
2007-11-24 15:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by gmoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋